We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now. We arrived here
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here because discomfort feels unbearable to those who have never had to live inside danger.
We arrived here because pretty lies are easier to repeat than ugly truths are to face.
Photo by Etienne Girarde
We arrived here because change threatens those who benefit from harm staying familiar.
Because power feels safer when it looks the same.
Because too many people mistake cruelty for strength and dominance for leadership.
Harm has been rebranded as authority.
Silence has been dressed up as maturity.
Endurance has been demanded from those already carrying the heaviest weight.
This is not accidental.
This is learned behavior.
And what is learned can be unlearned.
It is time to stop confusing harm with competence.
It is time to stop rewarding those who leave damage in their wake.
It is time to place listening above loyalty, accountability above image, and care above comfort.
Real strength does not require fear.
Real leadership does not require victims.
Real change does not protect what keeps people unsafe.
The future belongs to those willing to sit with truth long enough to let it transform them.
To those brave enough to step aside when they are no longer the safest choice.
To those who understand that less harmful leadership is not weakness—it is evolution.
It is time to change.
And this time, we do not look away.
Because it is time to stop worshipping horrors…and start learning from them.
This is a “man/woman in the mirror” moment.
Impactful Affirmations 
- I am not obligated to protect people who harmed others.
- My discomfort with truth is not more important than someone else’s safety.
- I do not confuse cruelty with strength anymore.
- I refuse to call harm “leadership” just because it wears confidence well.
- I trust what my body recognized before my mind had words.
- I am allowed to change my mind when new truth comes forward.
- Loyalty that demands silence is not loyalty. It is control.
- I no longer mistake intimidation for authority.
- I believe the harmed even when belief costs me comfort.
- I am not responsible for maintaining someone else’s image.
- I do not need a perfect victim to recognize real harm.
- I stop excusing what I would never tolerate if it happened to me.
- I am brave enough to sit with the truth without rushing to soften it.
- I do not confuse being “calm” with being correct.
- I choose accountability over familiarity.
- I understand that real strength leaves fewer people wounded.
- I release the lie that harm is necessary for order.
- I honor the courage it takes to speak when silence would be easier.
- I am not afraid of change that makes the world safer.
- I stand with truth even when it rearranges everything.