Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I [...]
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio)
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio recording) [...]
Stop Telling Black Women to Be Silent—Our Bodies Are Paying the Price. (podcast episode)
Black women are not “overreacting”—we are responding to what our bodies have been forced to carry for generations. The pressure to ignore racism, to s [...]
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio) [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as your t [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
When Survivors See Through Lies, We Refuse to Pretend (audio/podcast)
In her career, Tonya GJ Prince has had the honor of encountering thousands of bold and courageous Survivors. With discretion, she shares one [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
FAQ: Common Perpetrators, Race, and Bias — What U.S. Parents Must Know About CSAM
You can't find what you are not looking for.
Knowledge is power. And when adults refuse to see the truth, perpetrators are protected, children are [...]
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit (on audio)
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19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit [...]
The Hidden Truth: Media Silence on Male Violence Against Women and Girls
image credit: weaveinc.org (💜) She is not a sex worker, she’s a victim of sex trafficking. The two [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirect [...]
Chameleon: If I Assume Your Identify I Can Tell Everyone That You Are Doing Fine
We have seen kidnappers assume the victim's identity and then text the family & friends that&nbs [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Vintage Sexist Ads
updated from June 24, 2022
A Grounding Perspective
Looking back visually can feel startling because images b [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rur [...]
Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
We have chosen to be a nation t [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinite [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too man [...]
What the Data Doesn’t Say—But Survivors KNOW
Source: U.S. Sentencing Commission, FY 2024 Datafile,
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Quick Facts at a Gla [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common thi [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, afforda [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to surv [...]
The “Dying Alone” Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we follow feminism, womanism, or choose to [...]
Inclusion Includes Boundaries and Safety
Sometimes a mutual on social media posts something that makes you clarify your position even more. updated 2025
Sometimes a mutu [...]
The Salem Witch Trials Were Never Just About “Witches”
History likes to tell it as if Salem was a fever dream about broomsticks and black cats. That has always been the cover story. You need one when you [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our children, how we decide what is right and what is wrong. But belief can also be t [...]
Women Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too
“There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."
― Madeleine Albright
Since we are doing throw back comparisons these days, [...]
WE Are the Calvary: Believing the Silence
I thought you’d speak when they put rapists in women’s prisonsI thought you’d speak when a man was made CEO of a rape shelterI thought you’d s [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-truths to guilt others into giving up spaces that were built for survival.
So let’ [...]
We Don’t Police Each Other—We Challenge Power
Power.That’s the word they fear most when it rises in a Black woman’s mouth.
Our liberation will never be foundin tearing down each other’s choices.N [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who w [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
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