Let’s talk about something that doesn't get said enough: When you love someone, it’s harder to see clearly.Your heart wants to believe the best.You
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough:
When you love someone, it’s harder to see clearly.
Your heart wants to believe the best.
Your memories want to hold onto the good moments.
Your soul wants things to work.
So when they hurt you—especially in ways that are subtle, emotional, or invisible—it’s natural to question yourself first.
You think:
“Maybe I misunderstood.”
“I’m probably overreacting.”
“It’s not that bad… they didn’t mean it.”
But the truth is:
When someone makes you question your entire worth as a human being….
You are not wrong or overreacting when someone makes you question your worth as a human being. That is not normal. That is not love. No one who genuinely cares for you should ever make you feel small, invisible, or broken. When a person’s words or actions leave you doubting your value, it’s not a “misunderstanding”—it’s emotional harm.
Your heart may want to explain it away, especially if you care about them. But your body, your spirit, and your inner voice know the truth: You should never have to shrink to be loved. You should never be left wondering whether you deserve kindness, safety, or respect. Those are not luxuries. They are your birthright.
You’re not overreacting.
You’re reacting through the lens of love.
And that lens can blur things that others, from the outside, see clearly.
🧠 Why It Feels So Confusing
Love is powerful. It opens us up, softens us, binds us.
But love can also be used against us—especially in abusive or manipulative relationships.
Abusers often depend on your love to keep you doubting your instincts.
They count on your loyalty.
They weaponize your compassion.
They use phrases like:
“You always take things the wrong way.”
“You’re too emotional.”
“You’re making a big deal out of nothing.”
This is gaslighting—a form of emotional abuse meant to confuse and control you by making you question your own thoughts, feelings, and memories.
❤️ You’re Not Weak for Loving Someone
People on the outside?
They’re not in love with this person.
They don’t remember the sweet moments, the apologies, the charm.
They don’t see the complexity, the hope, the patterns.
You do.
That doesn’t make you foolish.
It makes you human.
But you can love someone and still recognize that something’s not right.
You can want things to get better and still name the harm.
You can hold love in your heart and still choose yourself.
🔍 Let’s Be Honest:
Love does not excuse abuse.
Confusion is not the same as overreaction.
Just because it’s not physical doesn’t mean it’s not real.
Wanting to believe the best doesn’t mean you’re blind—it means you’re trying.
But even the most loving person deserves safety.
Deserves peace.
Deserves to feel seen, heard, and protected.
🌱 If You’re Asking “Am I Overreacting?” — Try Asking:
“What did my body feel in that moment?”
“If this happened to my best friend, how would I respond?”
“Have I felt like this before—with this same person?”
“Do I feel safer when I’m alone than when I’m with them?”
These questions help shift the focus from self-blame to self-awareness.
🧡 You Deserve to Trust Yourself Again
You don’t have to explain away harm just because you care about the person who caused it.
You are allowed to love someone and still leave to protect yourself.
You are allowed to feel confused and still be right.
You are allowed to be heartbroken and still choose healing.
You are not overreacting.
You are responding to something real.
And when the fog begins to clear, you’ll see what your heart was trying to tell you all along:
You deserve love that never asks you to question your worth.
💬 Affirmations for Trusting Your Feelings After Emotional Abuse
My feelings are valid, even when others try to dismiss them.
I have a right to my emotions, my reactions, and my truth.
I am not too sensitive—I am deeply aware.
It is not overreacting to ask for respect, care, and honesty.
I no longer carry the weight of someone else’s denial.
Gaslighting does not define me—my clarity does.
I trust the wisdom in my body and the knowing in my spirit.
Confusion is not a weakness—it’s a sign that something is wrong.
I honor the parts of me that speak up when something feels off.
I am allowed to walk away from people who do not respect my truth.
