Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
updated from Sep 28, 2025 Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place. Respect…
Why women’s refusal, independence, and desire for safety are so often treated as offenses against men. There is something deeply troubling about a man hearing a woman say no and…
When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we…
The crime was the perpetrator’s choice, not the victim’s failure to behave perfectly. There is something deeply troubling about the way we expect women and girls to behave after sexual…
What happens when a generation of girls is expected to learn alongside boys who are being taught to regard them as lesser human beings? What female teachers are describing deserves…
Why deliberately watching someone during private moments deserves to be taken seriously, even when there is no camera, no physical contact, and no recording. A woman is getting ready for…
“It was ‘that’ kind of man who harmed you, not this kind.” But how can we prevent harm in the future? What did we miss? What went wrong? The burden…