Boundaries

Content note: this post discusses strangulation, sexual violence, and domestic homicide. If it feels like everyone is suddenly talking about strangulation, it is not your imagination. Police departments are reporting …

If you are in danger right now, call 911. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788, 24 hours a day. If someone …

  updated from April 4 2025 Generation X was not ready for this story, but we needed it! Our Boomer parents were not ready either, but they most definitely needed …

updated from June 9, 2025 Please pay attention. If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary… That is …

When Men Expose Themselves to Girls: Why We Must Take This Form of Sexual Abuse Seriously Updated October 2026 | Originally published in 2023 A girl is walking home, waiting …

We cannot treat the freedom to consume something as automatically more important than the safety of people who may suffer from its production or normalization. The fans of strangulation in …

You don’t have to worry about who we women are—since you don’t seem to know—because we are not the people behind the violence. Men need not keep speaking publicly about …

 They were in the kitchen. It was a small, minor disagreement, but he was frustrated and didn’t like her tone. He hit her. She was shocked; there was blood. That’s …

If your vision of justice requires Black women to accept more danger, you have not finished thinking about justice. When Black women ask to be protected, we are not asking …

 updated from Sep 28, 2025  Survival is one type of strength. Healing is another. We heal the things we never should have had to survive in the first place.  Respect …