When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency. And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief. What we are [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this." At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
People Locked the Door: Why the Voting Rights Act Should Still Exist Powerfully w/audio
Congressman John Lewis was beaten while fighting for voting rights.
On March 7, 1965, during the Selma voting rights march across the Edmund Pettus B [...]
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Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself For As Long As I Can
Big Mama Thornton, who originally recorded the classic song "Hound Dog", was a pioneering artist who broke barriers and demanded respect in a ma [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
⭐ Signs Black Women Describe When They’re Being Treated Poorly During Pregnancy
These stories in the news around Black maternal health always hit home for me. I have publicly shared my pregnancy ordeal and how horrible racism is [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Factitious Disorder
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Why They Call It Identity Politics When We’re Just Naming the Wound
The term “identity politics” has become almost like a lightning rod in modern conversation. But beneath the noise, the resistance to it reveals a deep [...]
Surviving Abuse: A History of Rape
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The War on Women Hits Another Low: Maternal Deaths
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Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into lab [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
updated from June 8 2025 We are not just Black.We are not just women....or girlsWe are Black women and Blac [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is of [...]
And Why Don’t Black Women Call the Police? (Graphic video posted by Ben Crump)
“The Constitution they wrote was designed to protect the rights of white, male citizens. As there were no bl [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirect [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not t [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025 Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
13 Powerful Truths About Womanism: A Pathway to Liberation, Healing, and Community
When people ask why I embrace Womanism, I say this: It tells the whole truth. It acknowledges what many of us already know in our bones—ou [...]
This Never Happens: Happens Again
updated from March 20 2022
“That never happens.” Not because people who say it are always cruel.Often, afraid of truths that could make [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrity—that is not love [...]
15 Powerful Lessons Women Can Learn from the Life of Gloria Richardson
Gloria Richardson wasn’t just part of history—she made it. A fearless strategist, unapologetic truth-teller, and radical Black w [...]
✊🏾 Support Young Black Women Who Speak Out
In recent years, we've witnessed something powerful:Young Black women—public figures, artists, creators—standing up, speaking out, and seeking safet [...]
Why Women Deserve the Same Freedom We Give Men — Without Criticism or Control
“I get out of all your boxes, I get out.You can’t hold me in these chains.”
Lauryn Hill/I Get Out” (MTV Unplugged 2.0)
Freedom for women m [...]
Essential Advice on Living Long and Thriving Through Tyranny
Alice Walker once said, "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker Listen, lea [...]
Maleness Is Portable Power: 20 Reasons Women Are Still Asked to Move Over
updated from June 22, 2025
Nina Simone's song, “Four Women," is powerful because each woman has been made into someone else’s story.
Aunt Sarah i [...]
Civil Rights Treasures from the March on Washington: Gloria Richardson
Civil Rights Pioneer Gloria Richardson, 91, on How Women Were Silenced at 1963 March on Washington | Democracy Now!
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They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
🌿 Healing Means Lowering Your Chaos Tolerance
Healing involves lowering chaos tolerance—not by becoming fragile, but by refusing to live in constant emotional emergency. This might mean: C [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe around women and children.
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