Disrespect Is Not a Small Thing—It’s a Pattern, a Wound, and a Warning (Quotes)
Disrespect is more than just “rudeness.”It is a dehumanizing act—a subtle (or loud) reminder that someone sees you as less than.Less wort [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this." At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
People Locked the Door: Why the Voting Rights Act Should Still Exist Powerfully w/audio
Congressman John Lewis was beaten while fighting for voting rights.
On March 7, 1965, during the Selma voting rights march across the Edmund Pettus B [...]
Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]
When Girls’ Boundaries Are Rebranded as “Hate” (featuring Boundary Setting video from Dr. Tracey Marks)
updated from November 5, 2022
"You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you.
But a male has every potential to AND be excus [...]
UPDATE: How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse and 5 Questions to Change That
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
What Is DARVO? How It Harms Black Women and Black Girls
DARVO is a pattern some harmful people use when they are confronted.
It stands for:
DenyThey deny what happened.
AttackThey attack the person who s [...]
🌿Healing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Else’s Agenda
Survivors are not projects to be shaped.They are people who deserve safety, clarity, and freedom.
Many Surviv [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survi [...]
65 Beliefs Some Men Hold About Women: Control, Boundaries, and the Fight for Choice
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they wan [...]
Essential Advice on Living Long and Thriving Through Tyranny
Alice Walker once said, "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't h [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of t [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submi [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise, [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress f [...]
Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy. In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice [...]
❓FAQ: What’s Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to c [...]
Minimizing Chronic Pain Can Be Dangerous and Deadly (impactful Tiktok video story)
Pain hurts in a way that words fail. Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—unin [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Access to Women Is Not a Male Human Right
There is something deeply revealing about the world we live in.
You cannot rent a car without agreeing to terms....and a credit card.
You [...]
Black History Month Means Honoring the Humanity of the Women Who Loved Us Here (Musical Playlist Included)
updated from 2/2/ 2025 Without Black women, the miracles of
Black history would not be possible.
So much of who [...]
🖤 12 Ways Black Women Are Harmed When Men Weaponize Oppressive Systems
🖤 1. Demanding Grace While Denying Ours
Black women are often expected to extend endless empathy, understanding, and forgiveness—especially [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
Mother of Environmental Justice: Hazel M. Johnson
updated from November 9 2024
Never forgetting the pioneering mothers of environmental justice and those who identified its roots in racism. [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
Beyond the Theory: Why We Still Need Audre Lorde, Our Warrior Poet
There are moments that reveal to you exactly who you are and why you better be clear about it all.
There is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes [...]
Speaking Truth for Girls in a World that Prefers Silence (audio)
Welcome to We Survive Abuse—a powerful, unapologetic space where Survivors’ voices take center stage. Hosted by Tonya GJ Prince, a veteran advocate wi [...]
When Black Women Speak About Violence, Too Many People Attack the Voice Instead of the Harm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk8VmR4KCA There is something very familiar happening around Is God Is. (The Color Purple? Eve's Bayou? Is [...]
Is Face ID a Danger for Women in Abusive Relationships?
“Convenience shouldn’t cost you your safety.” We don’t always talk about this, but we should:
Face ID (and other biometric features like fingerpri [...]
When Women Forget We Are Women
When women stop listening to other women about safety—when you say, “That never happens,” or “Who cares?”—you hand over our collective protection.
Yo [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
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