Not every movement that says it stands for “justice” is safe for women and children. Some of them mean well. Some don’t.But too many of them are pr
Not every movement that says it stands for “justice” is safe for women and children.
Some of them mean well. Some don’t.
But too many of them are protecting abusers.
Here’s how:
They talk about forgiveness, but not safety.
They talk about second chances for abusers, but not survival for the people they harmed.
They push Survivors to “heal faster” instead of holding the abuser accountable.
They tell women and children to “let it go” while ignoring how the abuse changed everything.
They say “no one deserves prison” but forget some people are still in danger.
People are getting hurt—again.
And the worst part?
It’s being done in the name of “community.” In the name of “peace.”
But real peace never requires victims to suffer in silence.
Survivors already did the hard thing.
They spoke up. They got away. They told the truth.
Now they’re being told to “go along to get along”—again.
This is not justice.
Yes—there are children who hurt deeply when a parent goes to prison for a violent crime. That is real. That matters.
But violence against others cannot be tolerated.
Because what about the children of the harmed?
What about the children who now have a parent with lifelong injuries—mental, physical, emotional—or who lost their parent altogether?
They deserve safe, unharmed parents.
They deserve to grow up in homes where they don’t have to carry the trauma of someone else’s violence.
That was taken from them.
That wasn’t their choice.
And that matters, too.
Violence sends out ripples.
It disables people. It destroys families. It sparks new battles in bodies, in homes, and in whole communities.
Some folks don’t see it.
Others see it and look away.
But if you listen to survivors, really listen…
You’ll hear that they are being shamed, blamed, and erased.
All over again.
We need to ask better questions:
Who is this movement really protecting?
Who gets invited back in—and who gets pushed out?
What happens when the person who caused the harm still has power?
It’s okay to care about fairness for everyone.
But not if it means sacrificing women and children to get there.
Justice is not real if survivors have to stay quiet to keep the peace.
Justice is not real if survivors have to pretend it didn’t happen.
Survivors deserve more than that.
They deserve safety. Respect. Truth.
They deserve a world that doesn’t make them carry the weight of someone else’s choices.
We can do better.
We must do better.
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Written with love and protection for all Survivors. Especially those who are being silenced by people who say they stand for justice.
