20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."Â
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
đŞWhen Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect UsâBut Donât Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like sheâs with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truthâbut deep down, they are w [...]
đ âI Was Coerced by Someone I Trusted. I Didnât Say No. Is It Still Assault?â
This is one of the most common â and most heartbreaking â questions Survivors ask. And it deserves a clear, loving, truthful answer.
Yes. Coer [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isnât always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being âeasygoing,â âlow maintenance,â [...]
Book: Beat Face, The Story of Surviving Myself and My Abuser
This author and I follow one another on social media. I once complimented her for being "chameleon" like. Her look changes and she becomes [...]
Stop Analyzing Her. Start Asking Why Heâs Allowed to Harm Her.
Every time a woman is abused, here comes the chorus: âWhy doesnât she just leave?ââShe must have low self-esteem.ââShe picks the wrong men.ââSheâ [...]
We Donât Owe Our Endurance to Racism
They say:âNow is not the time.ââWeâre all suffering right now.ââDonât make it about race.â
But racism doesnât take a break during a crisis.So why a [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
Hidden Hurt: Domestic Violence is Stealing Our Educators
elink.io | See Original https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/stop-dismissing-us-womens-safety-is-non-negotiable/ https://w [...]
âWhy All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and AbuseâNot Just the Powerfulâ
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
âď¸ The System May Not Bring ClosureâBut You Still Have a Right to Choose
Letâs tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors donât.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More [...]
When He Throws Things, Destroys Your Work, or Punishes Your Silence: These Are Red Flags
Too many women have called a hotline or support number that I was working for where this behavior was a part of her story. Only now they were in seri [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
The Harrowing Murder of Olivia Jones | Killers Caught On Camera
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRKZ9tddZrk&t=87s The surveillance cameras that he posted in the home helped to convict him of her murder. They [...]
đď¸ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.Â
Rural women experiencing dom [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
â Why I Resist Diluted Language Like âBirthing Peopleâ
There is a kind of language floating around today that sounds gentle on the surface â soft, neutral, inclusive. Words like:
âbirthing peopleâ [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be kind". Silencing us. De-platforming [...]
65 Beliefs Some Men Hold About Women: Control, Boundaries, and the Fight for Choice
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want.
If you like it, I love itâso long a [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If youâre heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamedâyou are not alone.But feelings arenât enough. Survivors need [...]
Why domestic violence advocates say the best way to help survivors is to give them back control
Abusers control. Thatâs their No. 1 tactic to keep domestic abuse survivors simultaneously afraid of them and yet reluctant to leave them. Be it con [...]
The Door Is Still Open: Building Ethical Innovation for Survivors Together
Innovation Does Not Have to Mean Erasure
We are living in a moment where new technologies are touching medicine, justice, education, safety, art, and [...]
Not So Good Reasons to Date a Person
Coercion: Women and Girls Do Not Owe You Access to Them | WE Survive AbuseTHIS is The TRUTH About Dating Preferences & Inclusion | WE Surviv [...]
Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back..... Break up safety tips for abused partners by Tonya GJ Prince elink.io | See Original [...]
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio) [...]
đĽ Hereâs How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that arenât intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
Whoâs Really Saying âStop Harming Herâ?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, âStop doing that.â
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men [...]
Why It is Safer and Wiser to Avoid Rushing into Marriage
Love and marriageLove and marriageGo together like a horse and carriageGreat songNot great life advice. elink.io | See Original [...]
đŤ STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People donât listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame Women For generations, women have been shamed into labor â emotional, physical, spiritual â through language that sounds o [...]
đŻď¸ The Truth About âVictimhoodâ as an Insult
There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against womenâespecially stalking, coercive control, and violenceâdonât take time off. They donât pau [...]
We Are Not the Worldâs Dumping Ground: The Sacred Art of Refusing Misplaced Blame
Black women, how much of the worldâs weight have you carried today?
How many wounds have you stitched up that werenât yours? How many fires have yo [...]
Detachment Is Not ColdnessâItâs Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To âlove him through it.âTo pour water on a man who doesnât grow, doesnât change, doesnât offer safety, doesnât [...]
Why Survivors of Abuse Can’t Afford to Choose Political Candidates Like Party Entertainment (And the 15 Things That Actually Matter)
Most women, even if they are in a soft season now, do not have the luxury of choosing leaders like a child chooses entertainment for a birthday party. [...]
The Truth About External Validation: What It Builds, It Can Destroy
The Queen is the most powerful piece on the chess board.
We all need connection. We all need recognition. But when external validation becomes the [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. Itâs Sacred Work.
If youâre a Survivor, youâve probably heard it all before: "Youâre just being paranoid.""Youâre overreacting.""You need more therapy.""Youâre dam [...]
We Will Never Have a Safer World If We Donât Treat Survivors with Respect
We keep saying we want a safer world. blah, blah, blahBut we will never get there until we demand that society do better and be better toward Surviv [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power â and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
Shirley Chisholm
F [...]
Seeking Justice: Empowering Survivors through Civil Cases
Cassie, an American singer, recently made headlines when news broke out that she was suing her longtime music mentor and boyfriend, Sean "Diddy" Combs [...]
9 Reasons Survivors Build Their Own Healing Spaces (and Why Thatâs Sacred, Not Segregated)
People ask: âWhy do you need your own healing space?â The answer is layered. Personal. Collective. Sacred.
Hereâs why so many of usâespecia [...]
Ultimate List: 11 Ways the Church Community Can Help Victims of Domestic Violence
 No matter what statistics say, no matter what is going on in society, when people in the community have a problem eventually they see a doctor or a f [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, itâs that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
Youâre Not Her Judge. Youâre Not Even Helpful.
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The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivorâs choices is the same as offering help.Itâs not. [...]
The Velvet Rope Tourâs Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this on HBO with millions of o [...]
The Truth We Carry, the Healing We Deserve
updated for 2025 Thereâs something we donât always say out loud, but it matters deeply:The pain of the past doesnât go away just because we bury it [...]