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When Your Needs Go Unmet

There is a particular kind of heaviness that comes from pouring into everyone else’s needs while your own remain empty. It doesn’t happen all at once.

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There is a particular kind of heaviness that comes from pouring into everyone else’s needs while your own remain empty. It doesn’t happen all at once. It builds slowly, quietly, over years.

At first, you tell yourself you’re strong enough. You convince yourself that “someday” you’ll get to rest. But as time stretches on, the weight grows into exhaustion, sadness, and even depression.

Meeting the needs of others while your own spirit remains neglected is not sustainable. It chips away at your sense of worth. It sends the false message that you were put on this earth only to give, never to receive.

But hear this: your needs matter. Your rest matters. Your joy matters. You are not only a caretaker of others—you are also a soul in need of care, love, and safety.

Breaking free begins with naming the truth: I am not here only to keep others alive. I am here to live.

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