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- I have close relatives with non-visible disabilities. When we parked in the designated handicap spaces we have to stay ready for people to stare or inquire whether we are following the law. And of course, law enforcement has looked us over more than once.
- My family members just happen to be short people who tend to look a bit young for our age. When each child starts driving we prepare them for this reality.
“You will probably be more likely to be pulled over because the reality is they see a smaller and younger appearing looking person driving the car and …..“
Baby, you might be joyriding in your Mama’s car.
- My family members just happen to be short people who tend to look a bit young for our age. (Babyfaces) When each child turns 21, we let them know. “You will get carded at least into your 40’s.” Those stories are extremely entertaining at family gatherings.
- I can’t even buy groceries at big box membership clubs if I do not have a membership card.
- People bring up Black people frequently when they want to make a point about rights. (Too many hitch their cause to yours but don’t you dare hitch yours to theirs). Well, I’m a Black woman. Unlike my age, my race is visibly apparent.
Therefore, I don’t drive my vehicle without my identification. Ever. I never know when I will have to prove who I am.
In fact, I do not walk out of my front door without my identification. I am always prepared to prove who I am.
Ask history why.
Self-ID is a premium male privilege
Self-ID is a premium. male. privilege.
Unlike cops, such men who leverage it do not even have to flash a badge to be among women in support groups, restrooms, locker rooms, breastfeeding groups, rape crisis centers, domestic shelters, or prison cells with women.
It is the height of male privilege to think that I or any other woman or girl, must accept a man’s word that he is who he says that he is and that he has a right to be in spaces where I may be in various states of undress.
Personally, I’ve learned to stay clear of people who tell me who I “should” trust. After a lifetime of mind-blowing and “you wouldn’t believe it if I told you” experiences, I have developed my own guidelines, standards, and criteria.
I try to make choices and decisions that keep me safe in a sexist, misogynist, and racist world.
I’m Gen X years old, and so far, that has served me pretty doggone well.
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