Self care

Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish: What an Airplane Oxygen Mask Taught Me About Caring for Others Have you ever felt guilty for taking care of yourself before taking care of …

I literally have a theme song for when I need to return to this lesson. Blame It on Me by Chrisette Michelle. “You can say whatever you like. As long …

Content note: this post discusses strangulation, sexual violence, and domestic homicide. If it feels like everyone is suddenly talking about strangulation, it is not your imagination. Police departments are reporting …

updated from June 9, 2025 Please pay attention. If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary… That is …

updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or …

How we slowly surrender our boundaries, judgment, and needs, and what it means to begin returning to ourselves. There is something about Nina Simone singing I Wish I Knew How …

12 ways women are pressured, persuaded, and sometimes punished for refusing to organize their lives around men. Women are human beings in our own right. Yet across cultures, religions, families, …

I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are …

If someone can convince you that speaking about mistreatment is worse than the mistreatment itself, they have found a powerful way to protect those responsible. In 2017, when Chimamanda Ngozi …

Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what …