The “Dying Alone” Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we follow feminism, womanism, or choose to remain un [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today:“I [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
“Say the Right Words and Walk Right In” Was Always Stupid AF
Women should not have to wait for a man to demonstrate the danger before anyone respects the warning.....This week, two former NBA players announc [...]
Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
When Writing Becomes Duty
We don't talk enough about women who have written their way through pain and abuse.
Across history, when power concentrates in ways that silence peop [...]
Little Known, Far Too Common: The Hidden Reality of Family Annihilation (w/TikTok commentary)
There are tragedies that make headlines for a day and then disappear from public conversation, even as they continue to happen. Family annihilation — [...]
When a Child’s Daily Life Is the First Warning
It is important to remember that in domestic violence relationships, children are victims too. Children, especially girl children, a [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language.Too often, th [...]
Celebrity Confirmation: For Women Autonomy Is Not Teflon Against Violence and Abuse
Autonomy is powerful. But it is not a shield. Not in this world.
A woman can know herself.She can have boundaries, voice, purpose, and strength.And s [...]
THE GIFT OF FEAR | GAVIN DE BECKER | ANIMATED BOOK SUMMARY (video)
In our society we underestimate intuition in favor of logic. I like logic. I also like intuition and fact-based pattern recognition. [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: How To Help A Loved One
Heads up! This post comes from Michelle Peterson from RecoveryPride.org. Be very informed.....Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It doesn’t always come with shouting or sla [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be kind". Silencing us. De-platforming [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
We Are Not Meant to Disappear Inside Someone Else’s Reflection
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous women, and other [...]
Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply?
Narcissists hunger to have their needs met. If you’re in a close relationship with a narcissist, they expect you to supply them. The term “ [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and discrimination. While these discuss [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
The Hidden Danger: How Abusers Stalk Their Victims Even from Behind Bars
This post is dedicated to the memory of Donasia Alexus Holloway 🕯Music artist Megan Thee Stallion has filed a restraining order against rapper To [...]
Supporting Women Who Support Women: Meghann Cuniff
I don't share the opinion that online dating = BADIt is more like violent males = BAD and unfortunately, they can be found anywhere and everywhe [...]
Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space?
For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?”That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violence, but be [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely person trying to connect.” It’s deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]
Recovery: 20 Reasons to Leave an Abusive Relationship
As a veteran advocate for victims of domestic and sexual violence, I know better than to ask: "Why won't you leave?"I know why. The reasons [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
“Not This Person” Is Old Reputation Management — And We’ve Fought This Before
Domestic violence advocates have been here before.
For decades, advocates fought a very specific lie.Not loudly at first.But relentless [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
How Domestic Violence Fuels the Cycle of Poverty
For many victims, domestic violence traps them in a cycle of poverty. Abusers know that keeping the victimfinancially reliant makes it harder [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often asked—no, expected—to tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These are [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to t [...]
When One Gets Through, Others Follow: The Open Door Metaphor in Abuse
There’s a pattern in abuse that doesn’t get talked about enough. Not in training rooms. Not in courtrooms. Not even in some support groups. But Surv [...]
Della Reese Opens Up About Surviving Abuse: A Powerful Testimony of Strength
We all know Della Reese for her unmistakable strength, radiant beauty, and powerhouse talent. A legendary singer, actress, and spiritual leader, she g [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
Ignored Crimes Become Generational Crises: A Tale As Old As Time
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.-Maya AngelouFrom the very first pages [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
Rejection in Dating: Why Learning to Accept “No” Is Essential for Healthy Relationships
Dating is not a promise of access. It is a process of discovering mutual interest, compatibility, and trust. Understanding rejection is part of buildi [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
Here He Is! The Man Who Started the Man vs Bear Debate Speaks
The debate around whether or not women would rather face a strange man in the woods or a bear took on a life of its own and the men are very ang [...]
You Didn’t Just Stay Silent—You Helped Silence Others
When people are finally exposed for being abusive, manipulative, or harmful, we often hear the same tired phrase:“Well… they had us all fooled [...]