A post for the Survivor who’s outgrowing relationships built on their silence, sacrifice, and self-erasure There’s a version of you they liked bett
A post for the Survivor who’s outgrowing relationships built on their silence, sacrifice, and self-erasure
There’s a version of you they liked better.
The one who didn’t speak up.
The one who apologized first—every time.
The one who bent, folded, and made herself small to keep the peace.
The one who tolerated their disrespect
because you hadn’t yet remembered who you are.
But healing doesn’t just mend what was broken.
It reshapes you.
And sometimes, the people who said they loved you
only loved the version of you who didn’t know how to say no.
⚠️ What They Call “Changing” Might Actually Be You Coming Back to Life
You’re not too much now—you were too quiet then.
You’re not cold—you’ve just stopped pouring warmth into cold hands.
You’re not dramatic—you’ve stopped burying the drama they caused.
You’re not bitter—you’re just done shrinking.
🧠 Healing Doesn’t Just Repair. It Reveals.
It shows you:
Who never truly saw you.
Who was only there for your silence.
Who benefited from your self-abandonment.
And when you begin to rise,
they may accuse you of being distant, selfish, or “not the same.”
That’s okay.
You were never meant to stay where you weren’t safe.
🌿 Affirmations for Survivors Outgrowing Who They Had to Be:
🟣 I am allowed to change—even if it makes others uncomfortable.
🟣 I will not apologize for valuing my peace.
🟣 The version of me who tolerated mistreatment deserved better, too.
🟣 I am not obligated to shrink back to keep anyone’s comfort intact.
🟣 Healing is not betrayal. It’s becoming.
Share if you feel safe and ready—your voice might be the lifeline someone else needs.
And if you do share, remember to cite the messenger. Words carry legacy.
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