There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it. They call it “loyalty.”They call it “love.”They call it “the good
There are people who remember you in your survival state.
And they romanticize it.
They call it “loyalty.”
They call it “love.”
They call it “the good times.”
But what they’re really doing is grieving the version of you that didn’t know how hurt you were.
That version of you who tolerated the intolerable.
Who laughed to keep from crying.
Who kept showing up—even while breaking.
Let them grieve her.
Let them miss her.
But understand this:
She was never the full truth of you.
She was the version who endured.
She was the version who adapted.
She was the version who kept you alive when no one else protected you.
And now?
You’re not just surviving.
You’re listening to your spirit.
You’re building peace instead of bracing for chaos.
You’re protecting yourself the way no one else did.
So when they try to pull you back into old roles,
when they try to guilt-trip you with memories of the you that served their comfort—
Let your silence speak.
Let your boundaries hold.
Let your healing rise.
Because you don’t owe them access to the version of you that had to survive them.
That version did her job.
Now it’s your turn to live.
🔥 5 Campfire Affirmations for the Survivor Becoming Whole
I release the version of me that was built in pain—I honor her, but I do not return to her.
I am not responsible for comforting those who benefited from my self-abandonment.
Peace is my new pulse. I no longer need chaos to feel alive.
My growth may disappoint others, but it will never disappoint my soul.
The woman I am becoming is protected, loved, and unapologetically free.
