Truth: No, they are not.[WeSurviveAbuse.com] This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets repeated far too often—in whispers, on
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Truth: No, they are not.
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets repeated far too often—in whispers, on podcasts, in therapy offices, and even from people who claim to care.
Let’s break it down.
🚫 The Myth:
“Survivors keep ending up with abusers because they’re broken.”
“They have bad judgment.”
“They’re trauma magnets.”
“They must like chaos.”
🔍 The Real Truth:
Abuse doesn’t happen because you’re broken.
It happens because someone else made a choice to control, harm, and violate your trust.
People who abuse others don’t wear warning labels. They don’t walk in announcing their intentions.
They’re skilled manipulators. They mimic love. They learn your language. They mirror your values—until they no longer need to.
Many Survivors didn’t “pick” an abuser.
They picked someone who lied, groomed, and misrepresented themselves.
They picked someone who waited until they were invested, then began to twist the knife slowly.
💡 Survivors Are Not Broken
They are:
Observant
Loving
Loyal
Forgiving
Strong
Brave enough to leave
Brave enough to stay alive in a situation meant to silence them
🧠 And Let’s Not Forget:
Abusers target people who are generous.
Who are healing.
Who still believe in goodness.
They test boundaries slowly—not because you’re weak, but because you’re human.
🛑 Let’s Kill This Myth for Good:
You’re not broken.
You’re not doomed.
And this didn’t happen because you’re “just the type” to fall for abuse.
This happened because someone abused their power—and that says everything about them, not about you.
“Survivors don’t attract abuse. Abusers seek out people they think they can silence. And they thought wrong.”
– WeSurviveAbuse.com
