Survivor Affirmations: Fear Exists to Teach Us
Male human beings have no idea what what qualifies as a "valid fear" for a female human being. Fear [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their actions can reveal their true intentions. In this episode, we empower you with the knowledge to ide [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
Healing Alone Isn’t a Weakness—It’s a Sacred Survival Strategy
Some of us were raised in surveillance. Silence is sacred. Solitude is survival.
There’s a rush these days—to gather, to circle up, to "process" ever [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
The Parable of Silencing, Denial, and the Truth That Returned
🕯 The Parable of the Crooked Weaver
Once, in a small village wrapped in forest and silence, there lived a ski [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our children, how we decide what is right and [...]
The Question Was Safety—The Answer Was Shame
She didn’t ask for special treatment.She didn’t ask for a platform, a parade, or a prize.
She asked for saf [...]
🔥 “Why Does My Safety Offend You?” — When Women Ask for Boundaries and Other Women Dare to Try to Shut Us Down
“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate pred [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot sca [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their h [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirect [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, A [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide. We keep saying it. “We can’t bring her back, but justice was served.” We say it after t [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Ugandan British Nurse Punished for Calling Convicted Male Pedophile “Mr” (update)
Updated 8/3/25 So the latest update is that Jennifer Melle has been suspended. Extremely disappointing. She was providing care t [...]
Pimps Are Always Bad: The Unseen Ways Men Traffic and Exploit Women
Pimps are not icons. They are not comedic relief. They are not "cool." They are not "bosses." They are exploiters, traffickers, an [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcom [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to keep others "comfortable".
And then.....on [...]
When Communities Celebrate Predators: The Cost of Uplifting R. Kelly in Black Spaces
Stop making abuse a softer crime just because the beat is familiar.
Let me just get this sentence out so I can be done:
Must we use every Bl [...]
Why Do They Say We’re “Against Men” Just Because We Want to Be Safe?
Don’t fall for it. Promise yourself that you will not fall for it.
Don’t fall for the guilt traps, the twisting of truth, the smooth talk that tel [...]
America’s Hidden Shame: Confronting the Femicide Rates in the US
Femicide, defined as the gender-based killing of women and girls, remains a critical issue in the United States. While comprehensive national da [...]
Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
Survivor advocacy has always required naming what endangers women and children — even when it’s unpopular. This isn’t the kind of work that earns a [...]
Maleness Is Portable Power: 20 Reasons Women Are Still Asked to Move Over
updated from June 22, 2025
Nina Simone's song, “Four Women," is powerful because each woman has been made into someone else’s story.
Au [...]
When Leaders Forget Autonomy: A Reminder from Survivors Who’ve Had Enough
For Survivors, who are used to having their autonomy taken or dismissed, this can feel particularly uncomfortable.Leaders — whether public figures, ad [...]
The Lynching of Assault Victim Marie Scott: How Slavery’s Logic Still Shapes Our Lives
There is no clean ending to something that was never fully confronted. Ending violence, abuse, and harm requires us to tell the truth without dilutio [...]
If the Harm Is Precise, Our Words Must Be Precise
I see you. You see me. We see one another.
There are groups who are targeted because of who they are — yet the moment they try to name that truth, pe [...]
