from WESurviveAbuse.com No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.
No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.
No one asked the woman staring into nothing, clutching her silence like a shield.
But decisions were made about her.
Rules were agreed upon.
Lines were crossed.
And it all happened without her ever saying yes.
They Didn’t Need Her Consent. They Had Each Other’s Agreement.
Somewhere in unspoken rooms and smug side-eyes, an agreement was forged.
Not by contracts.
Not by signatures.
But by shrugs, smirks, and silence.
A silent coalition of people who said:
“She should’ve spoken up sooner.”
“Boys will be boys.”
“She always was dramatic.”
“He’s a good man.”
- “I stand with him.” (Even though I was not there. I will not be there. And, I do have no idea what he is like in isolation)
“We don’t want to get involved.”
They didn’t wait for truth.
They didn’t ask for her version.
They didn’t even have to know each other.
And yet—they all agreed:
She didn’t matter.
The Real Agreement Was About Power
What they agreed to was never about truth or justice.
It was about preserving comfort, control, and quiet.
They agreed:
That his future mattered more than her recovery.
That reputation mattered more than reparation.
That family image mattered more than her pain.
That silence was safer than standing up.
And in their world, that was enough to move forward.
The harm could continue.
The hurt could deepen.
The cost? Her.
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement.
They’ll tell you she was difficult.
They’ll say she changed.
They’ll complain that she’s angry now, distant now, guarded now.
But what they’ll never admit is this:
They broke the sacred.
And they did it together.
Because harm doesn’t happen alone.
It’s built with allies—quiet ones, respected ones, even “nice” ones.
And it’s cemented in place by people who think silence is neutral.
Survivors, You Are Not the Betrayer
You didn’t agree to this.
You didn’t sign up for the violation.
You didn’t consent to be cast as the problem.
So when you speak—speak boldly.
You are not breaking the peace.
You are breaking the cover.
You are not betraying your people.
You are betraying the lie.
The world may act surprised.
But you and I know:
The agreement was never yours to keep.
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Because silence never protected the innocent—only the powerful.
