They Mock You, Then Expect You to Serve—The Trap Ends Now
May you never again fall into the trap of using your labor for an individual or group who calls your worth into question by...
M [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
She Burned Her Writing for J.D. Salinger: Claire Douglas and the Cost of Disappearing for Love (podcast ep)
Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, plays and es [...]
Solidarity is Reciprocal: Black American Women Are Allowed to Ask What Comes Back Across the Bridge (podcast episode)
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?If you are able, you defin [...]
Called Out of Our Names: When Did Respect Become Too Much to Ask? (audio ep)
***"Relax. It's just a word."In this episode, please notice that while people may be telling you to "lean back" and accept every bit of fool [...]
The Gift of Access to YOU (audio/podcast)
This episode unpacks how those lessons of survival can linger into adulthood, making us feel like we owe access to anyone who asks.....How often [...]
13 Red Flags: How to Identify Organizations Failing to Address Child Sexual Abuse
1. Lack of transparency: Such environments tend to operate under a veil of secrecy and discourage open dialogue regarding child sexual abus [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be used, violated, discarded. It wasn’t just about water fountains and buses. It was a [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an i [...]
Women Have Been Violently Punished for Telling the Truth for Centuries
I do not owe anyone a smaller truth so they can maintain a larger lie.
Absolutely no woman deserves to be harmed because she spoke a truth somebody [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to kee [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to h [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once:“The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.”Her friend asked, “How cou [...]
THIS is The TRUTH About Dating Preferences & Inclusion
@thisissavvy ♬ original sound - Sav! @tgjprince We Are ALL Entitled to Our Unique Dating Prefer [...]
Protecting Our Children: Essential Questions for Background Checks on Adults Working with Children
Lessons WE Should Have Learned from School Volunteer Deonte Carraway | WE Survive Abuse"Familiar" or "Known": The Fine Line Between Acquaintan [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
📺 Television Is Not Liberation
(No matter how many awards, episodes, or characters say otherwise)🎭 Television Is Entertainment—Not Protection
TV is not systemic cha [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survi [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.”But this isn’t t [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused."He is trying to change but sometim [...]
What Would It Look Like to Support Black Women Where They Actually Live?
Across social media and in political spaces, there is no shortage of advice directed at Black women.People encourage us to:speak more ab [...]
Honoring Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax in Virginia
Virginia will lower flags Monday to honor the life and legacy of Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax. It appears that Virginia will begin taking a long over [...]
She Didn’t Need Better Boundaries. She Needed Him to Respect Them.
One of the best docuseries that I have seen about "forced interaction" resulting in prolonged stalking is the Hulu docuserie [...]
Exploring the Link Between Enmeshment and Male Violence: Breaking Unhealthy Cycles
"You see one, you see the other."It is so hard to intervene because, by the time people outside of the relationship notice [...]
Preserving Women’s Energy for Liberating Women and Girls: Girl Child Marriage in Nepal
Can you imagine being pressured to center males in work for women and girls in a world where there is still girl-child marriage? Little girl [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every [...]
You Can Support Human Rights and Ask for Safety
You are allowed to care about people—and care about your own protection.
You are allowed to believe in just [...]
🛑 When “Being Nice” Becomes Dangerous: Reclaiming Boundaries After Trauma
The Very Idea
For years, people walked all over my boundaries.
And I let them.
Not because I didn’t care [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon—Keep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for others, before you take on the weight of t [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
Abuse Isn’t About Rage. It’s About Control.
👁️ See It ClearlyWatch who people protect — and who they hurt.
Watch who they challenge — and who they stay silent around.Women.
Children.
[...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
