10 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Respect You (And How Survivors Can Break Free From the Programming That Keeps Us Silent)
Respect isn’t what he says in public. It’s how he moves when no one is watching, and how he treats your truth, your boundaries, and your [...]
Juneteenth Reminds Us: Delayed Truth Still Matters (audio)
Freedom has always had an important relationship with truth. On Juneteenth, we remember a painful reality. Freedom had already been dec [...]
What Women Are Still Waiting to Hear (podcast episode)
Why won't they say our names? In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel u [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
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We Are Not Trespassing: Black Disability and the Right to Simply Live
We Are Not Trespassing. We Are Living.
There is a kind of danger Black people know by instinct before we ever learn the words for it.
It [...]
When the Truth Ain’t Enough, They Spread Lies: How Rumors Were Used to Silence Civil Rights Women
They built movements.They led revolutions against wrongs, violence, and abuse they never should have to deal with.And when that wasn’t enough [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Keep on Healing
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Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015 Tonight I am angry.
That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to d [...]
Maleness Is Portable Power: 20 Reasons Women Are Still Asked to Move Over
updated from June 22, 2025
Nina Simone's song, “Four Women," is powerful because each woman has b [...]
🔥 Dating Preference Policing Is Real — And It’s Disrespectful
“Why are you still single?”“You need to lower your standards.”“You're too picky.”“You’re too old/fat/educated [...]
Friendly Fire: Why Are Women Funding Their Own Erasure?
Tell me who I have to be to gain some reciprocity.... Ms. Lauryn Hill
As kids, we used [...]
Sister Souljah — The 1992 Moment That Shifted Political Language
Forget the people telling you: "There was racial harmony before we had a Black president." "Before Obama a [...]
Male Delusions Are Potentially Lethal
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Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the wei [...]
I’m Not Angry at Other Women — I’m Committed to the Whole Truth
I'm not angry at other women.Not even the ones who shame, silence, or mock.Not even the ones who call truth-te [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke op [...]
Joan Little: First Woman Acquitted of Murder for Defense Against Sexual Assault
updated 8/19/2025 I want to make this clear. There is no bragging in this post. No, "look the first wom [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always lo [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Dehumanized—Even by People Who Say They Support You
This is a crucial question—because recognizing when you are being dehumanized is often the first step in reclaiming dignity, power, [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made to feel that if they truly care about human rights, they must stay quiet about t [...]
Dance Is a Weapon, a Womb, a Way Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples [...]
There Are No Magic Words That Grant Access to Our Boundaries
There are no magic words.
No title, no role, no identity, no costume, no tone of voice, no declaration of who you claim to be—
grants you automatic [...]
12 Things About the Female Body Many Men Do Not Understand
Pain is routinely normalized for womenMen are often treated quickly for pain. Women are more likely to be told it’s “stress,” “hormones,” or s [...]
Why Are Women’s Demands for Boundaries and Safe Spaces Being Compared to Segregation?
Too many women—especially monitored, poor, rural, disabled, and older women—do not have easy access to digital spaces. And many who do are walking awa [...]
When Struggling People Are Called “Capitalists”: The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
There is a quiet cruelty in accusing poor and marginalized people of being “capitalists.”
It soun [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
When DEI Disappears, So Do the Safeguards for Victims and Survivors
The Tech Transparency Project reports that Google removed 58 nonprofit organizations from a public list of those receiving “most substantial contribut [...]
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