The Role of Homeownership in Women’s Liberation: Domestic Violence and Homelessness (podcast/audio)
In this episode, explore the critical intersection of domestic violence and homelessness, revealing how 38% of women escaping abuse face hou [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Womenâs SpacesâNo Matter How They IdentifyâIs Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Womenâs spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowermentâyet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
What âJust Say Noâ Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
When Your Needs Go Unmet
There is a particular kind of heaviness that comes from pouring into everyone elseâs needs while your own remain empty. It doesnât happen all at once. [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around viole [...]
50 Times We Walked Past YouâOur Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
đ¨ When Power Imbalances Are Ignoredâand Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
Abuse Isnât About Rage. Itâs About Control.
đď¸ See It Clearly Watch who people protect â and who they hurt.
Watch who they challenge â and who they stay silent around. Women.
Children.
[...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truthsâlike what it means to be a womanâare being rewritten, not by science or [...]
Detachment Is Not ColdnessâItâs Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To âlove him through it.âTo pour water on a man who doesnât grow, doesnât change, doesnât offer safety, doesnât [...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didnât invent abuseâit just made it harder to escape.
She didnât hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didnât give him permission [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. Itâs Sacred Work.
If youâre a Survivor, youâve probably heard it all before: "Youâre just being paranoid.""Youâre overreacting.""You need more therapy.""Youâre dam [...]
You Were Never Meant to Carry What He Refused to Unpack
For the woman whoâs been told her standards are too highâstand taller.
Sister,Letâs tell the truth today.
They say: âThatâs just how men are.ââ [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
âIt is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.â
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be kind". Silencing us. De-platforming [...]
I Am LOVING Me, You Work On Loving You.
During my freshman year in college, I thought my hippie-like sociology teacher & me would be cool. I love sociology & writing. This was [...]
đŞWhen Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect UsâBut Donât Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like sheâs with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truthâbut deep down, they are w [...]
Explain Like I'm 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true. Why doesn't she leave? This [...]
You Didnât Know Him. She Did. He Killed Her.
He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives.
And people still asked about his menta [...]
Believe in What Believes in You.
Why spend your precious energy trying to prove your humanity to systems, circles, or people who have already decided they donât see you? That they don [...]
They Just Know: How Abusers Play by the Same Rules
Thereâs no secret clubhouse.No annual meeting.No formal initiation or online group chat.
And yetâsomehowâthey just know.
They know what to say.They [...]
What’s the Big Deal about Sex Tourism? (Infographic)
updated March 10 2024Â The women behind the windows in Amsterdamâs red light district FACT: Buying sex makes men more prone to v [...]
Breaking the Myth: âMen Donât Need to Be Trans to Rape Womenâ
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that âmen donât need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
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Letâs get something straight:
Your opinion about how she shouldâve escaped, how fast she shouldâve healed, how she shouldâve ta [...]
Living in the Aftermath: The Intersection of Domestic Violence and Permanent Disability
The Shadow of the Incident: When Blame Outlives the Act
There is a specific kind of cruelty that exists when a perpetrator not only destroys a pe [...]
âđ˝ When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
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Some men donât fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,âYou will not harm me anymore.â
This is perpe [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds: "Why now?"
"Youâre just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
When âNothing Will Happenâ Isnât a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
âIf your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?â When certainty replaces [...]
American Greed: Inside The Episode with Jenifer Lewis | CNBC Prime
You can do everything right and still meet people whose only plan for you is deception, manipulation, and harm. I loved watching how Jenifer Lewis han [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone elseâs safety.
But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying sil [...]
Jenniferâs Law Exists Because Too Many Women Are Not Believed Until Too Late
update from April 25, 2025
We honor the lives of Jennifer Farber Dulos and Jennifer Magnano, two women whose stories pierced the silence su [...]
“Theyâll Be Raped Anywayâ Is Not a StrategyâItâs Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,âWell, women will be raped anywayâŚâas if that justifies handing predators [...]
đ¨ Listen Closely. Believe Them.
Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us.
But I urge you today:Listenâreally listenâto peopl [...]
âWhy Do We Treat Male âChangeâ Like a Sacred Revelation Instead of a Responsibility?â
A man "changes". Why do we women receive this as our "marching orders"? Do men do this? NO. They treat our changes and transformations as our pe [...]
Familiarity Doesnât Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
Thereâs a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversationsâone that says: âMost people are abused by someone they know⌠so [...]
âIs It Toxic or Is It Abuse?â â When You’re Trying to Name Whatâs Happening
She sat in her parked car for 32 minutes before going inside.
She wasn't avoiding anyoneâhe wasn't even home.
She just⌠didnât want to walk into her [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, itâs that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
FAQ: Why Would She Choose That Horrible Person?
Question: Why do some people who were abused seem to fall for the worst possible relationship partners? Answer: So, [...]
Listen to Women: Sexual & Gender-based Violence :Experts Urge Victims To Break Culture Of Silence.
It is extremely important that women are given space to speak and be heard. Our very survival depends on it. 24 More Phrases People Use to [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
Reclaiming Autonomy: How Women Lose ControlâAnd How to Take It Back
đĄ Why This Matters
Across history and in private moments, women have been stripped of personal autonomy.During wars, our bodies were battleground [...]
đ Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Letâs talk about something a lot of Survivors donât even know has a nameâbut once you see it, you canât unsee it.
Itâs called future faking.And itâ [...]