AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injus [...]
WE Survive Abuse Podcast Episodes (during the summer months we focus on reading to kids)
12 Unapologetic Truths: Your Rights as a Woman Are Unconditional (Audio/podcast)
Your rights as a woman are not up for debate. You don’t need permission, validation, or a committee vote to own your power. In this b [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
✋🏽10 Ways Men Have Tried to Define Womanhood (w/audio)
updated from April 18, 2025In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
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An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
CHILDREN DESERVE SAFETY
Black American History Lesson: What Happened to the First Private Black School for Girls in Connecticut?
I hope that these last few weeks have taught us to take history as a tool for learning lessons .....for everyone. Education is never a "scam".The [...]
VIOLATIONS
Stop Calling It “Race Baiting”: Black Maternal Death Is a Life-or-Death Reality (podcast episode)
Black women speaking about maternal death are not “race baiting.” This is a call-out of minimization, [...]
Unveiling the Truth: Why Women’s Bathroom Rights Matter
When I was a kid, the cartoon Quickdraw McGraw was a must-watch retro cartoon. At 36 seconds you ca [...]
🔥 “Why Does My Safety Offend You?” — When Women Ask for Boundaries and Other Women Dare to Try to Shut Us Down
“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate pred [...]
What We’ve Carried Was Never Meant for Us
They taught us early how to carry it.
The silence.The secrets.The shame.The duty.
They said it was o [...]
HEALING

UPDATE: How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse and 5 Questions to Change That
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. [...]

You Are Not Overreacting: The Truth About Racism and Dismissal (w/Affirmations)
“Being asked to ignore degradation is not an invitation to be strong. It is an invitation to disappear. And you were never meant to disappear.”
For S [...]

🔊 The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025Silence
“You have the right to remain silent.”
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]
HERSTORY/HISTORY
This Never Happens: Happens Again
updated from March 20 2022
“That never happens.”Not because people who say it are always cruel.Often, afraid of truths that could make the world [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Children Deserve Truth—And They Deserve Protection Too
In the wake of the Supreme Court decision regarding parental rights and LGBTQ+ curriculum opt-outs, many of us find ourselves sitting with complex emo [...]
END FEMICIDE
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independen [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torche [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.”But this isn’t t [...]
LEGAL/COURTROOM

The Kentler Project: When the German State Gave Children to Pedophiles
Yes, it is tragically true.
From the late 1960s through the 1990s, West Germany—specifically the government in West Berlin—knowingly placed vulnerabl [...]

Calling Out the Undermining of Women and Children’s Rights
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."— UnknownJonah Wheeler has been lec [...]

You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
LOVING SAFELY
Women Have Questions Around the Paris Olympics and That is a Great Thing
People still have questions. This is great. We are supposed to question changes, especially around women's rights, safety, and dignity. [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us ar [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation. May this book and resourc [...]
END RAPE
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most pe [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised a [...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so [...]
Why Don’t We Talk About Black Men Who Survived Childhood Abuse?
There are stories we rarely let breathe.The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — [...]
THE SHOP
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
MANIPULATION
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
The Disposability of the “Wrong” Women: A Call to Conscience (w/Affirmations)
There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic.
It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
ART IS HEALING

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling
originally published 11/20/2015 To tell your story, you are going to need the details of your stories. No one can tell [...]

CLOSED FOR RIOTS: How One Black Woman Riots Against Racism
Update: This was published August 30, 2015. Remember that day? I do. Driver Samuel DuBose was shot in the head by a ca [...]

🎤 Survival, Sisterhood, and Triumph: Honoring Salt-N-Pepa Enter the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame
When Salt-N-Pepa burst onto the scene, they didn't just make music — they made space.Space for women's voices. Space for bol [...]

UnSilenced: Betty White
In the 1950s, a period marked by segregation and racial discrimination, Betty White made a bold move on her variety show, "T [...]
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Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself For As Long As I Can
Big Mama Thornton, who originally recorded the classic song "Hound Dog", was a pioneering artist who broke barriers an [...]

They Loved the Style, Not the Black Woman: Esther Jones and the Betty Boop Lesson
updated from 11/1/23
Exploitation is a handthat smiles while taking.
It praises your light,then sells your [...]

Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation [...]

Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they wer [...]

Power UP! Lauryn Hill and Doechi at Jazz in the Gardens
updated from March 9 2025
You didn't ignore the neighborhood strays when you were sitting out on the porch. At firs [...]

The Velvet Rope Tour’s Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this [...]

Hip Hop’s Double Standard Around Gun Violence
#Hiphop this week: Earlier this week the community was mourning the death of Takeoff & the gun violence that snatched hi [...]

Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
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