The Exception Man: New Vocabulary Does Not Change the Reality of Male Violence
“It was ‘that’ kind of man who harmed you, not this kind.” But how can we prevent harm in the future? What did we miss? What went wrong? The burden…
“It was ‘that’ kind of man who harmed you, not this kind.” But how can we prevent harm in the future? What did we miss? What went wrong? The burden…
Some people are taught to believe the justice system will be waiting for them. If somebody hurts you, tell. If you have evidence, save it. Go to the police. Cooperate…
I watched Season 2 of Reasonable Doubt with two sets of eyes. I watched as a viewer who wanted a good story. But I also watched as an advocate who…
Gordon Braxton begins Empowering Black Boys to Challenge Rape Culture with an admission that should make adults stop and think. He was already in his third year of college before…
Another man has been arrested after an alleged sexual assault inside a women’s locker room. I could spend this entire article discussing that particular case. I won’t. I can link…
There is something about the Tremaine Carroll case that becomes clearer when we stop treating it primarily as a debate about identity and put the incarcerated women back in the…
Your name is one of the first things you learn belongs to you. That is exactly why controlling it can carry so much power. Sometimes an abusive person doesn’t merely…
Sometimes abuse announces itself with a threat. Sometimes it starts with a word. A degrading name can be tossed out so casually that everybody is expected to move along. But…
Some people try to control women by frightening us. Others discover they can control a room by humiliating us. Humiliation can look like “joking,” teasing, embarrassing you in public, exposing…
There is a familiar sentence that appears whenever violence against Black women becomes impossible to ignore: “Black women don’t talk.” Sometimes it is said with concern. Sometimes frustration. Sometimes it…