🧨 Myth: “Abuse Survivors Are Just Broken People Who Pick Bad Partners”
Truth: No, they are not.[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets repeated far too often—in whispers, on podc [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
Pet Safety and Animal Support: A Vital Resource for Abuse Survivors
When people discuss domestic violence, they often focus on the emotional and physical impacts on human Survivors. Yet, there is another layer [...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already sound “righ [...]
When Beauty Becomes a Battleground: 7 Names for This Power Grab
When men try to crown one woman and crucify another based on looks, that’s not preference—it’s control wrapped in a compliment.
That ain’t admirati [...]
What is Going on With Social Media Influencers and Domestic Violence? Part 1
Hell is Truth Seen Too Late.
Thomas Hobbes
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Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
America’s Hidden Shame: Confronting the Femicide Rates in the US
Femicide, defined as the gender-based killing of women and girls, remains a critical issue in the United States. While comprehensive national da [...]
⚖️ The System May Not Bring Closure—But You Still Have a Right to Choose
Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
Every Solution Was Rejected Because Access Was the Goal: Understanding Forced Access, Coercion, and Why So Many Women Feel Pressured to Explain Themselves
A woman asks for safety.
Everyone else asks for evidence.
🌿 Sometimes a woman is not asking for much.
She is asking for rest.Sh [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say.“She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
How Do Domestic Abusers Know How to Use the Same Techniques of Oppression
‘It’s like you go to abuse school’: how domestic violence always follows the same scriptIn this extract from her book, See What You Made Me Do, [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not onl [...]
🛑 When “Being Nice” Becomes Dangerous: Reclaiming Boundaries After Trauma
The Very Idea
For years, people walked all over my boundaries.
And I let them.
Not because I didn’t care.Not because I wanted mistreatment.
I l [...]
The New Rules of Manipulation: 12 Things Every Woman and Girl Should Know
Much of today's manipulation no longer looks openly threatening. It often arrives looking compassionate, progressive, emotionally intelligent, [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
The Silent Scream: Women Murdered by Their Gay or Bisexual Husbands, and the World’s Indifference
The real problem is violence, especially, a very specific strain of violence that seems destined to remain unanalyzed and u [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrity—that is not love. That is [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Recovery: 20 Reasons to Leave an Abusive Relationship
As a veteran advocate for victims of domestic and sexual violence, I know better than to ask: "Why won't you leave?"I know why. The reasons [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at stake. We are told to “be nice.” We are [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
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From Disappointment and Betrayal to Growth and Empowerment: A Deeper Self-Love Journey
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When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
Domestic Violence Is Rising While Survivor Services Are Disappearing: What the Latest Data Reveals
I don’t know if you saw this, but while overall violent crime is reportedly on the decline, domestic violence in the U.S. has actually risen by ab [...]
The Truth About External Validation: What It Builds, It Can Destroy
The Queen is the most powerful piece on the chess board.
We all need connection. We all need recognition. But when external validation becomes the [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences vary great [...]
A Slap to the Ear Is Not “Just a Slap”: What Survivors Need to Know About Ear Injuries, Concussion Symptoms, and Strangulation
Some injuries announce themselves with bruises. Others move in quietly, sit behind the ear, ring through the night, [...]
Healing is Yours: Beware the Micromanagers of Your Journey
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
Not Minor, Not Temporary: The Lasting Impact of Male Violence on Women’s Bodies
“What is dismissed in a momentcan echo for a lifetime.”
There was a time I didn’t fully understand this.
I knew violence was wrong.I knew it caused [...]
Black History Month Means Honoring the Humanity of the Women Who Loved Us Here (Musical Playlist Included)
updated from 2/2/ 2025 Without Black women, the miracles of
Black history would not be possible.
So much of who I am, I ow [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
updated from July 31, 2025The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was.
Survivor Affirmation
Every woman deserv [...]
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Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright (audio/podcast)
Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright" explores the powerful intersection of history and empowerment. In this episode [...]
Why Women Deserve the Same Freedom We Give Men — Without Criticism or Control
“I get out of all your boxes, I get out.You can’t hold me in these chains.”
Lauryn Hill/I Get Out” (MTV Unplugged 2.0)
Freedom for women m [...]
The Hidden Danger: How Abusers Stalk Their Victims Even from Behind Bars
This post is dedicated to the memory of Donasia Alexus Holloway 🕯Music artist Megan Thee Stallion has filed a restraining order against rapper To [...]
Mail Order Domestic Violence
(revised from original post 7/1/15)After the RiceLila married Jack.
Things were fairy tale for a long time.
And then the abuse started.
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