The words we choose to use can reveal a lot about our self-esteem.
Self-esteem is an essential aspect of our emotional and mental well-being. It is what gives us the confidence to pursue our dreams, handle life’s challenges, and form healthy relationships with others.
Unfortunately, low self-esteem is a common issue that affects many people, and it can have a significant impact on the way we communicate with others.
Our words reflect our thoughts and emotions, and they can serve as a powerful indicator of our self-esteem levels.
Low Self-Esteem is An Obstacle
People with low self-esteem and low self-worth tend to speak negatively about themselves, using words like:
“I can’t”,
“I’m not good enough”,
“I don’t deserve it”.
This type of negative self-talk is not only damaging to our self-esteem but can also hold us back from achieving our goals.
They may even bring others into it by making their issue of low self-worth seem to be one that an entire group of people shares.
Ex:
“Women are not logical thinkers.”
“Women are not smart people.”
“Women can’t be trusted with all that power.”
“Women are just nastier and meaner people.”
“Men are just smarter.”
“Men are just better leaders.”
They may even add various races, religions, regional, or other identifiers that they may even be a part of. And not just as a joke or an off-handed quip. But as a creed that they live and breathe by.
Ex:
“Black women are like males and should therefore lend a hand to males fighting to compete as women on sports teams.”
“White women denied Black women womanhood so Black women should absolutely be on the front lines of redefining womanhood to include anyone who wants to be a woman.”
“Us blondes aren’t that smart anyways.”
“If you’re a blonde you don’t have to be smart.”
And like clockwork, there will be women who suffer from the same low self-beliefs to applaud. Along with males who are shopping for women with these types of beliefs because they are easier to dominate and mistreat.
On the other hand, people with high self-esteem tend to use more positive language.
They believe in themselves and their abilities, using phrases like:
“I can do this”
“I am worthy”
“I am capable”
People with high self-esteem tend to speak a different language to themselves and about themselves when talking with others.
Such people may also irritate people with low self-esteem who just can’t seem to figure them out.
Imagine, here you are suffering from chronic low self-worth and someone just like you is walking around with genuine and authentic confidence and high self-esteem.
The nerve!
“How dare they?”
“Who do they think they are”?
It just adds salt to the wound.
How We Talk about Others
It’s important to pay attention to the words we use, not only when talking about ourselves but also when talking about others.
People with low self-esteem tend to gossip and criticize others, which can be a way of deflecting attention away from their own insecurities.
They may also use and be fluent in language that belittles others to feel better about themselves.
It is temporarily effective.
In a world where there is such stubborn bias against women and girls, women and girls who speak unkindly about others may get applauded.
They may get
the laughs,
the likes,
the follows,
the subscribers,
the views,
the applause
and the guys.
Especially the guys filled with character problems that they are all too willing to dump on her.
But what that woman may not have is genuine high self-esteem and high self-worth.
There is no quick-fix plastic surgery for that.
You can’t buy it from a bottle.
It becomes a way of life. A healthier way of living.
The only way you live.
You must work your way to it every single day.
You nurture it and develop it every day of your life.
YOUR self-esteem.
The power of our choice of words cannot be overstated.
When we choose positive language and avoid negative self-talk and gossip, we can boost our self-esteem and improve our relationships with others.
Just by using tools like prayer, meditation, exercise, music, books, positive fellowship, and affirmations, we can reprogram our minds to believe in ourselves and our potential.
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