✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look [...]
The Gate That Didn’t Trust Anyone (podcast episode)
The Gate That Didn't Trust AnyoneAt first glance, it's just an old wooden gate.It squeaks when it opens. It always swings shut. It stands quietly [...]
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The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Silence Serves Predators: Listen to Your Inner Voice Before You Explain It Away (audio)
Have you ever had a feeling about someone and talked yourself out of it?
Not because nothing happened.
But because you could not explain it cleanly [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence,no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime.Cyberstalking looks like:Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
Violence Against Women: Black Women Interventions & Courage
Sometimes discussions with others outside of the Black community, especially around racism, quickly travel to a classic defense tactic: "W [...]
Maya Angelou Went Silent After Trauma. What Her Story Can Teach Us About Children Who Cannot Speak
There is something else we should remember when reading the childhood stories of Maya Angelou, or anyone else who survived something overwhelming Adul [...]
You Don’t Have to Stay Where You’re Not Safe
Some of us are trying to bloom in gardens that were never planted for us.
We show up with our hands full—band [...]
Heal—So They Can’t Use Your Wounds Against You
One of the hardest, most necessary truths:Unhealed wounds are vulnerable to manipulation.
There are people [...]
My Partner Suddenly Changed His Beliefs or Lifestyle and Now Demands That I Change Too. Is That Normal?”
Here's the thing. “Real transformation invites partnership, not submission. True faith doesn’t need a cage—it [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an i [...]
The Sylvia Plath Story Many Women Never Heard: Domestic Violence, Suicide and the Suffering We May Be Missing
I thought I knew Sylvia Plath. I swear I did. I mean how you "know" a person you study. I liked her work, and time and again I answered college-level [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreact [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but lit [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark [...]
Part 2: Why I Resist Diluted Language
But self-knowledgeBut self-knowledgeThe reason I refuse diluted language is because I have watched institutions dilute women's experiences f [...]
WE Survive Abuse Book Club: The Quiet Zone
The Quiet Zone authored by Petal Kimberly SamuelThere is a kind of quiet that feels like freedom.The house after everyone has gone to sleep. S [...]
You’re Not Broken. You Were Trained to Survive Chaos.
Some of us were raised in rooms where silence was survival.
Where love came with conditions, and peace was always paid for in self-abandonment.
We l [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient [...]
Keeping the Peace When Violence Around the World Escalates
Which Violence is Acceptable?Stress is known to affect individuals differently, and unfortunately, some people might resort to harmful [...]
10 Powerful Facts About Hattie Canty – A Working-Class Warrior
Via social media, Attorney Ben Crump put me onto this amazing woman!Hattie Canty wasn’t born into power, money, or fame. She [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writ [...]
When They Say ‘All Women,’ Listen Closely to Who Is Missing with Reflecting Questions
Because clarity is how women find themselves againwhen the world keeps speaking fluently in half-truths.
&nbs [...]
Why Is It Always Supposed to Be Feminists’ Job to End Rape? (FAQ Style)
Women are not responsible for fixing every wound the world refuses to face.
When people tal [...]
🌺 Believing Yourself First: A Return to the Oldest Wisdom You Have
Before the world taught you to doubt yourself,before people gaslit you into second-guessing your own heartbeat,you knew.
You knew what you felt.You k [...]
Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave the silence first.”[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Most people will tell you Lucy [...]
🌱 10 Signs You’re Reclaiming Yourself After Abuse
update from May 9 2025
Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Healing doesn’t always look like big wins and bold declaratio [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
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