Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about…
It takes extraordinary arrogance to approach grown women as if we are strangers to our own existence. Something has been bothering me about the way some of our leaders discuss race…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
updated from Sep 28, 2025 Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place. Respect…
I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are…
If someone can convince you that speaking about mistreatment is worse than the mistreatment itself, they have found a powerful way to protect those responsible. In 2017, when Chimamanda Ngozi…
Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what…
When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we…
What happens when a generation of girls is expected to learn alongside boys who are being taught to regard them as lesser human beings? What female teachers are describing deserves…