Her Story Isn’t About Weakness. It’s About Knowing Who Can’t Be Trusted
Celebrity trials that encompass domestic violence and rape annoy me. A whole lot of people get to talking about victims like they kno [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency.And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief.What we are [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
The Empty Chair: When Solidarity Does Not Require Self-Abandonment (audio)
What happens when the desire to stand with others becomes a demand to disappear?In this episode of We Survive Abuse, “The Empty Chair” explore [...]
Juneteenth Reminds Us: Delayed Truth Still Matters (audio)
Freedom has always had an important relationship with truth.On Juneteenth, we remember a painful reality. Freedom had already been dec [...]
Why Women Should Fear Less About Being Called “Outsiders”
The Power of Being Labeled an Outsider
History shows us that women who were labeled “outsiders” often became the very women who changed t [...]
10 Great Reasons: Why Do We Care About Fairness in Female Sports?
Women leaders suddenly drawing a blank as to why fairness is important when it comes to other women and girls is infuriating. But for fairness, they w [...]
Watch The Joy Luck Club Again: 10 Things Women May See Differently Now…….
Some of us fell in love with The Joy Luck Club before we ever saw the movie.We carried Amy Tan's women around in our heads. Mothers. Daughters. Wo [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
Epistemic Control: When Someone Else Tries to Become the Author of Your Reality
The first step in controlling a person is often convincing them they cannot trust what they know. Viol [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name wh [...]
Your Safety Is More Important Than Politeness.
When you leave a relationship, your top priority is not etiquette.It’s not closure.It’s not being polite.And [...]
Why domestic violence advocates say the best way to help survivors is to give them back control
Abusers control. That’s their No. 1 tactic to keep domestic abuse survivors simultaneously afraid of them and yet reluctant to leave them. Be it con [...]
9 Reasons Survivors Build Their Own Healing Spaces (and Why That’s Sacred, Not Segregated)
People ask:“Why do you need your own healing space?”The answer is layered. Personal. Collective. Sacred.
Here’s why so many of us—especia [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future.Saying “no” is not crue [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking abou [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.Wh [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Sa [...]
“The Jennifer Melle Case: When Women’s Safety Loses to Male Protection — Even for a Convicted Child Predator”
Nurse Jennifer Melle was doing what few people would want to do: providing care — intimate, necessary, and skillful care — to a male prisoner convicte [...]
There Are No Magic Words That Grant Access to Our Boundaries
There are no magic words.
No title, no role, no identity, no costume, no tone of voice, no declaration of who you claim to be—
grants you automatic [...]
When Violence Enters the Home, Children Bleed Too—Even Without a Bruise.
Let’s stop pretending.
Let’s stop pretending that domestic violence is something that only happens “between the adults.”
Let’s stop pretending tha [...]
What The Women of Brewster Place Teaches Us About Access, Isolation, and the Right to Move Freely
Red flags aren't just about individual people's behavior. They are about systemic neglect, officials and leaders ignoring the community's ne [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth [...]
When He Stops Hiding the Harm, Start Protecting Your Life
When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen away. Shame is no longer holding him back. Reputation is no longer enou [...]
The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic
It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and o [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recomme [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. I want you to [...]
When You’re Silenced: How You Might Respond & Why It Matters
When people are silenced—whether by fear, trauma, or pressure from others—they don’t just stop talking. They find other ways to cope. Some of those [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them.
But you were never meant to be the onewho saves e [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
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