Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doe [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. Itâs not just personal â itâs polit [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Jo [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
đŁ In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You Theyâre Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesnât take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes ju [...]
Sexual Assaults at American Festivals: Freaknik
In the beginning, there was fun!Freaknik, a spring break party and young Black cultural gathering held in Atla [...]
Trauma Does Not Always Look Like Trauma
We tend to imagine trauma as someone crying when they remember something terrible.Sometimes it looks nothi [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
âWhen the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.â
Why do men ki [...]
Living in the Aftermath: The Intersection of Domestic Violence and Permanent Disability
The Shadow of the Incident: When Blame Outlives the Act
There is a specific kind of cruelty that exists when a perpetrator not only destroys a pe [...]
10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, âNowâs not the time.âThey say, âItâs not that serious.âThey say, âBe the bigger person.âThey say, âOther people have it worse.â
And just li [...]
Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Donât Call It a Favor
The nerveâthe absolute gallâto act like you're doing us a favor by ending discrimination.
By âallowingâ Black people, especial [...]
Where Are All the Women’s Rights Activists? Vol 2
Where Are All the Feminists?Probably working to raise awareness, funding, and support for these issues. TOO.If you find yourself asking, "where [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
 In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language:
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Male Violence
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Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
âPower borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the wei [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
Youâve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you [...]
You Donât Find Your People By What They PostâYou Find Them By What They Protect
"I donât want to hear you say, 'Honey, Iâm behind you.' Well, move, I donât want you back there because you [...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But letâs be honest.Refusing to listen to women? Thatâs the first red flag.
It [...]
đ„ Druella Jones (Aunt Jonas), Alabama, 1915: The Woman Who Lit A Fire Freedom Remembers
updated from May 16 2025
Some women today get married on plantations.
OG rebellious women lit a match
and tried to burn that torture chamber d [...]
Black Women Do Not Ever Have to Sacrifice Safety to Prove Solidarity
And do not use Black peopleâs current struggle as a cloak for taking from women. Black women know both histories too well to be fooled by th [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
updated from November 18 2025
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in mater [...]
Here He Is! The Man Who Started the Man vs Bear Debate Speaks
The debate around whether or not women would rather face a strange man in the woods or a bear took on a life of its own and the men ar [...]
Womenâs Right to Choose: The Fight Isnât Over
"If it tries to diminish me, my health,Â
my safety, Â
my ascendance,Â
or my rights,
 it is unacceptable, to me [...]
When Deception Increases Risk for Children
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The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to h [...]
đż My Self-Soothe Journal
đż My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud⊠and your nervous [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. Itâs About Access to Humanity.
Letâs talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
 When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came out, people were amazed.
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How did this go on [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover.Some are in prison.Some are in b [...]
