🚩 Red Flags: When “Allies” Are Really Just Bullies
In advocacy, passion often draws people in—it can light up a room, stir emotions, and rally attention. But not every loud voice is a trustworthy one. [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
You Weren’t Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didn’t Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
But what they really meant was:You stopped making it easy for them to mistreat y [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
Holiday Boundaries: Your Voice, Your Choice, Your Healing
The holidays carry a weight most people never see.For Survivors, gatherings can be a battlefield of memories, expectations, and unspoken wounds. [...]
Halle Berry Did Something Rare for These Days — She Spoke Directly for Women
When Halle Berry stood up and challenged Governor Gavin Newsom, she wasn’t dabbling in a new lane, chasing headlines, or borrowing talking points. She [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
Concern Trolling: When Fake Concern Masks Control Over Women’s Lives
"I'm just looking out for you."
"I'm just trying to help you out."
January 13, 2025 (original)
Concern trolling is a tactic that [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
💔 Understanding Marital Rape: Consent Still Matters
In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime.But here’ [...]
“She Was No Angel” — But What If She Was Hurting?
People say it like a verdict.
“She was no angel.”
But I’ve sat across from women others were quick to throw away. Once they started speaking and t [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
We Don’t Police Each Other—We Challenge Power
Power.That’s the word they fear most when it rises in a Black woman’s mouth.
Our liberation will never be foundin tearing down each other’s choices.N [...]
The Myth of Neutrality: Why Identity Blindness Fails Survivors Every Time
There’s a phrase people love to say when conversations get uncomfortable:
“I don’t see gender, race, sexuality, or identity. I treat everyone the sam [...]
13 Powerful Truths About Womanism: A Pathway to Liberation, Healing, and Community
When people ask why I embrace Womanism, I say this: It tells the whole truth. It acknowledges what many of us already know in our bones—our survival [...]
Juneteenth: Proof That Even Our Freedom Is Seen as “Too Much”
Juneteenth is not just a holiday. It is a mirror—reflecting how this nation has long believed that Black people deserve nothing [...]
💔 If I’m Healing, Then Why Am I Hurting?
A gentle truth for the days when healing aches more than harm ever did.
We don’t talk about this part enough.
The part where healing hurts.
[...]
You’re Not Broken. You Were Trained to Survive Chaos.
Some of us were raised in rooms where silence was survival.
Where love came with conditions, and peace was always paid for in self-abandonment.
We l [...]
The Relationship Between Power and Truth: Why Survivors Must Be Free to Speak
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
5 Things You Should Know About the History of “Gender”
For many of us, the word gender feels like it has always existed in the way we use it today. But the truth is, the meaning of gender has changed over [...]
How Men Who Respect Women Can Show It Every Day
About the So-Called "Male Loneliness Epidemic"I do not think that men who value women and treat women well have ever heard of this so-called male lone [...]
📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]