Start Your Own, Even If It’s Small. Because Truth Needs a Home.

Let’s tell the truth that so many are scared to say:

They keep claiming they want real voices,
diverse creators,
truth-tellers,
legacy wisdom.

But until social media and other internet platform owners prioritize integrity inside their own ranks,
they’ll keep driving away the very people who could turn these platforms into sanctuaries of trust.

Because we are not chasing clout.
We are carrying truth.

And truth cannot thrive where sabotage is allowed to sit in silence.

Every time they allow:

• Internal bias to decide who gets visibility and who gets censored,

• “Tech issues” to disrupt powerful, justice-rooted voices,

• Young, untrained staff to treat seasoned, soul-driven creators like we’re disposable—

They bleed credibility.
They burn bridges they’ll need when the trend train runs out of steam.
They send a loud message:
“We don’t know how to hold sacred voices.”

I have an associate’s degree in Legal Assisting. (Bachelor’s in Organizational Management & Development)
I’ve worked as a paralegal.
I know how crimes are defined.
I know what violence is.
I know what coercion looks like.
I know how manipulation can hide in plain sight. (See footnote)

Sexual and domestic violence are crimes.
But on these platforms, we are forced to water it down.

We can’t say “rape”—we have to say “non-consensual encounter.”
We can’t say “murder”—we have to say “unalive.”
We can’t say “gun”—we’re told to say “pew pew.”
And then they wonder why people are confused when a global superstar is on trial for coercive abuse and trafficking.

Some say, “I see no case.” And then proceed to talk recklessly while doing more silencing and harm. 
But we who know law and trauma see the writing on the wall.

People aren’t just uninformed—they’re being kept that way.
Watered-down “true crime” isn’t helping.
Algorithms aren’t helping.
Silencing Survivors definitely isn’t helping.

Average every day people ought to be fluent in truth. As parents, as jurors, as school and child care personnel. If nothing else, for personal and individual survival. 

And let’s be honest:
It’s not just that people can’t recognize crimes.
Some people don’t even realize they’re committing them.

So here’s what we can do:

We can do what women have always done. We can build our own—wherever you are-even if it starts small. (Don’t count this out, so called “small” efforts have saved lives)

• A blog.

• A newsletter.

• A podcast.

• A private community.

• A printable zine passed hand to hand.

• One stage play/movie/documentary

• A space where our voices don’t need to be “sanitized” to be heard.

Because when you can’t say the word “murder”—
When you can’t say “rape,” “abuse,” or “coercion”—
When you can’t speak truth on a platform—
That platform is not safe for truth.

And truth deserves sanctuary.

So build it.
One post.
One voice.
One bold, beautiful brick at a time.

They’ll tell you it’s too small.
They’ll say no one is listening.

But we know better.
We’ve survived worse.
And we don’t need their stage to stand tall.

We are building altars.
We are building archives.
We are building legacies that outlive the trend cycle.

Start your own.
Even if it’s small.
Because truth needs a home.
And it needs one now.

— WeSurviveAbuse.com

“If one somebody is doing it, you can too.”– My Auntie/ Back in the black and white photo day, she became a registered nurse while raising her four small girls.

**Note–I have no idea how this case will be decided. One never knows until the verdict is read. Either way, I do think that truth around violence and abuse is being intentionally silenced (as it always has been) and we are a lot less safe, healthy, and joyful because of it.