How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
You ought to be thankful for the little things.
But little things are all you seem to give.
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⚡ Trust Yourself — Without Apology
“They may call you hateful. But what they won’t call you is gone — because you trusted yourself.”
Ignore the noise of people who do not know better. [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Health Story Matters and My Voice is Unafraid (video short)
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Disability and Reclaim My Voice (video short) | WE Survive Abuse [...]
Holiday Boundaries: Your Voice, Your Choice, Your Healing
The holidays carry a weight most people never see.For Survivors, gatherings can be a battlefield of memories, expectations, and unspoken wounds. [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
💔 When the Weight Is More Than Weight: Understanding the Link Between Trauma and Body Size
I know. This is sensitive territory. This is my battle too.
As a Survivor, I know how heartless, cruel, and unkind people can be to those [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
The Power of Self-Affirmation in the Black Community
When an executive order was released "canceling" acknowledgment of Black History Month on the federal level, did you notice that Black peo [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
🛡️ Building Courage After Abuse: Breath by Breath, Brick by Brick
After abuse, courage doesn't roar back all at once.It flickers.It shakes.It comes in broken whispers and trembling steps.And that's okay.
Courage aft [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
How to Fight Social Narcissism: What Racism and Relationship Narcissism Have in Common
Some patterns are so familiar that our bodies recognize them before our mouths can explain them. A room gets quiet. A person says, “That never happene [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
Naming the Chains: Understanding Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
These systems and beliefs shape how society treats women and girls, often reinforcing oppression, inequality, and violence. While they overlap, each [...]
“Why Do Her Posts Always Seem to Reassure Men, Not Women?”
First of all, before I say anything else, for your own survival, believe her. You are growing awareness of who benefits from these declarations.
When [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
10 Affirmations for Women Seeking Accountability
1. I am deserving of accountability that prioritizes my healing, security, and safety.2. My voice and experiences are valid, and I have the right [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
Own the Narrative: The Power of Storytelling Against Epistemicide
In a world where algorithms dictate whose voices are heard and whose truths are silenced, storytelling becomes an act of revolution. It is an act of [...]
Public Humiliation Is Not Entertainment: How Shame Becomes a Tool of Control
“Don’t let folks play in your face.”-Black Proverb
Public humiliation is often dismissed as personality conflict, humor, or spectacle.
But humiliati [...]
What Happens When Women Reach Their Breaking Point: The Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Cost of Carrying Too Much for Too Long
When a human being, especially a woman who has been carrying others for too long, reaches her breaking point, several things can happen—physically, em [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you exp [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
