A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Prior to this work, you couldn't even bring [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
The Dangerous Myth of the First-Time Offender: Why So Much Violence Comes With a History
Another week. More headlines.
Three fathers allegedly killed family members. Their ENTIRE family. Communities were left grieving. News report [...]
A Lot of Movements Need Black Women. But Do They Value Us?
....to gain some reciprocity
Lauryn Hill/X Factor We see it every time there’s a crisis.Every time someone needs a turnout.Every time a campai [...]
Affirmed: Protect Your Power and Disengage From People Who Plant Self-Doubt
updated from January 20 2025 This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls. Many f [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
🎯 What We Will Not Be Prioritizing When Women Demand Safety, Health & Well-Being
When women cry out for justice, safety, healing, and the right to exist without fear, the response is too often not action—but distraction.
Instead [...]
The Ultimate Gaslight: When the Rulebook Itself Is Weaponized
Nearly every fan of music has seen the Fugees Killing Me Softly Video. At the time, it was striking and ground-breaking. The song and the vide [...]
Don’t Tell Me You’re Not One of Them. Show Me.
They got so much things to say right now.About what I should’ve done.Where I should’ve been.How I should’ve healed.How loud.How soft.How fast.How long [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
A Slap to the Ear Is Not “Just a Slap”: What Survivors Need to Know About Ear Injuries, Concussion Symptoms, and Strangulation
Some injuries announce themselves with bruises. Others move in quietly, sit behind the ear, ring through the night, [...]
Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back..... Break up safety tips for abused partners by Tonya GJ Prince elink.io | See Original [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025 Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
B [...]
🥊 Christy Salters: The Fighter Who Refused to Stay Down
I admired her healing journey before the movie. The number of times I sat with women (the park ranger, the martial artist, the cop, the welder, th [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
High Five From WESurvive: Lavon Morris Grant A Spiritual Miracle
In early 2002 or so a group of us Women of Color working in sexual and domestic drove down from Virginia to North Carolina to a two-day conference.&nb [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space?
For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violence, but be [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016 About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
150 Appropriate and Powerful Words Bloggers and Vloggers Can Use in Headlines about Domestic Violence
Bloggers and vloggers often fail to recognize the seriousness of domestic violence cases by employing a casual writing style that is entirely inapprop [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
When Black Women Speak About Violence, Too Many People Attack the Voice Instead of the Harm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk8VmR4KCA There is something very familiar happening around Is God Is. (The Color Purple? Eve's Bayou? Is [...]
Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
It is only by the grace of God that every female Survivor of abuse is not in prison, suffering more abuse and violence at the hands of men. [...]
What Does Violence Against Women Really Look Like Today? Truths You Can’t Ignore
Women with Disabilities Face Higher Risk
Women and girls with disabilities are more than twice as likely to experience sexual violence. Yet many shel [...]
We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
The Velvet Rope Tour’s Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this on HBO with millions of o [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that k [...]
Here He Is! The Man Who Started the Man vs Bear Debate Speaks
The debate around whether or not women would rather face a strange man in the woods or a bear took on a life of its own and the men are very ang [...]
It Wasn’t Just His Girlfriends: A Pattern of Harm, a Society of Silence
Too often, when men like Sean “Diddy” Combs are accused of violence, public conversation zeroes in on his romantic partners—on their choices, [...]
Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]
Beyond Forgiveness: A Call for Justice, Healing, and Accountability
Then Peter came up and said to him, 'Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?' Jesus said to [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
12 Unapologetic Truths: Your Rights as a Woman Are Unconditional (Audio/podcast)
Your rights as a woman are not up for debate. You don’t need permission, validation, or a committee vote to own your power. In this b [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a Process—Not Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single event—it’s a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]