Anger Isnât Ruining Your Healing. Silence Did. (10 Quick Reclamation Tips)
For a long time, many of us were taught that anger was the danger.That if we were calm enough, soft enough, understanding enough, thi [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
“Lead with Love” Includes Women and Girls Safety Too (short audio message)
Lead with LoveThat's what they say.And when they do, never let anyone tell you that leading with love doesn't include women and girls and our [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say Theyâre Afraid â And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Walking on Eggshells: Recognizing Peer-Driven Control Before It Burns You Out
People tend to move on and forget the people we lost during the seasons when deception and manipulation reigned......
So many, too ma [...]
Unveiling the Hidden Danger of Enmeshment: Its Role in Perpetuating Male Violence
When we talk about male violence, we must confront a harsh reality: some men develop insecure an [...]
Reputation Is Not Character: What the BTK Case Teaches Us About Recognizing Real Danger
How to spot the warning signs abusers hide behind â and why "he seemed so normal" is never the whole story[...]
Boundaries Are Living Proof That You Believe Your Life Is Worth Protecting
Systems will tell you that you are safe.Systems will tell you they exist to protect you.But when danger comes, [...]
People Donât Fear Your Inner World. They Fear Being Controlled by It.
When I was in college earning my degree in Organizational Management and Development, we were asked to give a [...]
When DEI Disappears, So Do the Safeguards for Victims and Survivors
The Tech Transparency Project reports that Google removed 58 nonprofit organizations from a public list of those receiving âmost substantial contribut [...]
When the “Safe” Place Becomes Part of the Trauma
Trauma researchers have observed that when a person's experience is repeatedly denied by trusted authorities, it can produce profound self-dou [...]
Creating a Culture That Listens to Women: Four Journal Prompts
Listen to Women Prompts by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
In Memory of Charisse Shumate: I Am Not Going to Stop Fighting Until My Last Breath is Out of Me.
 I have long asserted that the concept of "self-defense" is a set-aside privilege for some people. Abused women are not in that group. Women with disa [...]
Women in the West Are Being Emotionally Abused And We Can’t Keep Standing for It
Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males. As a domestic violence advocate, some of the most difficult calls and court c [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
âIt is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.â
My [...]
Why Does the Racist Masculinization of Women Obligate Us to Fight for OthersâBut Not the Other Way Around?
Remember when you were little and another kid hit you. Maybe you yelled back at the other kid. The adults wo [...]
Deannaâs Law: 12 Systemic Failures That Changed 911 Response
The tragedy of Deanna Cook is a painful, textbook study in how a broken safety net can fai [...]
Imagine How Women Escaping Domestic Violence Feel
Mom, 34, Allegedly Killed by the Father of Her Children During a Custody Swap After the Kids' Christmas Vi [...]
When âSeparationâ Isnât Safe: Why Women Need More Space, Not Less
A locked door matters more than a long explanation.
If a woman has to bargain, soften her voice, calculate moods, or time her movements [...]
Black women are not fragments.
We are not pieces to be sorted.Not halves to be prioritized.Not parts to be muted so others feel whole.
We do not live our lives in sectionsârace on [...]
The Fable of the Man Who Changed His Coat Not His Character: How Harm Reinvents Itself
Some people do not grow, evolve, and change. They rebrand. In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, Tonya GJ Prince explor [...]
âđž When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
âWhen a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers â her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feedin [...]
I Wish You No HarmâBut This Doesnât Work for Me: The Truth About Womenâs Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safe [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are [...]
When Is a Womanâs âNoâ Not Considered a Form of Hate?
Her name was Marzieh Nieri. She was 23 years old.Marzieh said she fought back when a man attempted to sex [...]
âđ˝ When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men donât fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,âYou w [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that donât stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that des [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isnât the Truth)
Youâve left the relationship.Youâve named what happened.Maybe youâve [...]
đż My Self-Soothe Journal
đż My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud⌠and your nervous [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
đ They Donât Say She Was Loved â They Say She Stayed
Previous generations of women had different concerns because they had fewer options.
Letâs start there.Many of our grandmothers and great-gra [...]
Why Moral Clarity Still Matters: Remembering the Victims of Jeffrey Dahmer
Connecting with political allies is harder than people admitâespecially when your foundation is not hate, not outrage for sport, but a c [...]
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