Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend
Like most acts of violence against women,
invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.
It counts on betrayal.
It counts on a hand extended, not in sisterhood, but in sabotage.
It depends on women shaming other women.
“You’re overreacting.”
“You’re just jealous.”
“You’re making a big deal out of nothing.”
- “That never happens.”
“Not all men.”
“You must have misunderstood.”
- “Heal”
It depends on women dismissing other women.
“She’s too sensitive.”
“She’s always playing the victim.”
“She just wants attention.”
- “She is just a (insert magic slur)”
It depends on women mocking the concerns of other women.
With laughter that cuts deeper than any blade.
With jokes that reduce suffering to entertainment.
With gossip that turns trauma into theater.
Male violence against women is not sustained by men alone.
It is kept alive by the women who defend it, excuse it, hide it, dress it up, and deliver it —
from the inside.
These women are not “protecting community.”
They are not “keeping peace.”
They are servicing violence.
They are volunteering as the soft touch that delivers the hard blow.
BUT, they may cloak religious text, movement language, academic language, the words of beloved authors, the words of comedians, and even memes.
Sisterhood without courage is not sisterhood.
It is conscription.
It is complicity.
Every woman who silences another woman, who mocks another woman, who pressures another woman to endure harm —
becomes a bridge that male violence marches across.
The truth is simple:
The world doesn’t get to violate women unless some women are willing to hold the door open.
If you refuse to be that woman —
if you refuse to shame, silence, and dismiss your sisters —
you are already part of the rebellion.
You are already part of the healing.
You are already part of the revolution.
The loyalty we owe each other is sacred.
Not to a man.
Not to a reputation.
Not to comfort.
But to each other’s freedom.
To each other’s safety.
To each other’s dignity.
No more help from the inside.
Not in our name.
Not on our watch.
