This is Why Survivors Can't Have Nice Things..Sarah Palin was Right Y'all

Sarah Palin was correct.

She and I may never come to this intersection again. Who knows if we’ll ever agree on anything in the years to come? We do today.

I am a Survivor of multiple perpetrators of child sexual abuse. I wasn’t first generation. I worked my son’s whole childhood to protect him from suffering. There were close calls, but faith, family, folks, and fight saved him.

Y’all know I brought those ugly secrets to light at the age of 13.  I’ve been healing and serving others for 20+ years now.  Here is what I know for sure.

When the truth is valid except in cases when the perpetrator is likeable, that is extremely dangerous and hazardous for the victim.  Just imagine that.

A raped child has to evaluate whether or not they can come forward based on whether or not the person is likeable or not. At the same time, they have to evaluate how much people like them.

Nearly every child victim does this. It is part of the decision making process.  Children decide whether or not it is in their best interest to tell someone or keep living with the secret.  Yes, often that means keep living with or around a skunky person who threatens you, vandalizes you, rapes you.

I’ve helped children get past this process and come up with someone they can tell.  Usually it isn’t a parent.  They don’t trust them.  Even if the parent is a wonderful parent if the parent hasn’t talked openly about child sexual abuse and what the child can expect children are terrified.

They trust their favorite teachers and an anonymous hotline worker.

Adults who were abused as children go through the same thing.

See, when the rules are the same for everyone then children don’t even have to make those calculations.  The rules are the rules at all times no matter who, what, when, where, and how.

But that isn’t what we have here is it?

The truth doesn’t matter, isn’t valid, and is less likely to be believed If you like the person.

Even if I were to draw a picture chart and match the actions of Josh Duggar (Note: I find his actions disgusting and reprehensible) with another accused person you’ll debate me in loops until the end of the world, you’ll get quiet, or you’ll give them another award.

Meanwhile, the children suffer. Then they grow up to become adults who suffer.

But, you’re entertained so………

This is why we can’t have nice things.  Not everyone can handle the truth.