Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or…
You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about…
It takes extraordinary arrogance to approach grown women as if we are strangers to our own existence. Something has been bothering me about the way some of our leaders discuss race…
12 ways women are pressured, persuaded, and sometimes punished for refusing to organize their lives around men. Women are human beings in our own right. Yet across cultures, religions, families,…
If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking…
I don’t think people understand that working in a women’s shelter means keeping others, including children, safe. There is a woman in Alaska named Sherrie Laurie whose story deserves more…
updated from Sep 28, 2025 Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place. Respect…
🖤 1. Demanding Grace While Denying Ours Black women are often expected to extend endless empathy, understanding, and forgiveness—especially to Black men navigating racism, trauma, or systemic stress. But when…
I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are…
When you are a woman—an adult female human being who has overlapping disabilities that all intersect with being a woman—it gets extremely challenging to keep hearing your existence trivialized. I’m…