When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ+ community respond to Prince's response insist that he had no right to say no because he was per [...]
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Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself For As Long As I Can
Big Mama Thornton, who originally recorded the classic song "Hound Dog", was a pioneering artist who broke barriers and demanded respect in a ma [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate: His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused. "He is trying to change but sometim [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
Please Stop Signaling Support to Grown Men Accused of Harming Children
Start Showing Up for the People Who Need It Most
When someone is arrested for harming a child,we do not need adults jumping online or into rooms to s [...]
Why Boundaried Spaces Matter for Women and Girls
Spaces Are Seldom Neutral
Every room, circle, or gathering carries intention. A healing circle, a classroom, [...]
Imagine If We Told Men to “Be Kind” as Often as We Tell Women
You can absolutely tell who is male and who is female. Men have been raging at NataleeBFitness all week long [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black wom [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose t [...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, H [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traf [...]
When Survivors Speak, They Name the Wound—Not the Excuse (w/affirmations)
For abusive persons, there are few human beings perfect enough to be worthy of justice. Tonya GJ Prince [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
👉🏾 Victim [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shoc [...]
Manhood Won’t Shatter If We Tell the Truth
There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way.
Because this seems to be a truth eve [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading acco [...]
At the Intersection of Surviving and Healing Racial Trauma
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Who’s Really Saying “Stop Harming Her”?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.”
Too often, when violence is committed against a [...]
Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Don’t Call It a Favor
The nerve—the absolute gall—to act like you're doing us a favor by ending discrimination.
By “allowing” Black people, especial [...]
Sex-Based Boundaries Are NOT Jim Crow
Lately, we’ve seen more people comparing sex-based boundaries for women and girls (like in shelters, sports, prisons, bathrooms) to Jim Crow-era racia [...]
Some “Justice Movements” Are Enabling Harm Against Women and Children. We Need to Talk About It.
Not every movement that says it stands for “justice” is safe for women and children.
Some of them mean well. Some don’t.But too many of them are pr [...]
MINK! — My Mom Fought For Title IX, but It Almost Didn’t Happen | Op-Docs
Original post: May 4, 2023They never wanted women and girls to have safety and fairness in sports.Equality, sports, and Title IX - Erin Buzuvis and Kr [...]
Maleness Is Portable Power: 20 Reasons Women Are Still Asked to Move Over
updated from June 22, 2025
Nina Simone's song, “Four Women," is powerful because each woman has been made into someone else’s story.
Au [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
