No Predator Has the Authority to Rename Violence As a “Right.”
Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability.The [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our truths can empower others to d [...]
The Gift of Access to YOU (audio/podcast)
This episode unpacks how those lessons of survival can linger into adulthood, making us feel like we owe access to anyone who asks.....How often [...]
Stop Telling Black Women to Be Silent—Our Bodies Are Paying the Price. (podcast episode)
Black women are not “overreacting”—we are responding to what our bodies have been forced to carry for generations. The pressure to ignore racism, to s [...]
Solidarity is Reciprocal: Black American Women Are Allowed to Ask What Comes Back Across the Bridge (podcast episode)
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?If you are able, you defin [...]
The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]
Conniving Distractions: What Was She Wearing?
When the focus is on the what the victim was wearing and not on the behavior and actions of the person who harmed the victim.
[...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in enough courtrooms to know this:When a white def [...]
Sometimes the Lessons From Your Lived Experiences Intimidate Others
This "teacher braiding" conversation speaks to a much larger issue.
The inability to hv conversations
arou [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics use [...]
Sexual Assaults at American Festivals: Freaknik
In the beginning, there was fun!Freaknik, a spring break party and young Black cultural gathering held in Atla [...]
We Didn’t Come This Far for Crumbs
A handful of men hold the feast, while women and darker-skinned people are told to survive on crumbs.Why [...]
Who Will Find Missing Women and Girls?
updated from September 25, 2023
For over thirty years I have been dedicated to working to end violence against women and girls.
Along the way, I wor [...]
Calling Out the Undermining of Women and Children’s Rights
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."— UnknownJonah Wheeler has been lec [...]
Our Safety Isn’t a Punchline: Standing Strong Against Ridicule
Women’s safety isn’t a joke. Ain't a damn thing "funny" about it.Yet, whenever we gather the courage t [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You kn [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.T [...]
Why Some People Fear the Truth About Domination
There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of faci [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/lovesThere’s a saying that floats around on [...]
Beautiful Before Anyone Gave Permission: Remembering Victoria Santa Cruz
I went to grade school with a girl who might put you on the mind of the loveliness of Nina Simone or Victoria Santa Cruz. People were extremely cruel [...]
When the Bank Said No: How Credit Laws Once Trapped Survivors in Abuse
Before we begin, a word to younger generations: Please extend grace to the women who came before you.
Many older women didn’t stay in abusi [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
Shirley Chisholm
& [...]
🔥 Self-Sourced Power: When the World Won’t Crown You, You Crown Yourself
There comes a time in the life of every Survivor, every truth-teller, every woman who’s been underestimated, overlooked, or left to fend for [...]
Organizations Endorsing Sexualizing Children: World Health Organization
We no longer have time to be shocked, surprised, and astonished. Once reliable organizations that c [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quie [...]
There is a Difference Between: “I Want This and I Do Not Want This”
updated from July 31 2016
Consensual sex and sexual violence are not the same.
They are not close.They ar [...]
Losing Three Icons, Carrying Their Light: The Power of Musical Legacy
Angie Stone’s Music Pulled Us Through—And Now, She’s Gone.Angie Stone has passed, and somehow, it still doesn’t feel real.
During one of my lowes [...]
Survivor Affirmation: Challenges Teach Me Valuable Lessons
Challenges Teach Me Valuable LessonsWhen I encounter challenging situations, I avoid running away from them. Being able to face obstacles gives me a c [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
