When He Won’t Pay the Bills: The Financial Abuse People Miss
Financial abuse doesn’t always look like taking money. Sometimes it looks like refusing to carry your part—knowing the damage will fall on her and you [...]
When Love Is a Lie: Understanding Grooming Beyond Childhood
Because grooming doesn’t stop at 18. It just gets harder to prove.
We are taught to see grooming as something that happens to children.But many Survi [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner
What Love Should Never Cost You
Before abuse becomes obvious, it often shows up in quieter, more subtle ways.In the beginning, it can feel like pas [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
Exploring the Link Between Enmeshment and Male Violence: Breaking Unhealthy Cycles
"You see one, you see the other."It is so hard to intervene because, by the time people outside of the relationship notice that a co [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured ag [...]
You Didn’t Just Stay Silent—You Helped Silence Others
When people are finally exposed for being abusive, manipulative, or harmful, we often hear the same tired phrase: “Well… they had us all fooled [...]
Tiffany Jenae Carroll: It is Still Against the Law to Defend Yourself Against an Abusive Male
I believe in love.....BUT, I'm not convinced that everyone believes that women have a right to be safe in the pursuit of true love. As you [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peace It starts with a bad decision. Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
What Wealth Hides About Abuse: Coercive Control in Affluent Relationships
People think money protects women. In reality, it often protects the man harming her.Some of the most controlled women in the world are living [...]
Stop Shaming Survivors. Start Shaming Abusers.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Survivors should not be met with interrogation, suspicion, or scorn.They should not have to fight to be believed while the abuse [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
High Five From WESurvive: Lavon Morris Grant A Spiritual Miracle
In early 2002 or so a group of us Women of Color working in sexual and domestic drove down from Virginia to North Carolina to a two-day conference.&nb [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences vary great [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
✊🏾 Support Young Black Women Who Speak Out
In recent years, we've witnessed something powerful:Young Black women—public figures, artists, creators—standing up, speaking out, and seeking safet [...]
Motherhood in the Shadow of Violence
Motherhood has often been romanticized in myths and sentiment, yet the brutal reality remains: for many women, pregnancy and early motherhood are hig [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely person trying to connect.” It’s deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Let’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it. I’ve work [...]
“But Is It Abuse?” — The Quiet Ways Harm Hides in Plain Sight
Every day, people ask themselves:"Is this abuse?"
Because sometimes the harm doesn’t leave bruises.It doesn’t scream.It doesn’t break doors or raise [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
65 Beliefs Some Men Hold About Women: Control, Boundaries, and the Fight for Choice
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want.
If you like it, I love it—so long a [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Katrina Cooke Brownlee
From strong to stronger....As a tortured domestic violence victim, she may have lost those first battles. Especially since he had a badge, but t [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
Survivor Rachel Williams Highlights Strangulation Timeline
Strangulation is often viewed as a very casual thing these days. Too few appreciate how dangerous it truly is. Domestic violence abuse Surv [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Here’s how it works—over and over again: 1. Women Set Bound [...]
Systems Often Fail to Protect Autonomous People
We’re often told:“If you just speak up…”“If you leave…”“If you fight back…”“If you call the police…”“If you file a report…”
...then you’ll be safe. [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
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They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
The Chloe Randolph Bill and Organization in Kentucky
Some losses change the shape of a family forever. There are moments when language becomes too small for what a mother, a father, a sibling carries [...]