🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
⚠️ Sometimes Male Agitation Is Not Just a “Bad Mood”
It Can Be a Ramp-Up to Violence. Especially Against the Vulnerable. Too often, male agitation is brushed off.He’s “just stressed.”He’s “had a rough [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages that rise and fall like the breath of generations.
Xhosa is one of those langu [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
“Can an AI Aunt Teach Humanity the Compassion It Forgot?”
In South Africa, a woman built an AI “Aunt” — a digital guide designed to support women facing violence. It’s a beautiful innovation born from heartbr [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
Jennifer’s Law Exists Because Too Many Women Are Not Believed Until Too Late
update from April 25, 2025
We honor the lives of Jennifer Farber Dulos and Jennifer Magnano, two women whose stories pierced the silence su [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. “She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
When Another Storm Comes Towards Her
Just in case you want to catch up on a bit of news, read some affirmations, as you are [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
Pet Safety and Animal Support: A Vital Resource for Abuse Survivors
When people discuss domestic violence, they often focus on the emotional and physical impacts on human Survivors. Yet, there is another layer [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them.
But you were never meant to be the onewho saves e [...]
Loneliness vs. Depletion: Why Women Need Safe, Reciprocal Companionship—Not One-Sided Connections
Loneliness is real, but being drained by one-sided “connections” is far worse than being alone. Here’s an expanded version with more life-giving examp [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences vary great [...]
We Can Care About the World Without Ignoring the Harm Shortening Lives Here at Home
Every month, an average of more than 70 women in the United States are shot and killed by an intimate partner. Everytownreasearch.org | [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
When Misinformation Spreads, Survivors Suffer: Meghann Cuniff’s Steady Voice in a Chaotic Case
So, Meghann Cuniff. The Megan Thee Stallion case didn’t just expose a violent act.It exposed a culture — one that treats Black women’s pain lik [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language. Too often, th [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
The Truth About Divorce No One Says Out Loud: Why Women Are Still Trapped in the Same Home
We push women into corners and out of safe spaces and then act surprised when they are not safe.
People are often genuinely shocked when they learn t [...]
Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]
Exploring the Link Between Enmeshment and Male Violence: Breaking Unhealthy Cycles
"You see one, you see the other."It is so hard to intervene because, by the time people outside of the relationship notice that a co [...]
The Conversation That Keeps Missing the Point on Violence Against Women
People direct public anger toward groups that may have hurt or failed them. That reaction is human. But it can stop the conversation at the surface.
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When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Let’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it. I’ve work [...]
Living in Hiding: Why Survivors Change Their Names to Stay Alive
For some women, "deadnaming" is a strange concept. Deadnaming is said to be when someone refers to a transgender person by their birth name (the name [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely person trying to connect.” It’s deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
7 Ways People Manipulate: Recognizing and Resisting Control
Ain't nothing new under the sun. Manipulation is one of the oldest tools of control, and Gavin de Becker’s framework outl [...]
🕯️ The Truth About “Victimhood” as an Insult
There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against women—especially stalking, coercive control, and violence—don’t take time off. They don’t pau [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth)
You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened. Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the [...]
10 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Respect You (And How Survivors Can Break Free From the Programming That Keeps Us Silent)
Respect isn’t what he says in public. It’s how he moves when no one is watching, and how he treats your truth, your boundaries, and your dignity. Here [...]
Disrespect Is Not a Small Thing—It’s a Pattern, a Wound, and a Warning (Quotes)
Disrespect is more than just “rudeness.”It is a dehumanizing act—a subtle (or loud) reminder that someone sees you as less than.Less worthy.Less human [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
The Gish Gallop: When Overload Becomes a Weapon Against Survivors
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survivors. It’s called the Gish Gallop.
The [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]