Truth Heals: Why Forcing Survivors to Lie About Identity is Harmful
Survivors Deserve to Speak the Truth
Survivors of abuse, assault, and violence have long been silenced—by shame, by fear, by systems t [...]
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Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright (audio/podcast)
Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright" explores the powerful intersection of history and empowerment. In this episode [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
Silence Serves Predators: Listen to Your Inner Voice Before You Explain It Away (audio)
Have you ever had a feeling about someone and talked yourself out of it?
Not because nothing happened.
But because you could not explain it cleanly [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency. And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief. What we are [...]
“Why Do Her Posts Always Seem to Reassure Men, Not Women?”
First of all, before I say anything else, for your own survival, believe her. You are growing awareness of who benefits from these declarations.
When [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
Weaponized Witnessing: When They Watch You Fall, But Never Help You Rise
There’s a kind of watching that doesn’t come from love.A kind of watching that waits for you to stumble—not to catch you,but to collect the footage. [...]
The Unseen Cage: What Coercive Control Really Looks Like
Because not all abuse leaves bruises—but it can still steal your freedom.
Some cages are invisible.No bars.No bruises.Just a tightening around your [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away [...]
Imagine If We Told Men to “Be Kind” as Often as We Tell Women
You can absolutely tell who is male and who is female. Men have been raging at NataleeBFitness all week long [...]
Why Females Are the Most Vulnerable Group of Human Beings
Across cultures, eras, and systems, females are positioned as the most vulnerable group of human beings — not [...]
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Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. Wh [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot sca [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. [...]
💡 Why the Protests Against Kamala Harris Are Making Her More Relatable (w/quotes from Shirley Chisholm)
"We have been so patient and loyal ... and what has it gotten us? We want our full share now." ~ Shirley Chish [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence agains [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that fo [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke op [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't ca [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too ofte [...]
Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation of women's right [...]
How to Fight Social Narcissism: What Racism and Relationship Narcissism Have in Common
Some patterns are so familiar that our bodies recognize them before our mouths can explain them. A room gets quiet. A person says, “That nev [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
Some “Justice Movements” Are Enabling Harm Against Women and Children. We Need to Talk About It.
Not every movement that says it stands for “justice” is safe for women and children.
Some of them mean well. Some don’t.But too many of them are pr [...]
Because I Don’t Want To: The Power of Women’s Final Answer
updated from April 19, 2025
There is a battle still being fought—quietly, daily, in the hearts, homes, and conversations of women across the [...]
Women Have Questions Around the Paris Olympics and That is a Great Thing
People still have questions. This is great. We are supposed to question changes, especially around women's rights, safety, and dignity. We w [...]
🔥 Self-Sourced Power: When the World Won’t Crown You, You Crown Yourself
There comes a time in the life of every Survivor, every truth-teller, every woman who’s been underestimated, overlooked, or left to fend for herself—w [...]
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Are You ‘Tolerating’ More Hate Than You Think?
Originally published 4/7/23Reminder:Who you think you are and who you really are isn’t always the same thing.When you support women being silenc [...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deser [...]
‘Go Along to Get Along’ Is How They Silence You—Here’s Why You Must Speak Anyway
Fellow women and please share this message with girls:
You are not “difficult.”You are not “too sensitive.”You are aware.You are awake.You are wired [...]
No Predator Has the Authority to Rename Violence As a “Right.”
Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability. They label it “l [...]
