Let’s tell the truth: Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed. When we speak about the vio
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,
the last to be protected,
and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the violence we’ve survived, the world responds not with open arms—but with side-eyes, suspicion, and sermons about what we should’ve done better.
Truth?
What many people call “accountability” is often just cruelty with credentials.
Judgment instead of gentleness
Distance instead of listening
“That’s what she gets” instead of “What does she need?”
We’re not even allowed to be vulnerable.
Because somewhere along the line, too many of us were taught that Black women don’t need compassion.
That we’re built for pain.
That we’re supposed to be strong.
That we “should’ve known better.”
That we’re too loud, too messy, too angry, too whatever to be worthy of softness.
But that is a lie.
A cruel, systemic, handed-down, passed-around, well-rehearsed lie.
And we are done with it.
Here’s the truth:
We are worthy of compassion.
We are worthy of gentleness.
We are worthy of care even when we’re confused.
We are worthy of softness even when we’re strong.
We are worthy of community even when we’ve been harmed.
You do not need to “teach us a lesson.”
Abuse already did that.
What we need is:
Safety
Support
Shelter
Legal protection
Healing spaces
People who will sit beside us, not stand above us
Systems that work for us—not just punish us when we break under the pressure
So let’s call it what it is:
That harshness you’re justifying? That judgment you’re cloaking in “tough love”?
That’s not righteousness.
That’s not accountability.
That’s learned cruelty.
You learned it from systems that profit off our pain.
From families who needed us to “stay quiet.”
From media that paints us as angry and unworthy.
From traditions that never saw us as fully human.
But we can unlearn that.
We can call each other in.
We can choose softness over shame.
We can remember that compassion is not a reward for perfection—
it is a right.
So to those who claim to care:
Show it.
Not with your lectures.
Not with your distance.
Not with your “she should’ve…”
But with your presence.
Your protection.
Your compassion.
Black women deserve more than survival.
We deserve grace.
We deserve rest.
We deserve to heal in peace.
Let that be the new lesson.
We are so worthy.
#WeSurviveAbuse
#BelieveBlackWomen
#CompassionIsThePoint
#StopTheCruelty
#BlackSurvivorsDeserveGrace
#CallItCrueltyWhenItIs
