Category: Abuse
10 Lessons for Survivors from Melba Wilson’s Crossing the Boundary: Black Women Survive Incest
Melba Wilson wrote about something that Black women had certainly been [...]
The Question Nobody Answers About Mixed-Sex Spaces: What Happens When Something Goes Wrong?
I did not arrive at female boundaries because I assumed every male was [...]
Marcia Johnson Told Them She Was Afraid: Why Everyone Needs to Understand the Dynamics of Domestic Violence (Part 1)
There are cases that remind us why understanding domestic violence can [...]
Tina Turner Told Us She Was Raped. People Still Made Jokes: What That Reveals About Rape Culture
Tina Turner did what we so often tell women to do.
She spoke.
She to [...]
Your Right to Choose Depends on Your Right to Know: When Romantic Deception Interferes with Consent
Which facts may another person deliberately falsify while seeking some [...]
The Brochure Says “We Take Your Safety Seriously.” But What Happens When a Survivor Actually Reports?
Institutions know how to write beautiful promises.“We take all rep [...]
When Someone Decides What You Will Be Called: Name Control as a Tactic of Abuse
Your name is one of the first things you learn belongs to you.That [...]
When He Keeps Calling You Names: Name-Calling Can Be a Tactic of Abuse
Sometimes abuse announces itself with a threat.Sometimes it starts [...]
The Invisible Glue: 10 Ways Women Are Taught to Hold Together What Should Be Allowed to Break
updated from January 2026I've served the women who responded to vi [...]
When Someone Tries to Humiliate You and Take Your Name: Two Abuse Tactics Survivors Should Know (audio ep)
Abuse does not always begin with a bruise. Sometimes it begins with hu [...]