The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
Why Black Women Stay So Careful When We Are in Distress
It shattered me that as Cherrie Moore was being punched in the face by a maniacal madman police officer, she was trying to reassure and co [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
💔 Understanding Marital Rape: Consent Still Matters
In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime. But here’ [...]
Honoring the Courage of James Ransone Who Walked in Truth
updated from December 22 2025
I'm hearing that James Ransone was left out of the Oscars "In Memoriam" segment on Sunday March 15, ceremony. Let's r [...]
🎬 We’re Not Just Watching the Story—We’re Being Told Who We’re Allowed to Be
At We Survive Abuse, we talk a lot about truth, survival, and the power of reclaiming your story. But what if I told you that even the stories we wa [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. Not all. But many. Some draw stre [...]
Halle Berry Did Something Rare for These Days — She Spoke Directly for Women
When Halle Berry stood up and challenged Governor Gavin Newsom, she wasn’t dabbling in a new lane, chasing headlines, or borrowing talking points. She [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
What Happens When Women Reach Their Breaking Point: The Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Cost of Carrying Too Much for Too Long
When a human being, especially a woman who has been carrying others for too long, reaches her breaking point, several things can happen—physically, em [...]
💔 If I’m Healing, Then Why Am I Hurting?
A gentle truth for the days when healing aches more than harm ever did.
We don’t talk about this part enough.
The part where healing hurts.
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Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
Calling Out the Undermining of Women and Children’s Rights
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."— Unknown Jonah Wheeler has been lec [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
Healing is Yours: Beware the Micromanagers of Your Journey
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
When Childhood Triggers Resurface: Healing Before It Becomes Harm
You Do Not Have to Pass on Pain
If you find yourself feeling anger rise around children—if you feel the urge to control, dominate, or humiliate—it is [...]
Healing Is Not Linear—It’s Rhythmic
I take what nourishes, I leave what drains. My spirit knows the difference like rivers know the rain.
Indigenous practitioners, rootworkers, somatic [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
Naming the Chains: Understanding Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
These systems and beliefs shape how society treats women and girls, often reinforcing oppression, inequality, and violence. While they overlap, each [...]
📌 Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a cause, or a community does not require that women date anyone in that [...]
Coach, Therapist, Psychologist, or Doctor? A Compassionate Guide for Abuse Survivors Seeking the Right Support
My strength is sacred, but I do not have to carry everything alone.
I release the belief that asking for help makes me weak. Support is not failur [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
Gaslighting with a Grin: What Covert Bullying Really Looks Like
What Is Covert Bullying?
The Abuse You Can’t Always See
Not all bullying looks like yelling, pushing, or name-calling.Some of the most damaging harm [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end. It bent sharply. Again and again.
Just when people thought they understood the terrain, t [...]