There’s a dangerous math we don’t talk about enough: Access + Entitlement = Vulnerability to Violence. And Black women and Black girls?We are on the
There’s a dangerous math we don’t talk about enough:
Access + Entitlement = Vulnerability to Violence.
And Black women and Black girls?
We are on the frontlines of that equation every single day.
Not because we are weak.
Not because we are naïve.
But because the world has conditioned people to believe they have the right to reach for us, demand from us, take from us—and face no consequences.
What Does “Access” Look Like?
People who are welcomed into our lives because they seem trustworthy, helpful, or connected to someone we know.
People who spend time around us in everyday settings—homes, schools, workplaces, community spaces—without raising concern because their presence feels normal.
People who learn our routines, habits, vulnerabilities—often without us realizing they’re watching that closely.
People who use friendliness, familiarity, or shared networks to move closer without being questioned.
Access isn’t always forced. Sometimes it’s quietly granted—because we’re taught to be open, to be kind, to be community-minded.
But when that access is taken advantage of, it can become a direct pathway to harm.
What Does “Entitlement” Look Like?
“She didn’t act like it was a problem.”
“She’s strong. She can handle it.”
“She shouldn’t have worn that, said that, gone there.”
“It’s not that serious.”
Entitlement is the idea that Black women and girls exist for someone else’s pleasure, comfort, or control.
That we don’t get to have boundaries.
That we shouldn’t expect protection unless we’re perfect victims.
It is historical.
It is racialized.
And it is deadly.
Why It’s Time to Demand Tough, Uncompromising Safety Measures
We live in a time when Black women and girls are told to be forgiving, to be understanding, to be the glue and the grace.
But what we really need?
Laws that take our danger seriously.
Policies that recognize our humanity.
Community norms that prioritize our safety—not the comfort of those who may harm us.
We need legal protections with teeth.
Restraining orders that work.
Digital harassment laws that account for today’s stalking tactics.
Safe, male-free, child friendly, housing protections that let Survivors flee without penalty.
Judges, DAs, and police trained to recognize the patterns—not dismiss the pain.
Listen: This Isn’t Just About Feelings. It’s About Survival.
We are being told to fight for freedom and visibility,
While being expected to endure violence as a side effect of being strong.
But being visible without being safe is not liberation.
We are not safe when predators have constant access.
We are not safe when people feel entitled to our bodies, our energy, our attention, our time, our silence.
We are not safe when “it wasn’t that long,” or “he’s never done it before,” is enough to let someone walk free.
Black women and girls deserve more than resilience. We deserve safety. We deserve protection. We deserve peace.
So yes—support the tough safety measures.
Yes—demand stronger laws.
Yes—call it out when access and entitlement are being handed out like candy.
Because the cost of ignoring this equation is far too high.
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