You Canât Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,youâd forget how many times they werenât.
They thought that time would blur the [...]
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When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse â including humiliation, insults, [...]
Stay Woke: When a Warning is Turned to a Punchline
Watching language warning about life or death flatten into a "trend".... is frustrating. ââStay wokeâ began as a warning, not a trend. Thi [...]
Stop Telling Black Women to Be SilentâOur Bodies Are Paying the Price. (podcast episode)
Black women are not âoverreactingââwe are responding to what our bodies have been forced to carry for generations. The pressure to ignore racism, to s [...]
Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]
đ Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beautyâbut not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
Healing Alone Isnât a WeaknessâItâs a Sacred Survival Strategy
Some of us were raised in surveillance. Silence is sacred. Solitude is survival.
Thereâs a rush these daysâto gather, to circle up, to "process" ever [...]
What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist
Did I tell yâall about that time that they printed a speech I delivered in public in the paper? Well, that isnât even the most interestin [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our childrenâso they walk with their h [...]
Gender Critical Thinkers: How Can We Speak of Freedom When So Many Women Still Canât Speak at All?
A womanist does not enter this conversation as a spectator â we enter it as those who have lived inside the bo [...]
We Do Not Have the Privilege of Forgetting. But the World Wants Us To.
Every single day, women are surviving things that many refuse to name.Small things. Quiet things. Daily things [...]
đ€đ° Money, Respect & the Womanâs Mic: Black Womenâs Songs About Money, Power, and Respect
updated from April 2025
"We're supposed to pretend that if we are "good girls," a "good man" will find us and [...]
If the Silencing Isnât for Women or Children⊠Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to comp [...]
Her Name Is Mary Turner. Her Story Still Speaks.
We canât have an honest conversation about why our grandmothersâand their mothers before themâoften prescribed [...]
đïž What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rur [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individualsâmost often abusers or those in powerârespo [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
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Original post 9/23/15 7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. [...]
đŻïž For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors donât report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you [...]
When Itâs Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind âBlack Prideâ
We lift up Black pride as sacredâa celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of ou [...]
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đż My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud⊠and your nervous [...]
Hidden Hurt: Domestic Violence is Stealing Our Educators
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Myth: âIf Women Just Spoke Up Sooner, They Could Have Stopped the Abuseâ
Reality: Abusers Cultivate Silence, and Society Punishes Women Who Speak
One of the most insidious myths about abuse is the ide [...]
You Shrink So Others Donât Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truthâbecause youâve been told your full presence makes p [...]
Why Some Voices Are Punished for Asking the Right Questions-Even By Fellow Women
Updated from June 3, 2025
Speaking of a harmed woman's word is never good enough........ We WILL NOT be forgetting this.
We human beings are a fl [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like itâs a dare.They treat survival like itâs a thrill.They treat oppression like itâs a rollercoaster rideâthey want to hop [...]
Red Flags: Why Do Some People Refuse to Challenge Systems of Harm â and What Does that Reveal About Them?
Womenâs safety movements grew from necessity â from the silences of law, the blind spots of culture, and the cruelty of normalized harm. Every woman l [...]
Unchain the Warrior Within: Empower Yourself as a Woman Who Fights for Herself
 1. "I just want y'all to be honest about......"YOUR hair
Seriously? All these obstacles women and girls face and that's what you want to [...]
đ Absent Boundaries, Beliefs Can Penetrate and Redefine a Space
Absent boundaries, anyone can use their beliefs to penetrate a space.
History shows us this truth. From the earliest days of colonization, invaders u [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
 In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often askedâno, expectedâto tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end. It bent sharply. Again and again.
Just when people thought they understood the terrain, t [...]
âïž The System May Not Bring ClosureâBut You Still Have a Right to Choose
Letâs tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors donât.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More [...]
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