Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginali [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of women but also risks erasing the realities [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Stop Telling Black Women to Be Silent—Our Bodies Are Paying the Price. (podcast episode)
Black women are not “overreacting”—we are responding to what our bodies have been forced to carry for generations. The pressure to ignore racism, to s [...]
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An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
5 Great Reasons for Survivors to Keep a Journal
Survivors can benefit greatly journaling. There are so many benefits gained from taking [...]
Dr. Tracey Marks: What is Delusional disorder? How Is It Different From Schizophrenia?
Some Survivors are people who have escaped being stalked relentlessly by someone with delusional disorder. Some people were in a relationship but othe [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
The Lost Secret of Child Sexual Abuse: I Love a Survivor, My Pain Has a Voice Too
ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help. You wanted to take action. You wanted family, c [...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It [...]
How to Support Lesbian Friends in Abusive Relationships
As an advocate, you become familiar with the careful way that a woman tells you her story. She's testing you [...]
After A Doctor Told Her There Was Nothing She Could Do About Her Diagnosis, Lupita Nyong’o Is Desperate To Make A Change For Other Women Who Might “Suffer In Silence”
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After A Doctor Told Her There Was Nothing She Could Do About Her Diagnosis, Lupita Nyong'o Is Despe [...]
Not All Submission Looks Like Sunday School
Some women believe they've separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to yo [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. Wh [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of t [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same [...]
There is a Difference Between: “I Want This and I Do Not Want This”
updated from July 31 2016
Consensual sex and sexual violence are not the same.
They are not close.They ar [...]
We Warned You: The Deadly Price Black Women Pay for Social Justice Experiments by The Way She Came
One thing I have learned about life on this planet, people just act like it goes against everything that the [...]
Part 2: Why I Resist Diluted Language
But self-knowledgeBut self-knowledgeThe reason I refuse diluted language is because I have watched i [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
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Are You ‘Tolerating’ More Hate Than You Think?
Originally published 4/7/23Reminder:Who you think you are and who you really are isn’t always the same thing.When you support women be [...]
Holiday Safety Planning: 16 Essential Tips for People in Toxic Relationships
As challenging as it is to imagine, the holidays are dangerous times for people in toxic relationships. As advocates, you always know that t [...]
Healing When Your Abuser Is Still Welcome at the Table
The betrayal no one wants to talk about—but every Survivor remembers. There’s a kind of betrayal that lives in the silence.In the sid [...]
💭 When Women Don’t Prioritize Our Own Safety, the World Learns How to Ignore It
When women are conditioned to put everyone else’s comfort above our own safety, we begin to disappear—slowly, quietly, obediently. We learn to smil [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the public eye—is harmed in plain view.She finds the courage to come forward. To say: I [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to t [...]
Faith & Fire: Black Women Who Knew God and Justice Could Share the Same Space
They’ll tell you that you can’t be a woman of faith and a feminist.
That believing in God somehow means you must stay silent, small, or submissive.Th [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot scapegoat women for male violence on one da [...]
Thread Made Iconic: A Love Letter to Our Bodies and the Women Who Sew Beauty Into the World
My Granny used to take us to the sewing shop, her eyes scanning the rows of threads, fabrics, and patterns like she was looking at a shelf of dreams.P [...]
When the Mask Matters More Than the Truth, Survivors Are Asked to Disappear
There is a reason people cling so tightly to labels when harm is exposed.
Often, it is not confusion.
It is fear. Fear of admitting they were mis [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
Words Matter: Why Calling ALL Older Woman-Younger Man Relationships “Grooming” is Harmful
Language matters. It shapes how we think, how we write laws, how we protect—or fail to protect—the vulnerable. That’s why we must [...]
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