Some women believe they've separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to your husband.” But submission doesn’t alw
Some women believe they’ve separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to your husband.”
But submission doesn’t always wear a long skirt and carry a Bible.
Sometimes, submission sounds like:
“Just hear him out.”
“You could’ve said it nicer.”
“Maybe he didn’t mean it like that.”
“Don’t make a big deal out of it.”
- “You are just like them.” (When all she asked for was safety)
- “You just want to see them in jail/harmed/beat up/caught up.”
These are not harmless phrases. They are codes—trained responses that keep women bending, yielding, and softening for the comfort of men, especially in moments when women need to stand strong and speak clearly.
Let’s be honest:
Calling on women to constantly center a man’s feelings, moods, needs, and desires is still submission.
It’s still patriarchy.
It still asks women to silence their instincts, suppress their wisdom, and smooth out truths so fragile male egos don’t crack.
Ain’t nothing about that new or special. Put the latest dance, song, technology, and clothes on it and it is still the same.
The truth is, that submission has nothing to do with religion—it’s cultural.
It’s in media, family traditions, workplace politics, and even ‘progressive’ spaces.
Calling on women and girls to submit to the desires and wants of the latest manipulative abusive and violent entertainer, political leader, movement leader, family favorite, or allegedly handsome male is doing the same thing.
It just changed outfits. But the mission is the same:
Keep women quiet, careful, and catering.
📣 We are calling in women who may mean well but have been socialized to manage men’s comfort at the cost of women’s clarity.
We love you. We see your good heart.
But this isn’t freedom.
True sisterhood doesn’t mirror the patriarchy.
It listens to women without editing them.
It holds space for anger without shrinking it.
It makes room for boundaries without asking for a smile.
Let us build something truer.
Something where women don’t need to downplay themselves to be heard, respected, or safe.
🔑 Because submission by any other name… still serves the same throne.
