“She Knew What She Was Doing.” Why Do Adults Say This About Abused Children?
If there were no rapist in the vicinity, the child would not have been raped. There is a phrase that has always bothered me when people use it to talk…
If there were no rapist in the vicinity, the child would not have been raped. There is a phrase that has always bothered me when people use it to talk…
Another book from my personal shelf… Some books stay with you long after you’ve finished reading them. Bastard Out of Carolina (1992) is one of those books. But I want…
The crime was the perpetrator’s choice, not the victim’s failure to behave perfectly. There is something deeply troubling about the way we expect women and girls to behave after sexual…
What happens when a generation of girls is expected to learn alongside boys who are being taught to regard them as lesser human beings? What female teachers are describing deserves…
Melba Wilson wrote about something that Black women had certainly been living but had rarely been given room to discuss publicly: incest and childhood sexual abuse inside Black families. Crossing…
I did not arrive at female boundaries because I assumed every male was dangerous. I arrived there because I knew what society does to women and girls when the dangerous…
“History, despite Its wrenching pain, Cannot be unlived, But if faced with courage, Need not be lived again.” —Maya Angelou “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” was the #3…
updated from January 2026 I’ve served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing…
Well, actually…they’ve been asking for help for awhile. At some point we as a global family can deal with why their cries have gone unheard, including the fact that larger…
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact: Before his murders were discovered, serial killer Ted Bundy volunteered at a suicide crisis hotline in Seattle called the Seattle Crisis Clinic in 1971. The…