You Don’t Owe Closure to Danger

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(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries)

Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience.

If someone has you questioning whether it’s safe to have a final “closure” conversation—skip it.
Let them call it “ghosting.”
Let them call it “immature.”
Let them misunderstand you.

Your safety is more important than their opinion.

Closure is a privilege—not an obligation.
You don’t have to walk back into fire just to prove you’re brave.
You don’t have to hand someone the last word just because society romanticizes it.

Some doors stay closed because you finally decided to lock them.
And that is wisdom. That is healing. That is survival.

Because without safety, you can’t build peace.
Without safety, you can’t focus, rest, or grow.
Without safety, you can’t do anything else in life.

So if your gut says: Don’t go back there,
Honor it.
If your spirit says: No more,
Listen to it.

They don’t get to write your story.
You do.

Always keep in mind that we still live in societies that center male feelings and not female safety. 

🔒 Affirmations for When You Walk Away Without Closure

(For when they don’t understand, and you no longer need them to)

1. My safety matters more than anyone’s misunderstanding of my choices.

2. I do not have to reopen a door just to prove I can close it.

3. Walking away without a final word is still healing.

4. It is not my job to soften the consequences of someone else’s harm.

5. If the goodbye would cost me peace, then silence is the closure.

6. I choose safety, even when others call it “ghosting.”

7. I don’t need to be palatable to be worthy of protection.

8. I don’t need their permission to protect myself.

9. Peace is not passive—it’s a decision I make daily.

10. I trust myself to know when a conversation is too dangerous to have.

11. I will not guilt myself for surviving.

12. What they call “immature,” I call sacred self-protection.

13. I do not owe healing to the one who harmed me.

14. I release the pressure to be the “bigger person” when it means putting myself in harm’s way.

15. My exit is holy. My boundary is enough. My silence is wisdom.