Let’s tell the truth today. Sometimes when people say they “miss you,”what they’re really saying is:“I miss the version of you that didn’t know what
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you,”
what they’re really saying is:
“I miss the version of you that didn’t know what you know now.”
They don’t miss your presence.
They miss your permission.
They miss the you who kept quiet to keep the peace.
The you who made yourself small so they could feel big.
The you who confused survival with love.
The you who didn’t yet recognize a pattern when you saw one.
But now?
You’ve learned.
You’ve healed.
You’ve peeled back the layers of shame and silence and started telling the truth—even when your voice shakes.
You see the red flags before they’re waving.
You ask questions you used to bury.
You no longer feel guilty for needing safety, clarity, and respect.
And that version of you?
She doesn’t play the same role anymore.
So when they say “you’ve changed”…
Smile.
Nod.
Say: “Thank you. I worked hard for that.”
Because the most dangerous lie they ever told you
was that loyalty means losing yourself.
It doesn’t.
You are allowed to outgrow manipulation.
You are allowed to heal past their comfort zone.
You are allowed to be loyal to your own becoming.
They don’t miss you.
They miss the version of you that didn’t know your power.
And she’s not coming back.
