Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that…
(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a…
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control. On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, preferences, or cultural norms. But when…
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness passed down through bloodlines poisoned by mistreatment…
The trial against music mogul Sean Combs is not just about one man’s alleged abuse—it is about the systems that allowed it to persist for decades. One of those…
Q: What is a rape kit? A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to collect DNA and physical evidence from a person who has…
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first? “The worst part is people are going to call him gay.”“Get ready for…
The betrayal no one wants to talk about—but every Survivor remembers. There’s a kind of betrayal that lives in the silence.In the sideways glances.In the excuses.In the celebrations and dinners…
Some things should never be controversial.A disabled woman or girl requesting a female caregiver should not be met with outrage, mockery, or moral judgment. And yet—All too often, women with…
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access. They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries. They call it hate,when women say no with…