If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.
But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need action. And you don’t have to wait for permission to take it.
Here are 30 real things you can do right now to help make this country safer for Survivors:
🔎 Educate Yourself & Others
Learn how to identify the signs of coercive control and emotional abuse—not just physical violence.
Read or listen to survivor-centered books, podcasts, or blogs (like WeSurviveAbuse.com).
Share accurate resources on social media—not myths or viral “drama.” Violence is not “tea”.
Stop repeating “why didn’t she leave?” and learn why leaving is often the most dangerous time.
Understand how race, disability, living in rural areas, and poverty, impact a Survivor’s options.
Talk to young people—especially teens—about what healthy love really looks like.
🧰 Support Local Services
Donate money or supplies to a local domestic violence shelter or safe house.
Ask shelters what they need (gift cards, diapers, feminine care items, transportation support).
Volunteer your time—many agencies need admin help, hotline support, or childcare.
Host a supply drive with your school, job, or place of worship.
If you have legal, tech, or business skills—offer them.
Support culturally specific orgs for Black, Indigenous, immigrant, and faith-based Survivors.
🗳️ Push for Policy & Systems Change
Support policies that strengthen protections for Survivors—like safe housing, workplace leave, and protection orders.
Advocate for non-police safety solutions too, especially for Survivors who fear calling 911.
Demand funding for programs that help Survivors leave safely and stay safe.
Call or write your state reps about domestic violence funding and victim-centered services.
Watch your local courts—see how victims are treated and speak up about what you observe.
Support laws that disarm abusers. Guns are a major risk factor for femicide.
🧡 Center Survivors in Everyday Life
Believe them the first time. Full stop.
Stop “both sides-ing” violence. One person choosing harm is not the same as someone surviving it.
Check in on your strong friends, your quiet coworkers, your withdrawn family members.
Stop joking about “crazy exes” or “drama queens.” You might be mocking someone who barely escaped.
Call out victim-blaming when you hear it—even from people you love.
Make your space (home, classroom, office, platform) a safe space to share without judgment.
Stop asking Survivors to relive their pain to “prove” they were harmed.
🌍 Use Your Platform—Big or Small
Share info from actual experts and Survivors. Not gossip pages.
Signal-boost missing women—especially Black women and girls who often get ignored.
Create and post a list of local resources in your area. Keep it updated.
Speak up when celebs or influencers mock or dismiss abuse. Silence fuels harm.
Use your art, writing, organizing, or influence to change the narrative.
✨ Bonus: Start with Your Circle
Ask yourself:
“Would someone I love feel safe telling me they’re being abused?”
“Would I listen without blaming?”
“Am I building a community where Survivors can breathe?”
Start where you are. Use what you have. Move with love—and urgency.
Because safety isn’t a trending topic. It’s a human right.
Please stop creating your narratives. LISTEN to Survivors.
Be the solution not another problem.
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#SupportSurvivors
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#SafetyIsSacred
