If the Mind Believes What It Hears Most — What Are We Teaching It About Safety?
There’s a reason children learn the alphabet through songs.There’s a reason faith traditions chant.
There’s a reason we remember “I [...]
They Made Her Wear Trousers. Then Mattie Crawford Refused (audio ep)
What happens when somebody else has the institutional power to decide what kind of woman you are—and the power to punish you when you refuse to obey?
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Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
She Burned Her Writing for J.D. Salinger: Claire Douglas and the Cost of Disappearing for Love (podcast ep)
Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, plays and es [...]
Stay Woke: When a Warning is Turned to a Punchline
Watching language warning about life or death flatten into a "trend".... is frustrating. “‘Stay woke’ began as a warning, not a trend. Thi [...]
Katoucha Niane: Her Beauty Made Headlines. Her Courage Deserves History.
There are some women whose photographs become famous while the most important thing they did receives far less attention.Katoucha Niane was one of [...]
The Divorce Was Inevitable: We Never Chose This Marriage
No one asked women anything.
People just kept telling women how they "ought to" and "must" feel.-TGJP
This is a very scary time for some women.Bec [...]
“Say the Right Words and Walk Right In” Was Always Stupid AF
Women should not have to wait for a man to demonstrate the danger before anyone respects the warning.....T [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line to mean that Black women must always be t [...]
🚨 Listen Closely. Believe Them.
Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us.
But I urge [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our children, how we decide what is right and [...]
What Does It Really Mean To Be Socialized As a Woman?
To be socialized as a woman means to be trained — subtly and overtly — in what the world expects from those born female. It’s a lifetime of unspoken l [...]
🛑 When “Being Nice” Becomes Dangerous: Reclaiming Boundaries After Trauma
The Very Idea
For years, people walked all over my boundaries.
And I let them.
Not because I didn’t care.Not because I wanted mistreatment.
I l [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update.
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Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thous [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silenceLet’s tell the truth—beca [...]
Inclusion Includes Boundaries and Safety
Sometimes a mutual on social media posts something that makes you clarify your position even more. updated 2025
Sometimes a mutu [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today:“I [...]
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Washington Nurse Reveals Horrific Jail Conditions for Women Housed with Violent Men
It is insane AND inhumane to house women in confined spaces with males, especially men convicted of violent crimes. What is wrong with US?! [...]
20 Affirmations and A Note for Those Who Feel Troubled by What They’re Seeing.
Until we choose to have honest, difficult conversations about sexual violators and those who cause harm, they will continue to multiply.
Si [...]
2024 Femicide Reports Around the World
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Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.When a crisis emerges somewhere [...]
Ride Hail Assault Isn’t Rare—It’s Underreported
updated August 2025
Every day, people step into rideshare vehicles hoping to get from point A to point B. But [...]
Stop Shaming Survivors. Start Shaming Abusers.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Survivors should not be met with interrogation, suspicion, or scorn.They should not have [...]
The Lost Secret of Child Sexual Abuse: I Love a Survivor, My Pain Has a Voice Too
ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help. You wanted to [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised a [...]
Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally, the older that I get, the more conservative I tend to be with my energy flow.
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You Are Not Overreacting: The Truth About Racism and Dismissal (w/Affirmations)
“Being asked to ignore degradation is not an invitation to be strong. It is an invitation to disappear. And you were never meant to disappear.”
For S [...]
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
“I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
