Understand this: When men tell you—warn you—joke with youabout how men operate… When they say things like:“Men are dogs.”“He’s probably chea
Understand this:
When men tell you—
warn you—
joke with you
about how men operate…
When they say things like:
“Men are dogs.”
“He’s probably cheating already.”
“If he hasn’t hit you yet, he will.”
“All men lie, you just have to choose which lie you like.”
[laughs] “That’s just how men are.”
And then…
still push you to choose it.
Still tell you to “submit.”
Still pressure you to “humble yourself.”
Still shame you for having boundaries.
That is not love.
That is not care.
That is not protection.
That is betrayal.
They are not on your side.
They know the games.
They know the tactics.
They know the violence, the grooming, the emotional control.
And yet—they’re still pointing you toward it.
🛑 Let’s be clear:
They are not helping to end violence against women.
They are not helping to secure our safety, our peace, or our health.
They are not teaching other men to do better.
They are not intervening when women are harmed.
They are not risking anything to stand with us.
What they are doing is laughing.
At you.
At us.
At Survivors.
They call it “being real.”
They call it “just facts.”
But it’s not facts—it’s fatalism.
It’s grooming you to expect pain and call it love.
❓Ask this:
What is he doing—right now—to actively help end violence against women?
Not what he says.
Not what he tweets.
What is he doing?
Because if he knows the danger and still asks you to walk into it,
he is not neutral.
He is complicit.
🌀 Survivor Affirmation:
“They warned her—but never to save her.
They laughed, not knowing she’d outlive the punchline.
Now she walks in truth too sharp for their jokes to touch.”
📣 To every woman reading this:
You are not crazy for listening to your gut.
You are not “too much” for wanting to be safe.
You are not bitter for remembering what they conveniently forget.
You are wise.
You are worthy.
And you are not here to be the casualty of someone else’s apathy.
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