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Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds: "Why now?"
"You’re just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025 Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
🔥 What Is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is when someone tries to make you doubt your own reality—your memory, your feelings, your instincts, your truth.
It’s not just lying.It’s [...]
Life-Saving Advice for Black Women from The Positive Birth Coach
@thepositivebirthcoach Replying to @MVP I hope this helps, a guide for black women advocating for yourselves in maternity care @The Motherhood Group @ [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update. Hi [...]
How Vision Boards Help Survivors Reclaim Their Future
For Survivors of trauma, the journey to healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about reclaiming, redefining, and rebuilding. One powerful y [...]
Creating Safe Spaces to Heal: How Black Women Make Room for Ourselves When the World Won’t
We weren’t handed safe spaces.We’ve had to build them from scratch— with whatever was in our hands,whatever was in our hearts,and sometimes, just w [...]
⭐ Why I Resist Diluted Language Like “Birthing People” Part 1
Updated from November 2025
How hard is it to just say "mothers and.....?"
In 2024, Black women had a maternal mortalit [...]
💔 They Don’t Say She Was Loved — They Say She Stayed
Previous generations of women had different concerns because they had fewer options.
Let’s start there. Many of our grandmothers and great-gra [...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in [...]
“She Was No Angel” — But What If She Was Hurting?
People say it like a verdict.
“She was no angel.”
But I’ve sat across from women others were quick to throw away. Once they started speaking and t [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
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Emotional Manipulation: The Tactic of Threatening Suicide
Understanding the tactic of threatening suicide"Weaponizing"Helping a woman to put herself first becomes so much more difficult when a relations [...]
📌 Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a cause, or a community does not require that women date anyone in that [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget. [...]
Healing Beyond the Pain: Exploring the Latest Technologies in Treating PTSD
For Survivors of abuse and violence, the road to healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is deeply personal and often fraught with ch [...]
The Weight of Invisible Pain: Why Fibromyalgia Leaves You Exhausted Before the Day Begins
Fibromyalgia and abuse are deeply intertwined in ways that medical science is only beginning to understand. Survivors of abuse—whether physical, emoti [...]
Why Abuse Leaves You with Chronic Self-Doubt
And Why That Doesn’t Mean You’re Broken
There’s something few people talk about after abuse ends:The way self-doubt clings to you like a second ski [...]
🕯️ Sandy’s Law: The Price She Paid, The Road She Built
There are women today who believe that feminism is no longer needed.But sometimes the only reason it feels unnecessary is because you are [...]
Why Black Women Stay So Careful When We Are in Distress
It shattered me that as Cherrie Moore was being punched in the face by a maniacal madman police officer, she was trying to reassure and co [...]
Respect Without Surrender
It is possible — and necessary — for people to be respected, valued, and protected by law without being granted unconditional access to you. Respec [...]
Stephanie Lyn: How to Distance Yourself
I like this video because it speaks to a very real danger. Emotionally abusive people are a threat to health and safety and sometimes distance is the [...]
Naming the Chains: Understanding Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
These systems and beliefs shape how society treats women and girls, often reinforcing oppression, inequality, and violence. While they overlap, each [...]