We Can Tell What Team You’re On

If you’re not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—
Then you need to say that.
And sound like it.
And act like it.

Because if your words, your silence, your policies, or your social media posts sound exactly like the men who harm,
If they echo the same talking points,
If they mock, minimize, silence, demean, or twist the truth just like abusers do,
Then we have every reason to believe you’re on that team.

We don’t have the luxury of guessing anymore.
Survivors are paying with their lives.
Children are being sacrificed to systems that protect predators.
Communities are crumbling under the weight of abuse that no one wants to call out.

If you believe we don’t deserve:

• Safe spaces

• Safe homes

• Safe relationships

• Safe children

• Safe lives…

If your words tell us our safety isn’t a right—but their “freedom” to harm is sacred…

Then we know what side you’ve chosen.
And it’s not ours.

That may not be your intention.
But Survivors don’t always get the luxury of knowing the difference.
All we see is who shows up when it matters.
All we hear is who gets protected—again.

If we hear:

• “Why did she wait so long to speak?”

• “Are we sure it was really abuse?”

• “Well, he deserves to move on too…”
  Then it sounds a lot like the old script that’s been used to excuse harm for generations.\

And that script?
It has never protected Survivors.
It has only ever protected abusers.

We all fall short sometimes.
We all absorb messages we were never meant to carry.
But now that we know, we can change.

So ask yourself:
Who does my voice defend?
Whose safety do my words prioritize?
Do I want to live in a world where Survivors are safe, heard, and free?

Because if you do—
It’s never too late to speak up, stand up, and switch sides.
The right side is always waiting.

Choose your side.
Speak like it.
Live like it.
Stand like it.

Because we already know how the other side speaks.
And they’re doing just fine without your backup.