đź–¤ 1. Demanding Grace While Denying Ours Black women are often expected to extend endless empathy, understanding, and forgiveness—especially to Black men navigating racism, trauma, or systemic stress. But when…
Why women’s refusal, independence, and desire for safety are so often treated as offenses against men. There is something deeply troubling about a man hearing a woman say no and…
There are renewed calls to ask a question American colleges have heard before: Why not get rid of fraternities? The question is back amid the uproar at Cornell over allegations…
You know, none of these problems are new. The problem has always been getting the funding to serve everyone who needs safety. When we talk about domestic violence, sexual assault,…
I did not arrive at female boundaries because I assumed every male was dangerous. I arrived there because I knew what society does to women and girls when the dangerous…
There are cases that remind us why understanding domestic violence cannot be limited to advocates, shelter workers, police officers, or women who have already lived through it. Everybody needs to…
Tina Turner did what we so often tell women to do. She spoke. She told the truth about the violence in her marriage. She described beatings, coercive control, and sexual…
Some ideas about sexual violence have been around so long that people repeat them without recognizing what they are. A woman says she was drinking before an assault, and somebody…
Some people try to control women by frightening us. Others discover they can control a room by humiliating us. Humiliation can look like “joking,” teasing, embarrassing you in public, exposing…
And here our country stands examining every uttered word of a woman who says that she was harmed……. We all exist together on a planet that seeks to correct the…