Unveiling the Truth: Why Women’s Bathroom Rights Matter
When I was a kid, the cartoon Quickdraw McGraw was a must-watch retro cartoon. At 36 seconds you can hear Quickdraw say one of [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Your Vocal Power: Podcast Selections for Survivors this Week
From WE Survive Abuse podcast. Stories of inspiration for Survivors of powerful women including: Sonya Ivanoff, Harriet Tubman, Marilyn Van [...]
Can White Women Deny Black Women Womanhood? (audio)
Womanhood is about character, lessons, wisdom, & journey but there is a troubling social assertion that white women denying Black women woma [...]
The Gift of Access to YOU (audio/podcast)
This episode unpacks how those lessons of survival can linger into adulthood, making us feel like we owe access to anyone who asks.....How often [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022LISTEN HEREBlack women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
Where Coercion Is the Law, Truth Cannot Live
Where coercion is the law, truth cannot live.
When the rules are written to force silence,to demand submission,to prioritize appearances over [...]
The Dangerous Myth of the First-Time Offender: Why So Much Violence Comes With a History
Another week. More headlines.
Three fathers allegedly killed family members. Their ENTIRE family. Com [...]
When Our Words Teach Them What’s “Normal” About Violence
If we’re spending more time excusing violence—saying we “understand” or “forgive” men who hurt women—than we a [...]
“But Is It Abuse?” — The Quiet Ways Harm Hides in Plain Sight
Every day, people ask themselves:"Is this abuse?"
Because sometimes the harm doesn’t leave bruises.It doesn’t [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’ [...]
The “Dying Alone” Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we follow feminism, womanism, or choose to remain un [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
Why the world would end without health care providers
The only health care solution resources you will ever need. The unconventional guide to primary preventions. How not knowing cholesterol levels makes [...]
Concern Trolling: When Fake Concern Masks Control Over Women’s Lives
"I'm just looking out for you."
"I'm just trying to help you out."
January 13, 2025 (original)
Concern trolling is a tactic that [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundarie [...]
🌀 Absent Boundaries, Beliefs Can Penetrate and Redefine a Space
Absent boundaries, anyone can use their beliefs to penetrate a space.
History shows us this truth. From the earliest days of colonization, invaders u [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise, [...]
I’m Not Angry at Other Women — I’m Committed to the Whole Truth
I'm not angry at other women.Not even the ones who shame, silence, or mock.Not even the ones who call truth-te [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. [...]
American Violet and the Fight to Remain the Expert on Your Own Life
Control rarely begins with chains. It often begins with convincing people that their own eyes, ears, memory, and judgment cannot be tr [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave the silence first.”[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Most people will tell you Lucy [...]
Zainab Jama Is the Voice So Many Girls Have Been Waiting For
Zainab Jama, Miss World Somalia 2025, is not just a beauty queen—She is a truth-teller.A torchbearer.A fierce, unflinching voice for girls [...]
Respect the “No”: Why We Must Use Caution in Entertainer Interviews
When an actor or entertainer says they do not want to engage in certain kinds of scenes—intimate, violent, or otherwise—that boundary deserv [...]
This Never Happens: Happens Again
updated from March 20 2022
“That never happens.”Not because people who say it are always cruel.Often, afraid of truths that could make [...]
🖤 It Isn’t Discipline. It’s Domination Disguised as a Lesson.
(Inspired by “How Abusers Place Themselves Above Accountability” — WeSurviveAbuse.com)
Racism often hides ins [...]
Why Saying ‘Not This Person’ Endangers Children More Than It Protects Truth
Enough! Enough rushing to protect your favorite men. Isn't that how we got here?
There is a new trend here in [...]
Survivor Mary Lumpkin: The Woman Who Turned a Place of Pain Into a Place of Promise
Before history knew her as a symbol, Mary Lumpkin was a woman.
She was a mother. A Survivor. A p [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense. [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Stop Calling It ‘Inclusion’ If You Aren’t Providing ‘Safety’ for ALL
"Institutionally, we still don't understand what inclusion means. Just because you invite someone into a space, but you don't provide the necessary re [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
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