When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That belief is not just a red flag. It is a blaring siren. A line crossed. A truth revealed.
In this series, we’re naming one of the most overlooked warning signs in abusive households: the denial of privacy.
From doors being removed to rooms under surveillance, when someone refuses to allow privacy within the home, they are not protecting you—they are controlling you. And in far too many cases, this control ends in violence. Even murder.
These are not just stories. These are not just true stories. These are warnings.
Case 1: Christopher Ray Jones | Alabama
In 2019, correctional officer Christopher Ray Jones murdered his wife, Olivia Jones, an accountant. She was a mother, a woman trying to reclaim her life.
What helped convict him? Surveillance cameras—not placed by Olivia for safety, but allegedly installed by Christopher to monitor her. Footage from inside their home revealed patterns of abuse and ultimately exposed the truth about her murder.
He watched her every move, then ended her life.
Case 2: Linda Cooney | Florida & Las Vegas
In 1992, Linda Cooney shot and killed her husband in Florida. She claimed self-defense and was acquitted.
Years later, in 2011, she shot her adult son, Kevin Cooney, in Las Vegas—leaving him partially paralyzed.
According to testimony, Kevin’s ex-girlfriend revealed chilling details:
- Linda stalked her son’s partners.
- Linda’s other son—a law enforcement officer—was not even allowed to have a door to his bedroom.
- Neither son had doors. They were removed by Linda entirely.
When someone denies your right to close a door, they are denying your right to self.
Case 3: Matthew Leili | Georgia
In 2011, Matthew Leili murdered his wife, Nique (Dominique) Leili, a beloved mother of three.
According to court testimony, in the years leading up to her death, Nique tried to leave. She tried to protect herself.
But Matthew wired the house with surveillance, recording her conversations, tracking her movements. There were recordings hidden in the bedroom, and she was routinely interrogated about her words and actions.
He stripped her of peace and then took her life. She had no privacy. No refuge.
The Pattern: Privacy Denied Is a Lethal Red Flag
When someone doesn’t believe you have a right to privacy, they are telling you that they see you as property.
- They don’t want to know what you’re doing—they want to control what you’re doing.
- They don’t want to communicate—they want to monitor.
- They don’t want to love—they want to possess.
When privacy is forbidden, it is a declaration of power and dominance. And when that power is challenged—by a desire to heal, leave, grow, or set boundaries—punishment often follows. Swift. Violent. Final.
Remember This:
Some people truly are dangerous to others. That’s not fearmongering. That’s fact.
Every human being deserves:
- A closed door
- A safe space
- The right to be alone
- The right to say “no”
These are not luxuries. They are birthrights. And anyone who denies them is not safe to be around.
🔒 Affirmations: My Right to Privacy and Safety
I have the right to close a door and not explain why.
I do not owe anyone access to my thoughts, my space, or my silence.
Privacy is not selfish—it is a form of self-protection and self-love.
My home, my body, and my mind are not for surveillance.
Any relationship that demands access to every part of me is not love—it is control.
I deserve to feel safe, unmonitored, and unjudged in my own space.
If someone refuses to respect my privacy, I am right to question their intentions.
Being alone can be sacred, healing, and deeply human.
I am not property. I am not a possession. I am a person with rights.
It is not wrong to protect my peace—it is wise, it is just, and it is necessary.
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