Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about…
I am interested in the men who are willing to challenge male violence with the same confidence they use to challenge women’s refusal. It’s interesting to watch entire panels of…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
updated from Sep 28, 2025 Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place. Respect…
When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we…
“It was ‘that’ kind of man who harmed you, not this kind.” But how can we prevent harm in the future? What did we miss? What went wrong? The burden…
Some people are taught to believe the justice system will be waiting for them. If somebody hurts you, tell. If you have evidence, save it. Go to the police. Cooperate…
There is a young Black woman at the center of the LSU sexual-assault story whose name is Kendall Francis. Before she became a viral video, a headline, a debate, or…
updated from September 26 2025 Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability. They label it…