Let’s name it plain:Victim-blaming doesn’t protect anyone. It protects abusers. When people say: “Why didn’t she just leave?” “She
Let’s name it plain:
Victim-blaming doesn’t protect anyone. It protects abusers.
When people say:
“Why didn’t she just leave?”
“She must’ve done something.”
“She’s just trying to ruin his life.”
“Well, I wouldn’t have let that happen to me…”
What they’re really doing is shifting the blame away from the person who chose to harm—and placing it on the one who survived.
That’s not tough love.
That’s complicity.
That is enabling.
What Victim-Blaming Actually Does:
It normalizes abuse by suggesting it’s sometimes understandable
It silences Survivors, making them afraid to speak their truth
It emboldens abusers, who feel protected by society’s excuses
It discourages others from seeking help because they fear being judged
Victim-blaming is not neutral. It’s not objective.
It’s not a “different opinion.”
It is a barrier to healing.
It is a weapon.
It is harm.
If we are serious about ending abuse, we must also end the culture that excuses it.
A culture that comforts abusers while questioning the credibility of the people they hurt.
The truth is:
The truth is:Survivors are not responsible for someone else’s violence.
No one “asks for it.”
Silence is not safer.
And judgment doesn’t heal—compassion does.
We don’t stop abuse by telling Survivors to be more careful.
We stop abuse by holding abusers accountable—and standing beside the ones who dared to live through it.
If you’ve ever been blamed for what someone else did to you, I want you to hear this clearly:
It was not your fault.
You deserved safety then. You deserve healing now.
And you are not alone.
🔥 Affirmations for Survivors Who Were Blamed Instead of Believed
I am not responsible for the harm someone else chose to cause.
Their violence is not my shame to carry.
I deserved safety then, and I deserve healing now.
Blame belongs with the one who caused the harm—not with me.
I refuse to wear someone else’s guilt like it is mine.
My truth is sacred, even when others choose not to hear it.
Silence protected them—my voice protects me.
Every time I speak my truth, I reclaim a piece of my power.
I don’t need anyone’s permission to believe myself.
I am healing. I am rising. I am not to blame.
