Holiday Safety Planning: 16 Essential Tips for People in Toxic Relationships
As challenging as it is to imagine, the holidays are dangerous times for people in toxic relationships. As advocates, you always know that the holiday [...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didn’t invent abuse—it just made it harder to escape.
She didn’t hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didn’t give him permission [...]
Unmasking Abuse by Proxy
Abuse by proxy isn’t only used by individuals—it is also wielded by organizations, well funded interest groups, corporations, religions, and (politi [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
Recovery: 20 Reasons to Leave an Abusive Relationship
As a veteran advocate for victims of domestic and sexual violence, I know better than to ask: "Why won't you leave?" I know why. The reasons [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
Why People Should Stop Asking Survivors of Abuse “Why Now?”
Let's get in the habit of allowing people to survive the impact of harm first.- Tonya GJ Prince
When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, mo [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025 Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
B [...]
Reclaiming Autonomy: How Women Lose Control—And How to Take It Back
💡 Why This Matters
Across history and in private moments, women have been stripped of personal autonomy.During wars, our bodies were battleground [...]
Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]
How to Fight Social Narcissism: What Racism and Relationship Narcissism Have in Common
Some patterns are so familiar that our bodies recognize them before our mouths can explain them. A room gets quiet. A person says, “That never happene [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to please, and to ignore their instincts, self-protection is a revolutionary act.Join Tonya GJ Prince in [...]
Forced Sterilization Never Ended — It Just Learned How to Hide (women’s present day stories through videos)
The thing about 'female exams' is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.
&n [...]
The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
🌿 Healing After Emotional Abuse: You Are Not Broken, You Are Becoming
Healing after emotional abuse isn't about "getting back to normal."It’s about building a new normal — one where you trust yourself again, where your [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame Women For generations, women have been shamed into labor — emotional, physical, spiritual — through language that sounds o [...]
Stop Shaming Survivors. Start Shaming Abusers.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Survivors should not be met with interrogation, suspicion, or scorn.They should not have to fight to be believed while the abuse [...]
When Love Is a Lie: Understanding Grooming Beyond Childhood
Because grooming doesn’t stop at 18. It just gets harder to prove.
We are taught to see grooming as something that happens to children.But many Survi [...]
No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Stop Analyzing Her. Start Asking Why He’s Allowed to Harm Her.
Every time a woman is abused, here comes the chorus: “Why doesn’t she just leave?”“She must have low self-esteem.”“She picks the wrong men.”“She’ [...]
Juneteenth: Proof That Even Our Freedom Is Seen as “Too Much”
Juneteenth is not just a holiday. It is a mirror—reflecting how this nation has long believed that Black people deserve nothing [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
🎤 Survival, Sisterhood, and Triumph: Honoring Salt-N-Pepa Enter the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame
When Salt-N-Pepa burst onto the scene, they didn't just make music — they made space.Space for women's voices. Space for boldness. Space for honesty a [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around here, we are retiring the phrase.
But not because people do not like it,
but be [...]
Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation of women's rights
to pri [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
When the Whole World Is Watching: It Takes a Super Human Commitment to Self-Care to Leave
updated from May 23 2025
Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy.But leaving while the entire world is watching?That’s a sacred act of radica [...]
The Unseen Cage: What Coercive Control Really Looks Like
Because not all abuse leaves bruises—but it can still steal your freedom.
Some cages are invisible.No bars.No bruises.Just a tighteni [...]
Female Bullying: Yet Another Obstacle to Women’s Rights and Freedoms
Women who use or exploit their connection to abusive men to bully other women are typically engaging in a [...]
The Hidden Bill: What Violence Against Women Really Costs
When we talk about violence, we rarely talk about what the financial costs. Not just the broken bones or the heartbreak — but the billions of dolla [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems of abuse and e [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that k [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is: “I told her.”“I war [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They don’t just g [...]