When It’s No Longer Safe to Stay Attached
Move With a Flow That Honors You
(inspired by your closing words—soft, powerful, rooted in survival and self-worth) We don’t alwa [...]
Austin Wolfe Sentencing: What It Means for Survivors, Justice, and the Black Gay Community (w/audio)
The news of Austin Wolfe’s sentencing has landed heavily. Once a visible figure in the adult entertainment industry, he now faces the consequences o [...]
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How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal (audio)
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal [...]
Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
When Chaos Becomes Normal: Relearning the Language of Calm and Boundaries
Some of us grew up learning to breathe in the middle of storms.
We learned to sleep through shouting, to laugh through danger, to keep functioning th [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
The War We Ignore: Violent Men, Mental Health Cuts, and the Cost to All of U.S.
Mental health systems have been gutted. Until we stop making excuses and start building solutions that protect the vulnerable, we will continue to cyc [...]
Not Everything Is Equal: Why Moral Clarity Still Matters for All Human Beings
Connecting with political allies is harder than people admit—especially when your foundation is not hate, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Right to Safety and Dignity Regardless of Male Desires
If a man wakes up believing he is divinely entitled to every woman, that is between him and his treatment team [...]
Avoid Praising Harm: How Women Can Break the Cycle of Defending Those Who Do Damage
When women defend harmful behavior, they lose their sense of safety. Learn how awareness, honesty, and discern [...]
🚫 It Violates Women’s Boundaries: Abuse Disguised as Entitlement
Women create boundaries to survive.To heal.To stay alive.
Whether it’s women’s shelters, bathrooms, sports te [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say: “I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.” But this isn’t t [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense. [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves....... In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and gi [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Pr [...]
When “Sisterhood” is a Setup: The Weaponization of Love Bombing to Enforce Male Violence
Watching this got me thinking....... Because at her lowest, a woman who seemed kind. Who seemed to be kind. Le [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is sup [...]
Survivor Lessons on Emotional Abuse: Moving Beyond the Hurt But Saving the Lessons
original: 7/20/2016We the people will never let you forget it. If you date more than one abusive partner, you already know, amongst you [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence, no record of defending women or children,
n [...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already sound “righ [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
Why “The Last RECORDED Lynching” IS NOT the Same As “The LAST Lynching”
White Americans desire to be free from a past they do not want to remember,
while Black Americans remain bound to a past they can never forget."
— [...]
When Struggling People Are Called “Capitalists”: The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
There is a quiet cruelty in accusing poor and marginalized people of being “capitalists.”
It soun [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Black American History Lesson: What Happened to the First Private Black School for Girls in Connecticut?
I hope that these last few weeks have taught us to take history as a tool for learning lessons .....for everyone. Education is never a "scam". The [...]
The Hidden Bill: What Violence Against Women Really Costs
When we talk about violence, we rarely talk about what the financial costs. Not just the broken bones or the heartbreak — but the billions of dolla [...]
