E. Lynn Harris: The Visionary Black Author Who Gave Us Stories Weâd Never SeenâBut Always Needed
Long before mainstream platforms embraced diverse stories, he was doing the work. Out of the trunk of his car. In beauty salons. With Black wo [...]
24 Intimate Partner Homicide Red Flags by April Hardy
24 Intimate Partner Homicide Red Flags by April HardyDear Y'all,A great resource was sent to me my email account with permission to share. [...]
A Slap to the Ear Is Not âJust a Slapâ: What Survivors Need to Know About Ear Injuries, Concussion Symptoms, and Strangulation
Some injuries announce themselves with bruises. Others move in quietly, sit behind the ear, ring through the night, [...]
Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
It is only by the grace of God that every female Survivor of abuse is not in prison, suffering more abuse and violence at the hands of men. [...]
Every Solution Was Rejected Because Access Was the Goal: Understanding Forced Access, Coercion, and Why So Many Women Feel Pressured to Explain Themselves
A woman asks for safety.
Everyone else asks for evidence.
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She is asking for rest.Sh [...]
âFAQ: Whatâs Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to collect DNA and physical evidence from a [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say Theyâre Afraid â And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
Black women in London facing âcrisisâ as higher femicide rates revealed
The figures have been obtained by the PA news agency from the Metropolitan Police in a Freedom of Information request. T [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrityâthat is not love. That is [...]
How to Bury Your Abusive Husband and the Laws That Shielded Him – YES! Magazine Solutions Journalism
Huge thanks to Brijana Prooker @BriProoker for shining a thoughtful spotlight on domestic violence in this informative piece. I'm honored to [...]
How to Support Lesbian Friends in Abusive Relationships
As an advocate, you become familiar with the careful way that a woman tells you her story. She's testing your waters. Are you safe? Are you judgment [...]
Epistemic Control: When Someone Else Tries to Become the Author of Your Reality
The first step in controlling a person is often convincing them they cannot trust what they know. Violence prevention begins long before viole [...]
When âI Amâ Becomes a Demand
âI amâŠâTwo of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who weâ [...]
Youâre Not Her Judge. Youâre Not Even Helpful.
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The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivorâs choices is the same as offering help.Itâs not. [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to please, and to ignore their instincts, self-protection is a revolutionary act.Join Tonya GJ Prince in [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safetyâjust long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
Visibility Isnât Safety. And Representation Isnât Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
When Men’s Feelings Matter More Than Women’s Safety: Recognizing Everyday Misogyny
Mobility restriction is a term widely used in human rights, disability studies, public health, criminology, and violence prevention because mobility i [...]
When Older Women Are Told to Give Until It Hurts
The internet will have you believe something very simple and very cruel, and in my view, is rooted in misogyny:If younger people cut you off, it m [...]
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What About Your Friends and Domestic Violence: RIP to the Courageous Tyshika Askins
Eye-Opening Conversations So what is a friend to do when another friend is in a violent relationship? How far should she go?Observing conve [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
 updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
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I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.Â
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
Living in Hiding: Why Survivors Change Their Names to Stay Alive
For some women, "deadnaming" is a strange concept. Deadnaming is said to be when someone refers to a transgender person by their birth name (the name [...]
What We Must Know About Romance and Dating Safely
We human beings who seek relationship partners LOVE romance. Heck, even once we find our person, we still love it. But I believe that [...]
America’s Hidden Shame: Confronting the Femicide Rates in the US
Femicide, defined as the gender-based killing of women and girls, remains a critical issue in the United States. While comprehensive national da [...]
Some Truths Weâre Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
âThe Forgive and Overlook Habitâ: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isnât Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isnât going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Hereâs how it worksâover and over again:1. Women Set Bound [...]
đ Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Letâs talk about something a lot of Survivors donât even know has a nameâbut once you see it, you canât unsee it.
Itâs called future faking.And itâ [...]
10 Rights of Survivors When An Abusive Person Dies
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 We are indeed all the villain in someone's story. We are all flawed and imperfect. But there are degrees to this.Â
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Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
The Hidden Bill: What Violence Against Women Really Costs
When we talk about violence, we rarely talk about what the financial costs.Not just the broken bones or the heartbreak â but the billions of dolla [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
âBut Thatâs Your FamilyâŠâ
Thereâs a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
đŻïž The Truth About âVictimhoodâ as an Insult
There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against womenâespecially stalking, coercive control, and violenceâdonât take time off. They donât pau [...]
She Didnât Stay Because She Didnât Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didnât know.
Didnât know her worth.Didnât know what he was doing to her.Didnât know what love is supposed to l [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to t [...]
15 Reasons a Woman’s Silence Does Not Mean She Is Comfortable
One of the most dangerous assumptions in the world is believing that if a woman does not openly object, she must be okay with what is [...]
How Domestic Violence Fuels the Cycle of Poverty
For many victims, domestic violence traps them in a cycle of poverty. Abusers know that keeping the victimfinancially reliant makes it harder [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
Before “Domestic Violence”: The History of How Women Finally Named Abuse
For generations, women endured violence that society treated as a private problem. This is the story of how finding the right words changed law, cultu [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, âNowâs not the time.âThey say, âItâs not that serious.âThey say, âBe the bigger person.âThey say, âOther people have it worse.â
And just li [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not âjust leaving.âThey are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
When âIâll Kill Myself If You Leaveâ Becomes Abuse: 15 Things Women Need to Know About Suicide Threats and Emotional Blackmail
updated from November 18 2024Helping a woman put herself first becomes much harder when the person hurting her repeatedly threatens to end his lif [...]
Phrases People Use to Silence….the Harmed (video)
Have WE Discussed Child Predators Today? (video clip) | WE Survive AbuseWomen Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too | WE Survive AbuseHow to [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: Itâs Not Harmless. Itâs Harm.
Catfishing isnât just a little lie or a âlonely person trying to connect.â Itâs deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]