Your Peace Was Never Up for Negotiation: Truths About Boundaries and Manipulation
updated from February 6, 2025
Survivor Affirmation
Your boundaries are sacred. Nobody's crisis, real or threatened, gets to override yo [...]
As a Woman, You May Find It Challenging to Stand Up for Yourself If..(video & audio)
“I’m interested in women’s health because I’m a woman. I’d be a darn fool not to be on my own side.”
– Maya Angelou
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They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as your t [...]
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio)
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio recording) [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal (audio)
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal [...]
Black American History Lesson: What Happened to the First Private Black School for Girls in Connecticut?
I hope that these last few weeks have taught us to take history as a tool for learning lessons .....for everyone. Education is never a "scam".The [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t paus [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreact [...]
How Predators Use Technology to Target You and the People You Love
AwarenessTimes like these are ripe for awareness.....
New technology always requires new laws to sto [...]
When the “Safe” Place Becomes Part of the Trauma
Trauma researchers have observed that when a person's experience is repeatedly denied by trusted authorities, it can produce profound self-dou [...]
Why Are Women’s Rights Treated Like Optional Add-Ons?
For generations, conversations about women’s rights have been derailed by demands to prioritize men’s comfort, reputations, or emotional reactions.
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How What We Don't Know About Suicide is Killing People
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the [...]
⭐ Why I Resist Diluted Language Like “Birthing People” Part 1
Updated from November 2025
How hard is it to just say "mothers and.....?"
In 2024, Black women had a maternal mortalit [...]
Before “Domestic Violence”: The History of How Women Finally Named Abuse
For generations, women endured violence that society treated as a private problem. This is the story of how finding the right words changed law, cultu [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the wei [...]
Human Rights Organizations Should NEVER Tell Women and Girls to “Move”
The year is 2026. So-called leaders, writers, the academic class, news media, medical groups, and organi [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don' [...]
Smart People Can Be Fooled: Why Propaganda Loves an Educated Mind
One of the most dangerous myths in the world is the belief that only “ignorant” people fall for propaganda.That is not true.Smart people can b [...]
✊🏾 Support Young Black Women Who Speak Out
In recent years, we've witnessed something powerful:Young Black women—public figures, artists, creators—standing up, speaking out, and seeking safet [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s [...]
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A Reader Asks Me About My Assertions Around ‘Unsilencing Women”
Often we as women provide labor and good deeds to other women without even thinking about it (babysitting, caring for elderly or people [...]
When Control Becomes Abuse: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
🚩 Concerning Signs of Abuse and Control
How Loss of Autonomy Mirrors the Pain of Imposter Syndrome🔒 Loss of Autonomy
Every adu [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corn [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence,no record of d [...]
Survivor Mary Lumpkin: The Woman Who Turned a Place of Pain Into a Place of Promise
Before history knew her as a symbol, Mary Lumpkin was a woman.
She was a mother. A Survivor. A p [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, po [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
🚨 The Women Who Climbed the Ladder Are Now Pulling It Up Behind Them
Truth does not become false because it becomes unpopular. And the truth is, as proud as we are of some of these women for how they climbed the ladder. [...]
Why a Woman’s “No” Is Not Oppression: A Womanist Perspective on Consent and Boundaries
Whether or not a woman on this planet has read feminist authors or understands what others mean by terms like "intersectionality" or the difference be [...]
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