Trauma Does Not Always Look Like Trauma
We tend to imagine trauma as someone crying when they remember something terrible.Sometimes it looks nothing like that.Sometimes trauma looks [...]
Why Women Deserve the Same Freedom We Give Men — Without Criticism or Control
“I get out of all your boxes, I get out.You can’t hold me in these chains.”
Lauryn Hill/I Get Out” (MTV Unplugged 2.0)
Freedom for women m [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Updated from June 8, 2025
No matter the group of men who disregard female humanity—who they like, who they don't like, what they like- the tactics [...]
My Partner Suddenly Changed His Beliefs or Lifestyle and Now Demands That I Change Too. Is That Normal?”
Here's the thing. “Real transformation invites partnership, not submission. True faith doesn’t need a cage—it needs room to breathe.”This is a pat [...]
Mariska Hargitay is Rape Survivor and It Took Her Years to Process That (video)
Mariska Hargitay has said she was raped by a man she considered a friend when she was in her 30s.
Hargitay said she tried several ways to get out of [...]
You Were Always Worth Loving—They Just Weren’t Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yourselfbecause they were never capable of loving you well.
And yet—you tried.You [...]
The Default State is Autonomy: 10 Reasons You Never Owe a Justification for “No”
We’ve been conditioned to treat "no" like a legal defense. We feel the need to back it up with a deposition: “I’m busy,” “I have a b [...]
She Burned Her Writing for J.D. Salinger: Claire Douglas and the Cost of Disappearing for Love (podcast ep)
Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, plays and es [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
THIS is The TRUTH About Dating Preferences & Inclusion
@thisissavvy ♬ original sound - Sav! @tgjprince We Are ALL Entitled to Our Unique Dating Preferences ♬ original sound - TGJPrince[...]
Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner
What Love Should Never Cost You
Before abuse becomes obvious, it often shows up in quieter, more subtle ways.In the beginning, it can feel like pas [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
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Everybody is Somebody: Journal Prompts on Identity (video short)
Identity matters. It matters in the real world.It matters very much when it comes to violence and abuse. A person's sex age, race, health st [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
“Interrogate Your Choices” Isn’t Advice. It’s a Leash.
It's dating. Cuts WILL be made. But too many people have a problem with women being the ones doing the cutting. People are having a difficult time ad [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment o [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
Epistemic Control: When Someone Else Tries to Become the Author of Your Reality
The first step in controlling a person is often convincing them they cannot trust what they know. Violence prevention begins long before viole [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
updated from July 31, 2025The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was.
Survivor Affirmation
Every woman deserv [...]
The Manipulative Power of Changing Language
Her: I need a protective order.
Judge: Did he actually say that he would kill you?
Her: Well....no but he said,
"That's okay I will take [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.
Because too many conversations around abus [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many times they weren’t.
They thought that time would blur the memories,tha [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
Shirley Chisholm
F [...]
🚨 Fear-Based Manipulation Isn’t Love—It’s Control Dressed as Concern
Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or worst-case scenarios to control or limit a woman’s autonomy.
It rarely sounds like [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today:“I [...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already sound “righ [...]
12 Films That Show How We Are Taught Not to See Violence Against Women and Children
There are many ways to hide violence. A locked door will do it. So will money, shame, family loyalty, professional prestige, religious autho [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed to be si [...]
How Do I Document Stalking? 12 Things to Record and Save
Stalking can be difficult to explain because any single incident may look small when separated from everything around it.
A car passes your house.
S [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans
I'd like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this ofte [...]
Unbalanced: Society Polices Women and Pardons Men
We still live in a world where people -including women- nitpick women for their personal choices —
what they wear,whether they worship,whet [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
Unmasking Abuse by Proxy
Abuse by proxy isn’t only used by individuals—it is also wielded by organizations, well funded interest groups, corporations, religions, and (politi [...]
Raising Children, Keeping House: Unpaid Labor Has a Cost
We say, “It takes a village.”
But more often than not, “the village” means the women.
The ones who give their time, their rest, their breath, and [...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply?
Narcissists hunger to have their needs met. If you’re in a close relationship with a narcissist, they expect you to supply them. The term “ [...]
Hidden Misogyny: The Kind That Smiles in Your Face
Not all misogyny shouts. Some of it whispers. Some of it comes dressed as politeness, concern, or tradition.
It’s when women are praised fo [...]
🎯 What We Will Not Be Prioritizing When Women Demand Safety, Health & Well-Being
When women cry out for justice, safety, healing, and the right to exist without fear, the response is too often not action—but distraction.
Instead [...]
Some of the Doors Women Walk Through Today Were Built by Women Who Needed Them First
Try not to measure an older woman’s courage by doors that had not been built yet.In 1968, *Lorraine is twenty-five years old with two little child [...]
🛑 You Can’t Build Something Sacred on Disrespect
Let’s speak truth—because Survivors on healthy authentic healing journeys know this better than anyone:
You cannot build healthy relationships with p [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
Less Policing Women’s Relationships. More Recognizing the Patterns Around Us.
If we can take our eyes off the individual women long enough to study the system around her. We might finally see who has been moving the walls.I [...]