I'm a fangirl of unity too, but only authentic unity. Unity takes real work. Not B.S. in a box where you add water and serve it to people. They sa
I’m a fangirl of unity too, but only authentic unity. Unity takes real work.
Not B.S. in a box where you add water and serve it to people.
They say they care about inclusion.
They say they care about mental health.
They say they care about safety.
But when women, Survivors, and families raise real, specific, urgent concerns?
Suddenly, the tone changes.
This is what False Solidarity looks like in action:
1. “If you were truly kind, you wouldn’t ask questions.”
Women are told that even wanting to discuss safety is offensive.
We’re expected to stay silent in the name of being “nice,” “open-minded,” or “inclusive.”
🛑 But real kindness never requires you to ignore your gut.
2. “If you really support human rights, you wouldn’t need boundaries.”
Women and families are guilted into removing the very protections that keep us safe.
Boundaries are rebranded as hate.
🛑 But no rights movement should ever demand that women be unsafe to prove they’re “good.”
3. “Your concerns don’t matter if they might offend someone else.”
Instead of taking all safety needs seriously, leaders cherry-pick who gets to feel protected.
Women and girls are often asked to shrink, stay quiet, or surrender space—so others feel affirmed.
🛑 But true inclusion never asks people to sacrifice safety for someone else’s comfort.
4. “You’re on the wrong side of history if you ask for caution.”
Raising questions gets you labeled a bigot or a traitor to progress.
But progress that ignores Survivors, mothers, grandmothers, and advocates isn’t justice—it’s branding.
🛑 History has always advanced because women spoke up, not because we stayed silent.
5. “You should be ashamed for not agreeing.”
The loudest voices often weaponize shame:
“You’re hurting people.”
“You’re hateful.”
“You’re selfish.”
🛑 But real solidarity welcomes hard conversations—not silence by guilt.
Who else gets pressured?
Parents: Told they’re overreacting when they want trauma-informed boundaries for their kids.
Educators: Silenced for expressing concern about female students.
Therapists, Nurses, Advocates: Told their professional instincts are discriminatory.
Survivors: Pressured to prioritize other people’s identities, feelings, and simply being male over their own healing.
Here’s the truth:
Here’s the truth:✅ You can support human rights and ask for safety.
✅ You can love people and still set firm, protective boundaries.
✅ You can be inclusive without abandoning girls, women, or Survivors.
✅ You do not have to apologize for knowing what danger looks like.
False solidarity sounds progressive—but it’s performative.
It protects politics, power, and public image—not people. Though people may not be able to identify this by name, they can feel it.
If someone asks you to abandon your instincts,
shame you for raising concerns,
or silence you in the name of “kindness”—
that’s not solidarity.
