The Double Standard: Why Black Women Carry Everyone Else’s Accountability
Some people judge Black women as if influence comes with a lifetime warranty on another person's integrity...
This is not a defense of O [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
People Locked the Door: Why the Voting Rights Act Should Still Exist Powerfully w/audio
Congressman John Lewis was beaten while fighting for voting rights.
On March 7, 1965, during the Selma voting rights march across the Edmund Pettus B [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
Before You Judge, Listen: Black Men’s Medical Trauma Is Real
I'm not just speaking from a place of advocacy to victims. I'm speaking as a relative and friend who has had occasion to come alongside a male and aid [...]
🧩 REARTICULATION: When the System Repackages Harm in New Clothes
WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS:
The systems we fight do not always come with burning cro [...]
Dating Preferences Aren’t Just Preferences. Women Have Always Been Choosing Something Deeper.
"People online kept saying, 'Preferences are for pizza. Not people.'
I understood what they were trying to sa [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quie [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you [...]
Not Like Us: The Black Freedom Legacy Was Not Built on Unquestioning Institutional Compliance
There is a pattern that deserves daylight.Some movements wrap themselves in the language, symbolism, and moral authority of the Black American fre [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Honor My Journey and Reclaim My Energy
Anytime you put your time, energy, and heart into something you take a risk. It may not turn out as you had hoped. That part always hurts.Still [...]
When Men’s Feelings Matter More Than Women’s Safety: Recognizing Everyday Misogyny
Mobility restriction is a term widely used in human rights, disability studies, public health, criminology, and violence prevention because mobility i [...]
Why Dismissing Boundaries Around the “N-Word” is a Form of Cultural Gaslighting
Until the killing of Black men, Black mothers' sons, becomes as important to the rest of the country as the killing of a white mother's son, we who be [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
When Did You Decide That Female Human Beings Are Not Even Worthy of Having a Word to Describe Themselves?
For your consideration:
Female erasure is hardly a new concept. It is estimated that nearly due to female infanticide and sex-selective [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of [...]
Imagine If We Told Men to “Be Kind” as Often as We Tell Women
You can absolutely tell who is male and who is female. Men have been raging at NataleeBFitness all week long [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in s [...]
Twelve Steps to Danger: How Alcoholics Anonymous Can Be a Playground for Violence-Prone Members (from ProPublica)
Karla Brada Mendez thought that she was getting a second chance on life when she started going to AA meetings. [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
The Truth About External Validation: What It Builds, It Can Destroy
The Queen is the most powerful piece on the chess board.
We all need connection. We all need recognition. But when external validation be [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family wh [...]
Not Every Ugly Moment Is Abuse: Why Survivors Need Us to Keep Our Language Precise
I happened upon a story on social media recently about a long marriage.It was the kind of family story many of us recognize. Two peo [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.Wh [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
🧩 Oppressive Systems Are Built to Erase Specificity
We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, generalize, and erase.
They pretend to be “fair” by treating everyone the same—bu [...]
When Misinformation Spreads, Survivors Suffer: Meghann Cuniff’s Steady Voice in a Chaotic Case
So, Meghann Cuniff.The Megan Thee Stallion case didn’t just expose a violent act.It exposed a culture — one that treats Black women’s pain lik [...]
Lawrence on the lesson of the Platner campaign: Always wait for the vetting
We must have wisdom in our voting and political process. We live in a society that hungers for things adjacent to the new and the yo [...]
