Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance. There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.
There are women who didn’t see.
There are women who were misled, manipulated, used.
But then—
There are women who knew.
Who saw.
Who felt it in their gut.
Who saw her face change when he entered the room.
Who heard the whispers. Who witnessed the fear.
And still—stood by him.
That’s not confusion. That’s complicity.
Sometimes the most dangerous silence isn’t born of naivety.
It’s born of loyalty—to the wrong one.
Let’s say it clearly:
Some women don’t keep secrets because they’re afraid.
They keep secrets because they’ve decided who they believe deserves protection.
And often, it’s not the Survivor.
🧨 “He didn’t mean it.”
🧨 “He’s not like that anymore.”
🧨 “But he’s a good father.”
🧨 “But he said sorry.”
🧨 “We don’t need to destroy his life.”
No one asked you to destroy his life.
But your silence helps him destroy hers.
And the lives of women who come after her.
Being loyal to a lie is never neutral.
It’s a choice. A shelter. A cover. A shadow cast on someone else’s truth.
It says:
“His comfort matters more than her clarity.”
“His future matters more than her healing.”
“What he did isn’t as important as how we look if it gets out.”
But here’s what that loyalty costs:
✨ It costs the truth.
✨ It costs real sisterhood.
✨ It costs justice.
✨ And it costs the safety of every woman watching, learning what not to say, what not to do, who not to be.
Sometimes people aren’t protecting him because he’s innocent.
They’re protecting him because they’re invested in his power.
Because if he falls, everything they built on his image comes crumbling down.
That’s not wisdom. That’s idolatry.
And we’ve lost far too many women, children, families, and communities to the altar of “don’t say anything.”
If you’ve ever been the one holding the secret, you still have a choice.
You can choose silence.
Or you can choose truth.
Even now.
Even late.
Even after years.
Because silence may protect the harmer.
But truth protects the ones he hasn’t hurt yet.
🕊️ To every woman holding the truth in her bones:
Your silence is not safety.
Your silence is not kindness.
Your silence is not neutral.
Truth is the only protection that holds.
