She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term rela [...]
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Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio) [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
Naming Ourselves: The Right of Women to Define Our Power and Purpose (audio/Podcast)
In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, host Tonya GJ Prince shares a personal story of reclaiming power in the face [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
Who Will Find Missing Women and Girls?
updated from September 25, 2023
For over thirty years I have been dedicated to working to end violence against women and girls.
Along the way, I wor [...]
Healing Beyond the Pain: Exploring the Latest Technologies in Treating PTSD
For Survivors of abuse and violence, the road to healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is deeply personal and often fraught with ch [...]
The REAL Reason Nursing Got Downgraded (No One Will Say This) | Nyesha Nicole
Health and healing are too sacred for this.
We need nurses. Women — and girls — need nurses who see trauma for what it is. Nurses who recognize the h [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
Power Doesn’t Always Mean Protection—And That’s the Problem
I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council members. Mayor.Some of them carried that p [...]
The Burden on Female Leaders to Be Soft on Violent Crime
One note about female leadership in politics in the United States.I remember when George Bush was in office. N [...]
It’s Not Always Hate—Sometimes It’s Hurt: Learning to Hear Men’s Vulnerability
Somewhere along the way, the right of men—especially Black men—to say no got tangled up in our cultural discom [...]
When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
In every corner of society—online an [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Let’s tell the truth—beca [...]
From Michael Harriot: How a City Ignored the (Systemic) Rape, Murder and Terrorism of Black Women for Four Decades
updated from December 4, 2024 "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed unti [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harm [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can ident [...]
Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Don’t Call It a Favor
The nerve—the absolute gall—to act like you're doing us a favor by ending discriminatio [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But [...]
Seeking Justice: Empowering Survivors through Civil Cases
Cassie, an American singer, recently made headlines when news broke out that she was suing her longtime music [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, on [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“Sh [...]
“Is It Toxic or Is It Abuse?” — When You’re Trying to Name What’s Happening
She sat in her parked car for 32 minutes before going inside.
She wasn't avoiding anyone—he wasn't even home.
She just… didn’t want to wal [...]
The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
🚨 25 Items & Systems That Risk Women’s Lives Because They Don’t Accommodate Women
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Women and girls are frequently sent the message that demanding accommodations for our health and safety are "selfish." And, DEI is a si [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot scapegoat women for male violence on one da [...]
When Black Women Speak About Violence, Too Many People Attack the Voice Instead of the Harm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk8VmR4KCA There is something very familiar happening around Is God Is. (The Color Purple? Eve's Bayou? Is [...]
When Love Puts You in Danger: How Domestic Violence Impacts Friends
One day we will
learn to stop
blaming women and
girls for the safeguarding and
boundaries we deploy
to protect [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
You ought to be thankful for the little things.
But little things are all you seem to give.
Janet Jackson| What Have You Done For Me Lately G [...]
