🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems o [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
The Role of Homeownership in Women’s Liberation: Domestic Violence and Homelessness (podcast/audio)
In this episode, explore the critical intersection of domestic violence and homelessness, revealing how 38% of women escaping abuse face hou [...]
Solidarity is Reciprocal: Black American Women Are Allowed to Ask What Comes Back Across the Bridge (podcast episode)
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?If you are able, you defin [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end.It bent sharply. Again and again.
Just when people thought they understood the terrain, t [...]
Own the Narrative: The Power of Storytelling Against Epistemicide
In a world where algorithms dictate whose voices are heard and whose truths are silenced, storytelling becomes an act of revolution. It is an act of [...]
The Tactic of Feigning Ignorance to Delay Justice and Accountability (Infographic)
When megastar Megan Thee Stallion was granted a protective order against fellow rapper Daystar Peterson (Tory Lanez) who is incarcerated for assaultin [...]
The Cost of Lying for Men: What Happens When Women Are Expected to “Protect Feelings” Instead of Tell the Truth
We’ve all seen it. Felt it. Been told to do it.
"Don't embarrass him."
"He's under a lot of stress.""Don’t ruin his life."
"It costs nothing to b [...]
Safety Hacks for Women’s Safety
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Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwin’s Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon—Keep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for ot [...]
Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
Survivor advocacy has always required naming what endangers women and children — even when it’s unpopular.[...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
E. Lynn Harris: The Visionary Black Author Who Gave Us Stories We’d Never Seen—But Always Needed
Long before mainstream platforms embraced diverse stories, he was doing the work. Out of the trunk of his car. In beauty salons. With Black wo [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
updated from June 8 2025We are not just Black.We are not just women....or girlsWe are Black women and Blac [...]
Stop Debating Women Into Danger: Saying You Care Is Not the Same as Protecting Women
When men debate whether women deserve safety, they are not having a conversation.
They are [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would ne [...]
When Power and Control Speaks, It Uses the Same Language
"I get to treat you horribly because I have decided that you are less than me."
Power and control don’t always look the same.But they always speak th [...]
This Is No Time for a Victory Lap: 35 Modern Dangers Women Are Still Being Pushed to Tolerate
Remember that race where the person winning started celebrating ....but forgot to officially cross the finish line and win the race? A [...]
The Truth About Divorce No One Says Out Loud: Why Women Are Still Trapped in the Same Home
We push women into corners and out of safe spaces and then act surprised when they are not safe.
People are often genuinely shocked when th [...]
When He Stops Hiding the Harm, Start Protecting Your Life
When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen away. Shame is no longer holding him back. Reputation is no longer enou [...]
She Caught the Girls Before They Fell: Victoria Earle Matthews and the War Against Trafficking (1861–1907)
10 Incredible Facts About Victoria Earle Matthews
1. She Was Born Enslaved and Rose to Lead
Victoria Earle Matthews was born enslaved in F [...]
Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy.In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice [...]
Because She Sang, We Speak: Honoring Billie Holiday’s Legacy of Truth
If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say that you enjoyed it.- Zora Neale Hurston
Before [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's com [...]
🧨 Myth: “Abuse Survivors Are Just Broken People Who Pick Bad Partners”
Truth: No, they are not.[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets rep [...]
Every Woman Has the Right to Say ‘No Thanks
Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured into bending their boundaries, reshaping their desires, and swallowing discomfor [...]
❓ FAQ: Why Is It Sexist to Dismiss Women’s Boundaries and Need for Safety?
Q: Is it really sexist to question or challenge women-only spaces?
A: Yes. Dismissing, undermining, or demanding access to women-only spaces—especial [...]
When Facts are Suppressed, Distorted, or Dismissed, Injustice Multiplies.
The way to right wrongs is to turn the light of truth upon them.-Ida B. Wells
Ida B. Wells spoke repeatedly about truth, evidence [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
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