Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about…
They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s…
How we slowly surrender our boundaries, judgment, and needs, and what it means to begin returning to ourselves. There is something about Nina Simone singing I Wish I Knew How…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
I don’t think people understand that working in a women’s shelter means keeping others, including children, safe. There is a woman in Alaska named Sherrie Laurie whose story deserves more…
I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are…
When you are a woman—an adult female human being who has overlapping disabilities that all intersect with being a woman—it gets extremely challenging to keep hearing your existence trivialized. I’m…
When insulting women is considered entertainment, but women objecting is considered oversensitivity, the joke has become a lesson in whose dignity is negotiable. Viewers of American television are noticing that…
Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what…