A Book and Film I Recommend: Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison
Another book from my personal shelf… Some books stay with you long after you’ve finished reading them. Bastard Out of Carolina (1992) is one of those books. But I want…
Another book from my personal shelf… Some books stay with you long after you’ve finished reading them. Bastard Out of Carolina (1992) is one of those books. But I want…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about…
I am interested in the men who are willing to challenge male violence with the same confidence they use to challenge women’s refusal. It’s interesting to watch entire panels of…
When people discuss Jeffrey Marsalis, they often describe him as a “prolific rapist.” I don’t like that word because it doesn’t capture the full truth about criminals and harm. It…
They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s…
12 ways women are pressured, persuaded, and sometimes punished for refusing to organize their lives around men. Women are human beings in our own right. Yet across cultures, religions, families,…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
I don’t think people understand that working in a women’s shelter means keeping others, including children, safe. There is a woman in Alaska named Sherrie Laurie whose story deserves more…
If someone can convince you that speaking about mistreatment is worse than the mistreatment itself, they have found a powerful way to protect those responsible. In 2017, when Chimamanda Ngozi…