đą If Stress Can Shrink Your Brain, Can Healing Grow It Back?
For years, people thought that once trauma reshaped the brain, the damage was permanent. But we now know the truth: the brain is alive, adaptable, and [...]
When Someone You Love Defends the People Who Harm Children
There are few heartbreaks more jarring than this:Realizing someone you admire is cheering for those who endanger children.
And it cuts deeper when [...]
Twice as Good Doesnât Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About SafetyâBecause We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the Doubt Weâve heard it since childhood:âYouâve got [...]
The Media Is Teaching Women to Be Silent About Violence. Even Women in Media.
We need to name it.
The mediaâmainstream and socialâisn't just failing to protect women.It's teaching us to be quiet.To question ourselves. To shrink [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a ProcessâNot Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single eventâitâs a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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They Mock You, Then Expect You to ServeâThe Trap Ends Now
May you never again fall into the trap of using your labor for an individual or group who calls your worth into question by...
Mocking your b [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms donât happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldnât have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. Itâs Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
 Updated 8 21 2025Â
original March 2016 About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
Why People Should Stop Asking Survivors of Abuse “Why Now?”
Let's get in the habit of allowing people to survive the impact of harm first.- Tonya GJ Prince
When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, mo [...]
Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back..... Break up safety tips for abused partners by Tonya GJ Prince elink.io | See Original [...]
Lifting As We Climb: The Radical Blueprint of the Black Womenâs Club Movement
When Black women were excluded, they built their own.
They didnât wait for permission. They didnât wait for safety to be handed to them.They create [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Letâs tell the truthâbecause lives depend on it. Iâve work [...]
12 Unapologetic Truths: Your Rights as a Woman Are Unconditional (Audio/podcast)
 Your rights as a woman are not up for debate. You donât need permission, validation, or a committee vote to own your power. In this b [...]
Healthy Teen Dating Tip Sheet
CANVA LINK There has always been a lot of pressure on girls regarding dating. There are so many traps that can put labels on her. Terrible [...]
âAm I Overreacting?â
Letâs talk about something that doesn't get said enough:
When you love someone, itâs harder to see clearly.Your heart wants to believe the best.You [...]
What âJust Say Noâ Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
How to Support Lesbian Friends in Abusive Relationships
As an advocate, you become familiar with the careful way that a woman tells you her story. She's testing your waters. Are you safe? Are you judgment [...]
Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]
Survivor Lessons on Emotional Abuse: Moving Beyond the Hurt But Saving the Lessons
original: 7/20/2016We the people will never let you forget it. If you date more than one abusive partner, you already know, amongst your family a [...]
Unmasking Media Bias In Violence Against Women (Infographic)
"A lie has many variations, the truth none." Unmasking media bias towards violence against women by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why youâre not âmeanâ for wanting peace It starts with a bad decision. Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
Hidden Misogyny: The Kind That Smiles in Your Face
Not all misogyny shouts. Some of it whispers. Some of it comes dressed as politeness, concern, or tradition.
Itâs when women are praised fo [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
âPower borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
When Chaos Becomes Normal: Relearning the Language of Calm and Boundaries
Some of us grew up learning to breathe in the middle of storms.
We learned to sleep through shouting, to laugh through danger, to keep functioning th [...]
đ¤đ° Money, Respect & the Womanâs Mic: Black Womenâs Songs About Money, Power, and Respect
updated from April 2025
"We're supposed to pretend that if we are "good girls," a "good man" will find us and give us everything that we want. [...]
Affirmed: Protect Your Power and Disengage From People Who Plant Self-Doubt
updated from January 20 2025 This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls. Many f [...]
The Manipulative Power of Changing Language
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Her: I need a protective order.
Judge: Did he actually say that he would kill you?
Her:Â Well....no but he said,
"That's okay I will take [...]
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What About Your Friends and Domestic Violence: RIP to the Courageous Tyshika Askins
Eye-Opening Conversations So what is a friend to do when another friend is in a violent relationship? How far should she go?Observing conve [...]
Do Not Throw âStudiesâ in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
Mail Order Domestic Violence
(revised from original post 7/1/15) After the RiceLila married Jack.
Things were fairy tale for a long time.
And then the abuse started.
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Stop Handing Out Character References When a Woman Is Talking About Risk
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that keeps sho [...]
She Knows What Heâs Capable OfâDo You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. Itâs a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isnât a disagreement.Itâs a ca [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isnât the Truth)
Youâve left the relationship.Youâve named what happened. Maybe youâve even started to heal.But some days⌠the [...]
Self-Determination Doesnât Always Look Like You Think It Should
Thereâs a blind spot on the Left.
A loud, well-meaning, but dangerous assumption that all women want the same things, live by the same codes, and a [...]
đż The Truth About Hate Groups & Their Harm to Women and Children
I speak the truth, even when it shakes the room.
My refusal to accept harm is not hatred. It is sacred love.
We often think of hate groups as someth [...]
Female Bullying: Yet Another Obstacle to Women’s Rights and Freedoms
Women who use or exploit their connection to abusive men to bully other women are typically engaging in a [...]
How Domestic Violence Fuels the Cycle of Poverty
For many victims, domestic violence traps them in a cycle of poverty. Abusers know that keeping the victim financially reliant makes it harder [...]
đ¨ Pregnancy Shouldnât Be a Death Sentence
Letâs tell the truthâpregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum w [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
âIt is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.â
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isnât always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being âeasygoing,â âlow maintenance,â [...]