HEALING AND RECOVERY
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."— Unknown
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✨ Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self
I am my own unique self—special, creative, and wonderful.No one in the entire universe i [...]
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
On Movement, Girlhood, and the Sacredness of the Female Body
When I was a girl, I loved the physicality of my body.I was a climbe [...]
Listen, followers of my work know that I have been open about getting therapy for abuse since a young age. I've tried to do it from a place that is re [...]
Survivor, you’ve carried so much.
You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour [...]
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In courtroom after courtroom, from high-profile celebrity trials to quietly buried local cases, a deeply disturbing pattern [...]
Subjective Much?
“Looking like a man” is a subjective opinion, not a sacred truth.It reflects your perception, not my reality.
Irrelevant. Entirel [...]
HERSTORY/HISTORY
We need less focus on aesthetics—less chatter about who’s worn braids, who’s styled locs, and who can trace it back to their culture. That c [...]
For centuries, men have claimed the authority to define what a woman is. From religious texts to medical books, from courtrooms to boardroom [...]
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, [...]
Women's rights are not up for elimination.Not now. Not ever.
Our rights are not conditional based on someone else's discomfort.They are not [...]
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This is how you do it!
It was 1984. Vanessa Williams was surrounded on all sides. Some people were angry when she won Ms. America includi [...]
Wise words shared by Louise Elliot on the X platform. When it comes to how we treat other people; we *all* fall short somet [...]
You were never too much.You were never asking for too much.You were never dreaming too loud, loving too hard, feeling too deep.
I know peop [...]
Many believe the 1980s to early 2000s were a time of racial harmony in America, especially within the women's movement to end violence. But [...]
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Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It doesn’t always come with shouting or slamming doors.Sometimes it comes dresse [...]

Violence Breeds More Violence, Not Loyalty: The Chilling Lessons of Celia Washington’s Wedding Tragedy
The story of Celia Washington, who poisoned 17 people at a wedding, is a chilling reminder of what we already know deep down: violence never creates joy, love, or loyalty. Whether under v [...]

Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s political. When you let that pain speak, w [...]

12 Unapologetic Truths: Your Rights as a Woman Are Unconditional (Audio/podcast)
Your rights as a woman are not up for debate.
You don’t need permission, validation, or a committee vote to own your power. In this bold and unfiltered episode of We Surv [...]

The Damage You Can’t See: Confronting Non-Physical Child Abuse
Too many people are sharing news articles all around social media about church leaders, police officers, and teachers violating children then adding..,........ "Not drag queens".Presumabl [...]

FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]

Filmmaker Alison Jayne Wilson: Alika Kinan Exposes Trafficking Recruitment Tactics (video)
January is Human Trafficking Awareness Month From @FilmmakerAlisonJayneWilson (X)In EXIT, Alika Kinan exposes how traffickers and "recruiters" exploit the vulnera [...]

Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be used, violated, discarded. It wasn’t just about water fountains and buses. It was about making it legal and cultural to [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Let Others Know When Their Actions Impact Me (video) #c…
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The Manifestation of Emotional Abuse Can Alter Your Life? – Out Loud With Claudia Jordan
“People think it’s easy to just leave a toxic relationship. But what they don’t see is how it starts. Just like Claudia said (on another show)—it begins with little things. You make s [...]
You Don’t Have to Stay Where You’re Not Safe
Some of us are trying to bloom in gardens that were never planted for us.
We show up with our hands full—bandages, truth-telling, receipts, prayers, statistics, candles, casseroles, cour [...]

Speaking Truth for Girls in a World that Prefers Silence (audio)
Welcome to We Survive Abuse—a powerful, unapologetic space where Survivors’ voices take center stage. Hosted by Tonya GJ Prince, a veteran advocate with over 30 years of experience, this [...]

Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their actions can reveal their true intentions. In this episode, we empower you with the knowledge to identify the subtle signs of toxic behav [...]

As a Woman, You May Find It Challenging to Stand Up for Yourself If..(video & audio)
“I’m interested in women’s health because I’m a woman. I’d be a darn fool not to be on my own side.”
– Maya Angelou
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Unchain the Warrior Within: Empow [...]
Civil Rights Treasures from the March on Washington: Gloria Richardson
Civil Rights Pioneer Gloria Richardson, 91, on How Women Were Silenced at 1963 March on Washington | Democracy Now!
How Gloria Richardson' [...]

Your Vocal Power: Podcast Selections for Survivors this Week
From WE Survive Abuse podcast. Stories of inspiration for Survivors of powerful women including: Sonya Ivanoff, Harriet Tubman, Marilyn Van Debur, Zora Neale Hurston, Fannie Lo [...]

Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface lies a cautionary tale about emotiona [...]

Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]

The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real. And then, in an instant, the table [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Join host Tonya GJ Prince as she unpack [...]

🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power—have long been fascinated by female [...]

Pap Smear Tips for Concerned Female Patients (10 videos)
Nope, it isn't "your imagination" and you are not "making a big deal out of nothing." Pap smears are extremely necessary and extremely uncomfortable. Even more so if you have been vi [...]
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Child Centering vs Personal Interest Centering: Only One of These Keeps Kids Safe (video)
What happened to those girls in Loudon County was always preventable. Remember folks yelling: "This never happens." For the sake of the children, may we all get our mess t [...]

Preview from The Girl From Salonika Documentary Film
From Award-winning Filmmaker Alison Jayne Wilson:Here is a breath of fresh air for you which I think we all desperately need. A shortcut with David the son of my 'girl' from Salonik [...]
The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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The Natural Hair Movement Cicely Tyson Inspired | Oprah’s Master Class | Oprah Winfrey Network
When Cicely Tyson wore her hair natural on national television in the 1960s, it wasn’t just a style—it was a statement of self-respect in a world built to deny her humanity. At a time whe [...]

Predators Be Like: “Don’t Tell Your Parents” (Faithful background)
Predators are not hard to figure out. If someone tells you not to tell your parents, they mean you no good.
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Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]

Can White Women Deny Black Women Womanhood? (audio)
Womanhood is about character, lessons, wisdom, & journey but there is a troubling social assertion that white women denying Black women womanhood. Womanhood is not just another [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of women but also risks erasing the realities of biological sex that are central t [...]

“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalking.
Approximately 1 in 3 women have experienced stalking at some point in their lives, compared to 1 in 6 men.
The m [...]

‘ER’ Star Anthony Edwards Says Hollywood Big Shot Molested Him As A Teen
As an advocate, I have worked with male Survivors as colleagues, as a volunteer in organizations, and as the person that they confided in about being abused. Because of how our society op [...]

Survivor Affirmations: My Female Existence is Sacred and Worthy of Unapologetic Self-Care (podcast)
Survivor Affirmations: I Deserve Peac from Within by Tonya GJ Prince
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Child Sex Abuse is NOT a Team Sport (video short)
If you are serious about preventing violence against children, you can't approach it like a team sporting event.
There are groomers & pedophiles who are: republican, democrat, i [...]

Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of violence and abuse. Using stories of [...]

Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you get home,” it isn’t just courtesy—it [...]
Naming Ourselves: The Right of Women to Define Our Power and Purpose (audio/Podcast)
In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, host Tonya GJ Prince shares a personal story of reclaiming power in the face of adversity. She opens up about her [...]
The Times Change—And So Do We
"The only constant in life is change."-Heraclitus
"No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man."-Heraclitus
Times have always [...]

Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
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9 Signs That Reveal Childhood Neglect
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What is Going on With Social Media Influencers and Domestic Violence? Part 1
Hell is Truth Seen Too Late.Thomas Hobbes
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The Power of Healing Spaces: Why Race-Specific Healing Groups Are as Vital as Sex-Specific Ones (audio/podcast)
Healing is universal, but the paths we take to get there are not one-size-fits-all. In this compelling episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince tackles a critical and often overlooked [...]

A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our truths can empower others to discover their voices. She shares how [...]

Heroines Among Us: Mom Transforms Garage to an Apartment for Daughter Fleeing From Abuse
We do what we must when the going gets dangerous and toxic. Applause to this Mother! 💓.......
@naydaniellexo Moms are a blessing, loving this new journey & life for me and my [...]

Unheard Women and Children: The Struggle for Independence in West Papua
In the heart of the Pacific, lies a group of islands known as West Papua, where the local Papuans strive persistently for their right to independence from Indonesia.
A Histori [...]

MINK! — My Mom Fought For Title IX, but It Almost Didn’t Happen | Op-Docs
Original post: May 4, 2023They never wanted women and girls to have safety and fairness in sports.Equality, sports, and Title IX - Erin Buzuvis and Kristine Newhall | WE Survive AbuseTitl [...]

WE Survive Abuse: Adenomyosis Awareness Month
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MEDICINAL HEALING
VIOLATIONS
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens your safety, your sense of peace, or [...]

She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expecting to feel afraid, abandoned, or c [...]
7 Ways People Manipulate: Recognizing and Resisting Control
Ain't nothing new under the sun.
Manipulation is one of the oldest tools of control, and Gavin de Becker’s framework outlines the ways predators and abusers u [...]
Why Declaring Women’s Right to Privacy and Safety Means Rejecting Male Entitlement
When we declare that women and girls have the right to privacy, dignity, and safety, we are also declaring something deeper:
🚫 What It Means We Reject
Our bodies are not i [...]
🚩 5 Signs You’re Facing Control Disguised as Concern
1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety
If your boundary causes them to feel uncomfortable, they try to make you feel guilty for protecting yourself. They’re not checking on you—th [...]

America’s Hidden Shame: Confronting the Femicide Rates in the US
Femicide, defined as the gender-based killing of women and girls, remains a critical issue in the United States. While comprehensive national data specifically categorizing femicide [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and hashtags—move like you mean it.
Too [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably dates losers”) to mock, shame, or discredit her for making her o [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Love and Approve of Myself No Matter What
🌟 Affirmation
I love and approve of myself, no matter what.
I am a valuable person and make worthwhile contributions to the world.
Each day, in big and small ways, I remind myself of [...]

We Told You.
We told you.We warned you.We begged you to listen.
We tried to explain what was coming down the road.We cried out when the signs were subtle, when the red flags first went up, when the [...]
The Ancient Words of Womanhood: Feminine Power Before ‘Femininity’
Know this: Long before present day calls for women to embrace our power,
women have been embracing our birthright power!- Tonya GJ Prince
In today’s world, we often speak of feminini [...]

I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of tools. Some of them are goo [...]
Spotlight on IDVAAC: A Legacy of Protecting Black Survivors
Because we deserve more than band-aids. We deserve truth, safety, and justice—designed with us in mind.
What Is IDVAAC?
The Institute on Domestic Violence in the African America [...]

Unsilencing Women’s Voices: Our Power in Speaking Up about Female Health and Social Issues
"Social pats on the head will not cure health problems that have been ailing women for centuries".- Tonya GJ PrinceSo this happened .......A beautiful content creator shared a video on he [...]
🌀 Absent Boundaries, Beliefs Can Penetrate and Redefine a Space
Absent boundaries, anyone can use their beliefs to penetrate a space.
History shows us this truth. From the earliest days of colonization, invaders used belief systems to walk into space [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the burden onto the wrong people.
Growin [...]
Don’t Be Fooled: Giving Away Your Rights Isn’t Liberation
They told you it was clever.Told you it was edgy.Told you it was revolutionary.
But let’s talk about what it really is when you hand over your rights, your language, your spaces, your [...]
Black Women Have Been Warning You: Fascism Has Always Seen Us as the First to Silence
Black women don’t need a textbook to recognize fascism on this planet.We’ve felt it creeping under the door, showing up in church bulletins, classrooms, courtrooms, and dinner tables.We’v [...]
The Pressure to “Be Nice” While Male Violence Goes Excused
If ever you have any question about which people in the room are women:
It will be the ones in the room pushed to "be nice" or "be kind"
The ones being told that they have no ri [...]

Safe Spaces for Women: 6500 Hospital Assaults in Four Years
Reminder, sex-based sanctuaries in healing spaces remain a necessity for women and girls. There is a reason that women are being pushed to give up their spaces while males aren't fa [...]

Not Concerned about Revenge Porn? Maybe You Should Be
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10 Truths About Grooming: What It Is and What It Is Not
Grooming is a word we hear often, but too many people still misunderstand what it truly means. That misunderstanding can lead to silence, shame, and even misplaced blame on survivors. I [...]
💔 What Is Breadcrumbing? A Survivor’s Guide to Emotional Manipulation Disguised as “Hope” (w/playlist)
You may know this tactic by another name. Maybe "stringing you along."
It has been a major theme in classic novels like, The Great Gatsby and even contemporary films like "He's Just No [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And because they didn’t listen, you may have [...]

A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
During a
season of speaking to youth about teen dating violence, I decided that I needed
to tell them about young people just like them.
After an
online search, I discovered media [...]

Surviving Abuse Daily: Women Speaking Against Hate IS NOT Hate
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It is Important to Ask Yourself: Who taught you to downplay the importance of your safety?
Too many of us were conditioned to silence our instincts, ignore our boundaries, and minimize our fears. But that conditioning didn’t come from love—it came from control. They received an [...]
Unburdened: Breaking the Chains of Servitude and Reclaiming Rest for Black Women
Breaking these chains requires a multi-layered approach that includes self-liberation, community support, and cultural shifts. Black women can break free from these harmful expectations [...]
The War We Ignore: Violent Men, Mental Health Cuts, and the Cost to All of U.S.
Mental health systems have been gutted. Until we stop making excuses and start building solutions that protect the vulnerable, we will continue to cycle through tragedies that could have [...]

13 Essential Habits of Non-Misogynistic Ideologies (slide and ebook)
Essential Traits of Non-Misogynistic Ideologies by Tonya GJ Prince13 Essential Habits of Non-Misogynistic Ideologies ebook [...]

No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfume on poisoned air:That feminism was a [...]
You Can Love People and Still Set Firm, Protective Boundaries
They’ll tell you that love means saying "yes".That love means flexibility.That love never closes a door.
But love without boundaries?That’s not love.That’s surrender.That’s self-erasure. [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb
Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fear has been one of the most effective [...]
Uncovering Our TRUE Stories: Docs and Movies Featuring Whistleblowers, Informants, and Teachers
In 1975, school teacher Marva Collins took $5,000 from her retirement fund and opened the low-cost Westside Preparatory School on the second floor of her home in Chicago. She started with [...]
You’re Not Failing—You’re Feeling
A post for Survivors who mistake emotional struggle for regression
So often, when the tears come back, when the triggers resurface, when the grief grabs you by the throat again, the fi [...]
Loneliness vs. Depletion: Why Women Need Safe, Reciprocal Companionship—Not One-Sided Connections
Loneliness is real, but being drained by one-sided “connections” is far worse than being alone. Here’s an expanded version with more life-giving examples of what women actually long for i [...]
Ride Hail Assault Isn’t Rare—It’s Underreported
updated August 2025
Every day, people step into rideshare vehicles hoping to get from point A to point B. But some never make it there safely.
Ride hail assault is more common than most [...]

The BIG Boundaries Issue for Survivors
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This Never Happens!: Sex Offenders in Plain Sight
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How Did We Get Here: Check Mainstream Media
Mainstream media continues to perpetuate and support harmful choices and decisions in teen girls:
TeenVogue telling its young audience that watching porn depictin [...]

Boundaries Are Sacred: Honoring the Line Between Survival and Self-Betrayal
Boundaries aren’t walls.They’re doors you open for love — and shut to harm.
For too long, women, especially Black women, have been praised for how much we can endure.How much we can carr [...]

9 Signs That Reveal Childhood Neglect
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How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look a girl in the eye and say:
“It’s not pain. It’s just discomfort.”“You’re [...]

Animals Choosing the Bear: How Men Traumatized an Orangutan
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Child Sex Abuse is NOT a Team Sport (video short)
If you are serious about preventing violence against children, you can't approach it like a team sporting event.
There are groomers & pedophiles who are: republican, democrat, i [...]

Rise Above Endo Gaslighting:Empowerment Through Endometriosis Awareness
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65 Beliefs Some Men Hold About Women: Control, Boundaries, and the Fight for Choice
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want.
If you like it, I love it—so long as it is safe-mentally, physically, an [...]

Why Does the Racist Masculinization of Women Obligate Us to Fight for Others—But Not the Other Way Around?
Remember when you were little and another kid hit you. Maybe you yelled back at the other kid. The adults would overhear the commotion and make both of you apologize to one another. Exc [...]

Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ+ community respond to Prince's response insist that he had no right to say no because he was perceived to be perhaps hypersexual and [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the word while working against the work.
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Women’s Right to Choose: The Fight Isn’t Over
"If it tries to diminish me,
my health,
my safety,
my ascendance,
or my rights,
it is unacceptable, to me."
Tonya GJ Prince
Unhindered femal [...]

In California, Will a Male Mass Shooter Serve His Life Sentence in a Male or Women’s Prison? (upated)
This family is never going to leave my soul I see. I keep cleaning off my PC, but never their family picture. The one with Benny in a suit surrounded by the two women who gave him love. T [...]
The Media Is Teaching Women to Be Silent About Violence. Even Women in Media.
We need to name it.
The media—mainstream and social—isn't just failing to protect women.It's teaching us to be quiet.To question ourselves. To shrink.To smile through what we know is wro [...]
🧩 REARTICULATION: When the System Repackages Harm in New Clothes
WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS:
The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up as funding proposals, friendly slogans [...]

Take Care of You: Self Care Awareness
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Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you get home,” it isn’t just courtesy—it [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. Please avoid trusting these people w [...]
The Parable of Silencing, Denial, and the Truth That Returned
🕯 The Parable of the Crooked Weaver
Once, in a small village wrapped in forest and silence, there lived a skilled weaver named Marron. He was known far and wide for his fine threads and [...]

Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-being. A safety plan isn’t just a list [...]
📍 Across Borders, Beneath Systems: The Global Face of Sex-Based Oppression
Sex-based oppression is not confined to a single culture, continent, or community. It is a global reality—a multi-layered system of inequality rooted in how societies view, value, and c [...]
Heal—So They Can’t Use Your Wounds Against You
One of the hardest, most necessary truths:Unhealed wounds are vulnerable to manipulation.
There are people who don’t want you whole.They want you fractured.They want you tired, tender, [...]

Creating Safe Spaces: Encouraging Open Discussions About Personal Security
How many times have you hesitated before speaking up about your safety concerns? How often have you been told, "Oh, you're overreacting," "It’s not that serious," "That never happen [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In law and policy, this is often called [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth that too many are afraid to name:
Male deception gets a pass.Male abuse is rationalized.Male violence and violations a [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women—Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey—were subje [...]
VIOLATIONS AGAINST SAFETY AND WELL-BEING
HEALTH
VIOLATIONS AGAINST OUR YOUNG PEOPLE
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, an [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe arou [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “ [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
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Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t a [...]

Surviving Abuse Daily: Women and Children Trying Hard Not to Lose
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Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came [...]

Fave Podcast Episodes: Trafficking Documentary Director Alison Jayne Wilson with Neil Getzlow
Episode 79: Unmasking the journey of Alison Jayne Wilson and EXITUnmasked With Neil GetzlowToday [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most co [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loya [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
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They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, histor [...]
🚨 Fear-Based Manipulation Isn’t Love—It’s Control Dressed as Concern
Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or worst-case scenarios to control or [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montg [...]
When Our Words Teach Them What’s “Normal” About Violence
If we’re spending more time excusing violence—saying we “understand” or “forgive” men who hurt women—t [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belon [...]

Woman You Are Already Enough: A Reminder from Fannie Lou Hamer
In a world where women — especially minoritized women, poor women, disabled women, elder women, and [...]

Child Abuse: Avoid Confusing ‘Familiar’ with ‘Known’ when Describing Perpetrator-Victim Relationships
I think most adults have at least the first step of the "grooming process" well understood. To re [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force g [...]
Cissy Saint Made a Call No Leader or Mother Wants to Make. Would You Have?
*Disclaimer: This is a fictional world analysis for the sake of saving and building the true world tha [...]

🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who di [...]

The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. [...]

How Society Continues to Enable Abuse and Violation of Women and Girls in Sports
Article roundup HERE
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The “Dying Alone” Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we f [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs. [...]
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On the Grounds That We Are Human: Women and Girls Have a Human RIGHT to Dignity and Safety
A few years ago I was shopping in a grocery store when I noticed a spot on the back of another w [...]
10 Rights Every Child Deserves Without Compromise
Children Have the Right to Set the Following Boundaries:
Bodily Autonomy: They have the right t [...]

Keeping Children Safe in School: Body Safety
Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated) | WE Survive Abuse
WE Can't Afford to Repea [...]

WE Survive Abuse: Women Challenging Everything (News)
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Gaslighting and Red Flags: Black Women & Girls and Safety
We will never get another you. Please keep yourself safe!-TGJP “Do not ever apologise for existin [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affir [...]

Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be [...]

Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girl [...]
When Childhood Triggers Resurface: Healing Before It Becomes Harm
You Do Not Have to Pass on Pain
If you find yourself feeling anger rise around children—if you feel t [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
They Called It Victimhood. I Call It Rising.
After abuse, it’s common to be met with silence when you’re hurting — and then judgment when you begin to glow.
They did not think this part through [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survivor.And yet, when she told the truth abo [...]
Divide, Distract, and Conquer: The Hidden Cost of DEI Myths
You know, in Black American wisdom, there’s a deep understanding that the most dangerous blow is the one you never saw coming.
“Being blindsided isn’ [...]

Pimps Are Always Bad: The Unseen Ways Men Traffic and Exploit Women
Pimps are not icons. They are not comedic relief. They are not "cool." They are not "bosses." They are exploiters, traffickers, and predator [...]

🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
BOOKS AND RESOURCES

How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal (audio)
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal [...]

A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this ep [...]

Stay Safe in Uncertain Times: The Top 10 Benefits of a Crisis Safety Plan You Can’t Afford to Ignore (FREE Plan Download)
Safety Plan Crisis WorksheetsWriting down and r [...]

Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms
Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms There a [...]
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Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright (audio/podcast)
Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection [...]
Civil Rights Treasures from the March on Washington: Gloria Richardson
Civil Rights Pioneer [...]

Favorite Memoirs and Reads on Abuse, Rape, & Violence: Tonya GJ Prince
Greetings Readers,
Books are a critical element to h [...]

The Role of Homeownership in Women’s Liberation: Domestic Violence and Homelessness (podcast/audio)
In this episode, explore the critical inter [...]
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The Healing Space: A Guidebook for Women Rising in Their Power After Abuse
LINK"The Healing Space You Deserve: A Guidebook [...]

The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore [...]

New Read: The Handbook of Research on Trauma with Children, Working with High Poverty Schools and Communities
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Mood Book: Kioni. Keep Walking in Rhythm
Mood Book: Kioni Keep Walking in RhythmKioni: t [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hop [...]

Book: Beat Face, The Story of Surviving Myself and My Abuser
This author and I follow one another on social [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022
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Black women als [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Love Spending Time with Me
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Invest in Yourself: Overcome Financial Hurdles to Afford College
AUDIO: https://empowerminty.gumroad.com/l/idayfF [...]

Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio)
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audi [...]

How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Out [...]
Survivor Affirmations on Audio
Survivor Affirmations: Change is My FriendSurvivor Af [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer [...]

By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to pleas [...]

15 I Am Fearless Affirmations Set
Unleash the power of positivity and self-empowerment [...]

Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and gi [...]
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8 Common Characteristics of People Who Support and Enable Abusive People (Infographic)
Some people find truth-telling to be abhorrent [...]

Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back.....
Brea [...]
How Vision Boards Help Survivors Reclaim Their Future
For Survivors of trauma, the journey to hea [...]

What’s the Big Deal about Sex Tourism? (Infographic)
The women behind the windows [...]

The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans
I'd like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who m [...]
Austin Wolfe Sentencing: What It Means for Survivors, Justice, and the Black Gay Community (w/audio)
The news of Austin Wolfe’s sentencing has landed he [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to [...]

10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to t [...]

Fear is a Gift: Quotes from Gavin de Becker (updated with podcast link)
Listen to this blog [...]

Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their ac [...]

Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain [...]

As a Woman, You May Find It Challenging to Stand Up for Yourself If..(video & audio)
“I’m interested in women’s health because I’m a w [...]

Catching Up On Some Reads (Great Books)
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You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirm [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged [...]

FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones [...]

Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (aud [...]

Survivor Affirmations: My Female Existence is Sacred and Worthy of Unapologetic Self-Care (podcast)
Survivor Affirmations: I Deserve Peac from Wi [...]
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Be Well: 25 Creative Outlets for Your Wellbeing (FREE flipbook)
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Your Ultimate Youtube Content Creator Success Bundle
Perhaps this weekend, as you ponder how you will spend your next few months, you may want to gather information about Youtube video creation.  [...]

My Daily Self Love Journal (printable)
My Self Love Journal (printable)
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Gaslighting and Red Flags: Black Women & Girls and Safety
We will never get another you. Please keep yourself safe!-TGJP “Do not ever apologise for existing or for taking up space in the world.”— Chi [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your ner [...]

Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms
Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms There are many stay at homes moms that dream of making extra money from home while they are taking c [...]

20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts (Product)
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts20 YouTube Video Ideas For Introverts eBookAre you an introvert struggling to start making videos on Yo [...]

Stay Safe in Uncertain Times: The Top 10 Benefits of a Crisis Safety Plan You Can’t Afford to Ignore (FREE Plan Download)
Safety Plan Crisis WorksheetsWriting down and reflecting on a crisis safety plan can have several benefits1. Clarity and organization: Writi [...]
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The Healing Space: A Guidebook for Women Rising in Their Power After Abuse
LINK"The Healing Space You Deserve: A Guidebook for Women Rising in Their Power After Abuse"***Includes BONUS 45 Page PTSD Journal and Workb [...]
That Joyful Girl Journal
That Joyful Girl Journal
For the girl who still believes in wonder. And for the woman who’s learning to believe in herself again.
This isn’t [...]
How Vision Boards Help Survivors Reclaim Their Future
For Survivors of trauma, the journey to healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about reclaiming, redefining, and rebuilding. One powerf [...]