Disability and Chronic Illness

Why do some people need endless explanations before they’ll respect a reasonable boundary? You explain calmly, reassure them, and answer their questions. Yet somehow, you’re still defending the precaution while …

The Survival Lesson in Miss Evers’ Boys One of the hardest lessons we learn about human behavior is that people don’t have to seem evil to participate in something harmful. …

updated from September 24, 2025 Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or …

When you are a woman—an adult female human being who has overlapping disabilities that all intersect with being a woman—it gets extremely challenging to keep hearing your existence trivialized. I’m …

Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what …

You know, none of these problems are new. The problem has always been getting the funding to serve everyone who needs safety. When we talk about domestic violence, sexual assault, …

I did not arrive at female boundaries because I assumed every male was dangerous. I arrived there because I knew what society does to women and girls when the dangerous …

Some people try to control women by frightening us. Others discover they can control a room by humiliating us. Humiliation can look like “joking,” teasing, embarrassing you in public, exposing …

updated from January 2026 I’ve served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing …

  updated from March 23 2025 There is a familiar pattern in history. Women organize. Women speak. Women document harm. Women build shelters, create opportunities, change laws, and fight for …