People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives.
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. Please avoid trusting these people with keys to your life.- Tonya GJ Prince
Some women were taught to guard their bodies like sacred ground.
Some women carry wisdom passed down by mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers, aunties, uncles, or Spirit—wisdom rooted in faith, safety, love, and survival.
They’ve learned:
✨ Your body is not a gift for just anyone.
✨ Your health is not worth risking for someone else’s approval.
✨ Your relationships—with family, with Spirit, with self—are worthy of honor and protection.
But when a woman holds these values close, she often finds herself shamed, challenged, or dismissed—not by strangers, but by those who say they love her.
💔 The Pressure to “Compromise”
Women are too often told:
“You’re too rigid.”
“You need to loosen up.”
“If you really loved him, you’d make room for his lifestyle.”
“It’s just one boundary. Why make such a big deal?”
- You are being ‘hateful’ towards me just like those people.
But here’s the truth:
Those values didn’t come from nowhere.
They came from pain endured. Wisdom learned. Faith nurtured. Boundaries hard-won.
🛡️ When Your Values Keep You Safe
A woman who doesn’t drink may have grown up in a household destroyed by alcohol.
A woman who waits before becoming intimate may be protecting herself from emotional harm, physical harm, financial harm, STIs, or spiritual disconnection.
A woman who won’t move in with a partner may be honoring what kept her own mother safe from harm.
A woman who protects her peace may have once been consumed by chaos.
We do not owe anyone the erosion of our values just to feel chosen.
If you have to become a stranger to yourself to keep a relationship, that is not love—it is quiet self-betrayal.
✨ This Is About More Than Preference
This is not just about personal choice.
It’s about health. Legacy. Spirit. Survival.
It’s about the woman who has spent years healing her body, mind, and soul from harm—now being asked to lower the very guard that saved her.
It’s about the woman who is building a new legacy for her future children, even if she doesn’t have any yet.
It’s about the woman who values her walk with her Creator, her ancestors, her culture—and refuses to make herself spiritually homeless for the sake of romance.
💬 A Word to Women
If they shame your values, they don’t understand your story.
If they challenge your boundaries, they don’t deserve entry beyond them to experience your softness.
If they demand you drop what made you whole just to stay, you are already carrying too much.
🖤 Stand Tall in Your Sacredness
Your body. Your time. Your temple.
It’s okay to say:
“I value my peace more than your persuasion.”
“I will not lose my health or spirit to prove loyalty.”
“I don’t need to loosen my grip on safety just to be loved.”
You are not “too much.” You are enough, just as you are.
You are not “stuck in the past.” You are rooted in wisdom.
You are not “difficult.” You are discerning.
👑 Extra Ordinary Woman hold the line. You are worth protecting.
Let love meet you where you are—not where you must shrink to fit.
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