from WeSurviveAbuse.com It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools. But the outcome?The same
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.
Different languages. Different continents.
Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?
The same.
Harm.
Covered up.
Excused.
Repeated.
Abusers—whether cloaked in priestly robes, business suits, military uniforms, or everyday charm—have found ways to say yes to harm while the rest of us are still learning how to say no.
They didn’t always use the same methods, but they shared the same mission:
Protect power. Exploit vulnerability. Silence the truth.
From Castles to Courtrooms, the Pattern Stays the Same
In Ancient Rome, enslaved women had no rights over their bodies.
In 19th-century America, Black girls and women were violated with impunity.
In Victorian England, women were institutionalized for “hysteria” when they fought back.
In the 1950s, battered housewives were told to “try harder to please him.”
In the 1990s, Black schoolgirls were labeled “fast” instead of protected.
Today, girls are groomed in group chats while adults scroll past the warning signs.
No memo needed.
No mass training.
Yet, across centuries and systems, abusers said yes to the same thing:
“I have the right to harm you and walk away clean.”
The Playbook: Universal and Unholy
They didn’t write this down—but they all knew it.
Step 1: Deny.
Step 2: Discredit.
Step 3: Destroy the victim’s credibility.
Step 4: Remind everyone how “good” or “valuable” the abuser is.
Step 5: Tell the Survivor to forgive, forget, and move on—for everyone’s sake.
And when Survivors don’t comply?
The abuser becomes the victim.
And the Survivor becomes “crazy,” “vindictive,” “confused,” or “difficult.”
Their Yes Is Built on Our Silence
They keep saying yes—because too many still whisper “not my business.”
They keep saying yes—because communities prioritize peace over truth.
They keep saying yes—because every system has a backdoor just for them.
And the longer we stay silent, the more confident they get.
But Survivors Are Saying Something Else Now
Across time and place, Survivors are finding each other.
We’re comparing notes.
We’re naming patterns.
We’re breaking curses.
We are not confused.
We are not crazy.
We are not alone.
And we are not going back to silence.
🌍 Across Time and Place, We Say NO
No more calling harm “love.”
No more sacrificing truth for comfort.
No more rewriting the story to protect reputations.
No more pretending not to see.
Abusers keep saying yes to harm.
We are saying YESSSSSSSSS to Survivors.
To healing.
To justice.
To prevention.
To truth.
WeSurviveAbuse.com
Because the past has repeated itself long enough.
It’s time to write a new ending. Past time.
