💔 When the Weight Is More Than Weight: Understanding the Link Between Trauma and Body Size
I know. This is sensitive territory. This is my battle too.
As a Survivor, I know how heartless, cruel, and unkind people can [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as your t [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency. And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief. What we are [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit (on audio)
Latest episode of WESurviveAbusePodcast.com
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit [...]
Motherhood in the Shadow of Violence
Motherhood has often been romanticized in myths and sentiment, yet the brutal reality remains: for many women, pregnancy and early motherhood are hig [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
[...]
You Were Seeking Safety, Not Sex: A Truth for Survivors of Childhood Abuse
When a child is sexually abused, too much of the truth gets twisted by more vocal and crafty adults. And children and those who are now adults strugg [...]
🔥 “You Look Like a Man”? That’s Not an Observation. That’s an Attack. 🔥
Still, I Rise BY MAYA ANGELOU
You may write me down in history with your bitter, twisted lies.........
A [...]
5 Ways Women Are the Shock Absorbers of Patriarchy
Women are expected to absorb disrespect quietly, so systems can keep running smoothly.
When men har [...]
Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy. In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice [...]
How Audre Lorde Taught Us to See Women Fully
Audre Lorde wasn’t just a poet—she was a warrior. A Black feminist, lesbian, mother, and activist who refuse [...]
You Didn’t Know Him. She Did. He Killed Her.
He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives. [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. S [...]
I uncovered the DARK TRUTH about my grandparents… | The Moth
Growing up, Angela loved spending time with her grandfather who became a widower at a young age. But when he p [...]
Stay Out of Her Healing, You Weren’t There.
This is not about whether you think she was right or wrong.This is not about your definition of accountability [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ Prince Every single year, thous [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can ident [...]
Safe Father Figures: 5 Powerful Ways to Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
In a world where too many children face harm in silence, safe father figures—biological, step, chosen, [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Spotlight on IDVAAC: A Legacy of Protecting Black Survivors
Because we deserve more than band-aids. We deserve truth, safety, and justice—designed with us in mind. What Is IDVAAC?
The Instit [...]
When Love Puts You in Danger: How Domestic Violence Impacts Friends
One day we will
learn to stop
blaming women and
girls for the safeguarding and
boundaries we deploy
[...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already s [...]
Valaida Snow: The Black American Jazz Star Caught in Nazi-Occupied Europe
There are some women history remembers only halfway. It remembers the stage, but not the wound. It remembers the gown, but not the pri [...]
🎯 General Categories Protect the Powerful, Not the Vulnerable
We are often told that broad categories are a sign of unity.That we should all just fall under one banner:
“Women.”
“People of color.” [...]
How People Lose Themselves: One Compromise at a Time
We don't do any of ourselves any favors when we believe that coercion, abuse, and loss of rights happen to "stupid or weak people".
People in abusive [...]
Joan Little: First Woman Acquitted of Murder for Defense Against Sexual Assault
updated 8/19/2025 I want to make this clear. There is no bragging in this post. No, "look the first woman was Black." That is extremely intere [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
Survivors Speak Truth: John Lewis Speaks Truth on Black America’s Fight for Justice
updated from September 20, 2025
Proverbs 12:19 puts it this way..... “Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people unco [...]
