I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council members. Mayor.Some of them carried that power with integrity. Some used it to pro
I’ve worked with women in power.
Judges. Prosecutors. City council members. Mayor.
Some of them carried that power with integrity. Some used it to protect.
But others?
They got so close to power, they forgot the very thing that made their rise possible:
The vulnerability of womanhood.
🧱 When Women Align with Power, Not Protection
This isn’t new.
We’ve seen it before:
Women gain status, influence, and access—and instead of using it to protect the most vulnerable among us, they mirror the very systems that have always put us in harm’s way.
It’s disappointing.
Not surprising, but still heartbreaking.
Because the truth is:
You can be a judge in one moment, and a defendant the next.
You can be praised in the press one day, and betrayed by your own community the next.
You can wear the title, sit on the panel, hold the mic—and still, your safety is never guaranteed in a world that undermines women at every turn.
🧭 I’ve Learned to Work Around It
I’ve been in rooms where I could tell a woman wasn’t going to be an ally.
That her comfort in power was more important than the reality we were naming.
And you learn—how to work around it.
Not out of bitterness.
Out of necessity.
Because when you’re fighting to save lives, you don’t have time to beg people to care.
You find the cracks in the system.
You wedge open space for women’s voices.
You get the help, the safety, the healing wherever you can—and you build more of it.
🩷 Let Them Have the Proximity. I Want the Saved Lives.
To those women chasing clout, optics, or temporary power:
Live your dreams, girl.
Take the photo ops.
Sit at the table.
But I’m over here fighting for the girls who never got an invitation to that table.
I’m fighting for:
The girls who want to wake up tomorrow.
The women who are afraid to go home.
The Survivors who’ve been silenced long enough.
The questions no one wants to answer: about safety, health, justice, and truth.
I want all the girls to live their dreams.
Not just a chosen few who know how to behave in front of power.
🗣️ I Want Lives Saved. I Want Questions Answered.
I want truth spoken.
I want concerns raised—without women being labeled angry, bitter, or “divisive.”
I want a world where women aren’t punished for asking:
“Is this safe?”
“Is this fair?”
“Do I matter here?”
We don’t need more figureheads.
We need more women who understand that real power is the kind you use to protect others, not just yourself.
And until then, I’ll keep doing what I’ve always done:
Serving. Lifting. Saving. Speaking.
Because no matter who’s watching, the mission is the same:
Raise the voices. Save the lives.
** Special note: I started off shook by these problems with women who chose to betray other women in favor of remaining adjacent to power. I did not know how to wrap my mind around it. I mean sure women can be very petty with one another in a lot of ways (men too). But this is life and death! I didn’t see us as being willing to throw one another in harms way. I had much to learn.
My mentors, older women, helped me to craft better strategies. And grow the spine that I needed. They were already familiar with the terrain and not the wide-eyed idealistic newbie that I was. I’m so grateful for them. Thankful. Without them I am not this person that I am today.
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Share if you feel safe and ready—your voice might be the lifeline someone else needs.
And if you do share, remember to cite the messenger. Words carry legacy.
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