When Identity Becomes a Shield: Who We Protect When We Pretend Everyone Is Treated Equal
The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is…
The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is…
This is a tender area. Many people tense up the moment sexual violence and sexual orientation appear in the same conversation. The fear is understandable: historically, LGBTQ+ communities have endured…
Saying “Black woman” is not race discourse.It’s not divisive.It’s not inflammatory.It’s accuracy in the field of violence and abuse — a field that has avoided telling the truth for far…
There are stories we rarely let breathe. The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — hurt, silenced, told to “man up,” told that pain was weakness,…
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language. Too often, those who have been harmed or frightened are accused…
If the full extent of your “activism” against grooming is railing against age-gap relationships between older women and younger men, you might want to take another look at what you’re…
I’m not just speaking from a place of advocacy to victims. I’m speaking as a relative and friend who has had occasion to come alongside a male and aid him…
As an advocate, I have worked with male Survivors as colleagues, as a volunteer in organizations, and as the person that they confided in about being abused. Because of how…
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survivors. It’s called the Gish Gallop. The Gish Gallop happens when someone…
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed doors of private homes. But abuse…