Boys

Many entertainers are protected in our culture. They are called “artists.” They are called “talented.” They are called “important.” So when they harm children, or support people who harm children, …

Let’s stop dancing around what everybody can feel but few want to say: Men are not suffering because women won’t let them cry.They are suffering because other men will not …

People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference. They say things like: “He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend.”“He wouldn’t do that.” As if attraction is a …

This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written. James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in Baltimore at the …

The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. A wealthy man is …

This is a tender area. Many people tense up the moment sexual violence and sexual orientation appear in the same conversation. The fear is understandable: historically, LGBTQ+ communities have endured …

Saying “Black woman” is not race discourse.It’s not divisive.It’s not inflammatory.It’s accuracy in the field of violence and abuse — a field that has avoided telling the truth for far …

  There are stories we rarely let breathe. The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — hurt, silenced, told to “man up,” told that pain was weakness, …

If the full extent of your “activism” against grooming is railing against age-gap relationships between older women and younger men, you might want to take another look at what you’re …

I’m not just speaking from a place of advocacy to victims. I’m speaking as a relative and friend who has had occasion to come alongside a male and aid him …