updated for 2025There’s something we don’t always say out loud, but it matters deeply:The pain of the past doesn’t go away just because we bury it
updated for 2025
There’s something we don’t always say out loud, but it matters deeply:
The pain of the past doesn’t go away just because we bury it.
Healing asks us to be gentle and honest with ourselves. And sometimes, that means gently facing what we once had to hide just to survive.
Today, I want to talk softly—but truthfully—about the role secrets can play in our healing journeys, especially for those of us who have experienced trauma or abuse.
Why We Keep Secrets
First, let me say this with love:
If you’ve kept parts of your story hidden, I understand.
You may have done it to protect your heart.
To protect others.
To feel safe in a world that hasn’t always been safe for you.
That instinct is not weakness—it is survival.
But even so, secrets—especially the ones born from pain—can quietly weigh us down. What starts as a shield can become a burden. What we thought would keep us safe can sometimes keep us stuck.
When Secrets Become Heavy
When we carry unspoken truths, it’s common for shame and guilt to sneak in.
Shame whispers, “This happened to me because of who I am.”
Guilt whispers, “I should’ve done something differently.”
But neither of those voices speaks the truth.
The truth is:
Abuse is never the Survivor’s fault.
Trauma is never a reflection of someone’s worth.
And silence does not mean you are healed—it often just means you’re still holding it alone.
Light Grows in Honest Spaces
There is power in truth. Gentle power.
Not the kind that demands a spotlight, but the kind that invites healing into the room.
When you share your truth with someone safe—whether it’s a therapist, a trusted friend, or even a journal—you make room for light to enter.
You allow your heart to be witnessed.
You allow healing to begin.
You don’t have to share everything all at once.
You don’t even have to tell the whole story.
But when you’re ready, telling your truth in your way opens doors to freedom.
You Are Not Alone
You’re not the only one carrying something heavy. You’re not the only one who survived by staying silent.
And you don’t have to walk through healing alone anymore. There are people who will believe you, support you, and honor your journey with care.
Healing isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being real.
It’s about letting love and light meet you in the places you once kept hidden.
You are worthy of peace. You are worthy of being heard.
You deserve a life where your truth doesn’t have to be hidden to be respected.
And if no one has told you this lately:
I believe you. I honor your courage. I’m proud of your journey.
Take your time, beloved.
This world needs the whole, free, fully healed you.
And that begins with truth—spoken softly, bravely, and in your own time.
